Anyone else not bothered about seeing family?

[Lostatsea1988]

I am not asking anyone to agree or disagree with me, or I'd have put this in AIBU, I'm just genuinely curious.

I get on very well with all my family and in particular my parents. We still holiday together sometimes and speak often (daily on WA, regularly by phone). I live with my husband overseas. Obviously we are not going to see our families this year at Christmas and we've known that for months.

I just can't get that worked up about it! Quite happy with sending gifts in the post and video calling on the day! I am bemused by all the fuss and hand wringing and the UK govt's willingness to accept more deaths just so people can eat a turkey together!

Does anyone else feel the same? Don't get me wrong I love Christmas and will be spending the day soaked in champagne with new jammies on, feasting, watching home alone and blasting Mariah like a 'normal' person but I don't feel this insatiable yearning to do those things in the physical company of extended family!

Does anyone else feel the same? Disclaimer: I'm talking about people who have good relationships with extended family and people who have a partner or children to spend the day with. Not people who will be alone - flowers for you.

I feel very lucky that I have my dh and dds, and am happy that this Christmas it will be just us.
I have friends who are going to be alone for Christmas and I know they are going to find it very hard.
My dh is ok with not seeing his family, his dad has been very careful all year, and wants to stay home.
We have shielded ds for most if the year, so it would seem crazy to get together with people now.
My mum who lived down the road died in June, and it is going to be very hard that she won't be with us.
My sister lives abroad and normally flies over for Christmas, but we couldn't even get together when our mum died, so although we feel sad about not being able to be together - we are pretty ok with the idea that when we can get together it will be amazing.

I suppose we’re all different, aren’t we? I couldn’t give a monkeys about champagne, Home Alone, dancing to Mariah or ‘new jammies’, but I very, very much miss spending time with my family. (And no I won’t see them at Christmas.)

You feel however you feel. It isn’t very nice to write off other people’s need for connection and socialisation and time with their loved ones as ‘fuss and hand wringing’ though.

I think there are families who have always lived in the same town or within a short drive and it is unfathomable to them that you wouldn't see your family at least once a week. Those who have moved away and lived their own separate lives, vparticularlt if you've had a period of living abroad, have a different perspective.

My father was in the services and we never lived near grandparents and rarely had Christmas with them. It feels more normal to me to have a Christmas just our little family of 4, and we're all looking forward to a much more fuss free day. So long as I know I'll see my parents at sometime, we make the most of any time together, and make any gathering celebratory, whatever the time of year.

I agree with you. I won't be seeing anyone but my children over Christmas as the thought of how horrible the traffic and public transport is going to be makes me shudder. It's going to be absolutely horrific on the motorways unless you leave in the early hours and there's no extra public transport planned. No thanks!