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Is anyone else feeling like COVID is circling them like a vulture?

100 replies

Yellownotblue · 13/12/2020 23:44

We’ve been extremely careful throughout. Obeying rules. Doing lockdown. Wearing masks, even outdoors. Isolating when pinged by NHS app even when it made no sense.

But in the last week, we’ve had lots of close contacts who tested positives. DC’s classmates, then school bus driver, then my walking buddy. It feels like the circle is tightening around us, and it’s just a matter of time before we get sick.

I’m finding this very stressful as DH is abroad for work for several months. We have no relatives here. So if I get sick I’m completely on my own with DCs. They’re not tiny, but they are too young to look after themselves.

I know it’s not entirely rational but I’m very anxious about it. It’s almost like the tension you get from a horror movie. Every new WhatsApp from friends telling us they got the virus, is like a turning of the screw. It’s like the soundtrack to my life is ominous double bass, playing the Jaws theme.

Am I alone feeling like this?

OP posts:
DougRossIsTheBoss · 14/12/2020 17:56

I am wondering if this new strain they've announced is relevant

I am shocked how it's ripped through a ward and a community team at our hospital even when people concerned were on opposite shifts and definitely didn't have close contact. They seemed to be emphasising surface transmission less lately but maybe it is that. I really don't get it and am much more scared than I was when I thought I did understand and was taking steps.

It's uncontrollable, unquantifiable risk that is always the most scary.

HMSBeagle · 14/12/2020 18:07

I sometimes feel like this on and off. I felt like it when my birth town went into tier three, but my mate who still lives there pointed out it's still only 6 per 1000 currently infected or .6 in 100. That always calms me down.

Getting it at some point seems inevitable and I have felt for the last six months it will either kill me now or kill me next year if I am someone who its fatal for.

Morbid maybe but stops any cripling fear. This is a marathon and if i am not going to die from.it I have to function I feel.

It's a bit like when I was pregnant with a history of pre eclampsia and pre term baby. One month at a time. Cant think to far ahead as you just need to get to get the end of week, end of the month.

SpnBaby1967 · 14/12/2020 18:44

Nope.

If I get it I get it, and if I dont I dont. What use is worrying? It's a virus, they transmit easily, that's what viruses do.

I teach a bunch of kids every week ranging from primary through to college age and unlike many folk on here I dont see them as walking germ bombs.

I sanitise, I wash my hands, i wear the stupid mask and I wfh. If, after all that covid gets me....oh well.....

Plus, even in my tier 3 area I only know one person who caught it and he caught it at the beginning. Over weight 52 year old and barely broke a sweat with it.

Not one kid in our primary school has caught it, and only 2 teachers (700 students), and across our two secondary campuses (so in excess of 3000 students between them) have had less than 50 cases.

Covid really isnt hiding around every corner you know

Northernsoulgirl45 · 15/12/2020 01:27

I hear you op. We are in an area with rising cases. We are being careful as DH is ECV but it is now running through the Secondary school the kids attend. DD1 is self isolating for the second time.

ElephantWhaleRabbit · 15/12/2020 02:16

Not at all. I live in an area of falling cases, but if I get it, I get it. C’est la vie.

TheSunIsStillShining · 15/12/2020 02:58

You don't have relatives, but you have friends. We have neither. If we get hospitalized teen is all on his own with literally nobody to call on. Somewhat scary.
So, yeah, I can understand your worry.

TheSunIsStillShining · 15/12/2020 02:59

To be fair, it is one of the reasons we didn't send kid back to school in sept. and won't in jan either.

HelloDaisy · 15/12/2020 03:19

I too have a increasing feeling of anxiety about it.

I was quite calm during the first lockdown but it was sunny and the dc were at home. Now they are at school I worry that they will pick it up there and bring it home. Dh has been shielding which doesn’t mix well with kids going to school.

Until the last few weeks I didn’t know anybody who had had it except for 2 friends who are doctors working in hospitals but suddenly I know lots of people. Ds is not feeling right this week so we are now waiting for his test results to come back which is why I am awake now and feeling sick.

It’s the lack of control I have on the situation I think that’s causing my anxiety and it does indeed feel as though the vultures are circling....

ConfusedcomMum · 15/12/2020 03:24

We've got it but as a few PP have said, it's best to prepare for it just in case. I'm so so glad that we did as although we have it 'mildly', my DH and I have zero energy right now but the kids have had simple meals and enough activities/snacks to keep them occupied. Plus we had all the medicines we needed to hand, thermometer, oximeter etc for daily checks. I've even got bottles of bleach and disinfectant in my loft for the big clean up operation afterwards.

WanderingFruitWonderer · 15/12/2020 04:13

I'm a constant ball of guilt. Confronted constantly by difficult moral dilemmas, re Covid, and never sure if I've made the right choice. It's a kind of agony.
Where I live had one of the lowest infection rates in the country, until the last few days, and it's suddenly dramatically risen. So, I'm now incredibly anxious. Many people I know are very lax about the guidelines, and it terrifies me. It's hard when you're doing your all to not catch Covid, or pass it on. But many people around you don't appear bothered. It makes me intensely anxious. Not to mention helpless.
I have to say though that I'm a very guilt-prone worrier anyway. It's just compounded at the moment Sad

inquietant · 15/12/2020 06:06

Sorry for all the people worrying. Its made worse because the government is leaving us all to catch it. How I wish the PM was worrying just a little, the selfish, lazy article!

megletthesecond · 15/12/2020 06:18

Yes! A few pupils in DS's year 9 group have had positive results and self isolated. Who knows what DD's friends are up to, she thinks a friend has it and is at home (her mum, dad and brother have it) but none of her school contacts have been told to to isolate. I swear it'll pop up in that friendship group.

I won't be able to relax until after xmas. Once the dc's have been out of school for a week the risk is going to reduce for a few days until they return.

Shingleballs · 15/12/2020 08:19

My DH is coming to the end of it after testing positive last week, both his mother and niece are positive, my dc close friends, both our next door neighbours, 2 colleagues of mine and half of DH’s and so on and so on.
I’m amazed that me and my dc haven’t had it yet. All of the above we come into close contact with each day.

Planet42 · 15/12/2020 10:51

@ConfusedcomMum we had all that stuff too. Thank goodness we did as we noticed every change and when dh’s numbers started to get worse, we called the gp who put him on antibiotics for a secondary infection.
He’s recovering well now.

ConfusedcomMum · 15/12/2020 11:06

@Planet42 yes same, DH suffered the most and is on antibiotics too. He got into cycling and running two years ago and used to be overweight. I'm so glad he'd lost all that weight before this pandemic started. I've got a steam mop being delivered today to blitz upholstery and the carpets, just want to destroy every last trace now! Wishing you all and other sufferers here a speedy recovery Flowers.

SomewhereEast · 15/12/2020 11:50

@inquietant

Sorry for all the people worrying. Its made worse because the government is leaving us all to catch it. How I wish the PM was worrying just a little, the selfish, lazy article!
We've had two lockdowns, one extremely prolonged, and nine months of highly intrusive & expensive restrictions. Most of the population is now in Tier 3, which is pretty much lockdown. We've spent sums unprecedented outside the two world wars. We've followed a similar trajectory in terms of restrictions to other major European countries. And on and on and on....I don't like the Tories and never voted for them, but thats just nonsense.
loulouljh · 15/12/2020 11:53

Nope. I suspect alot of people have already had it without even knowing it. For most it is a non event. You have to keep perspective which is very hard with the constant fearmongering, doom laden media coverage which is all prevalent at the minute.

littleowl1 · 15/12/2020 12:04

I run www.covidmessenger.com and I keep an eye on the preliminary cases data they release each day.

My neighbouring council is about to roughly double in cases over the coming two days. It's horrible and scary. I am just hoping that its a isolated (and contained) outbreak and not a trend.

DougRossIsTheBoss · 15/12/2020 12:21

Now that I definitely have it I think I feel a bit less bad mentally than when I was just afraid of having it.

Physically I do not feel good. I certainly know I have it. I feel absolutely wiped out, aching all over, splitting head, a bit breathless if I do anything. It's the most unwell I've felt in years. Nowhere near hospital bad but just properly need to stay in bed ill.

Mentally though I feel like the worst has happened so I can stop worrying.

HairyFloppins · 15/12/2020 12:28

I feel similar to you DougRoss. I have worried all year since January about this bloody virus. I have done everything possible to avoid catching it. Hardly leaving the house. Yet we all got it last week.

Hope you feel better soon.

TheDailyCarbuncle · 15/12/2020 12:32

It amazes me that people expected never to get it. How would that even be possible??

DougRossIsTheBoss · 15/12/2020 12:39

At the outset I assumed I would get it and would take my chances.

But then the months went on and I didn't get it and nor did anyone I know so I started to think we would get away with it. Vaccine is nearly here after all.

And now we haven't
Really frustrating. Like falling at the final hurdle.

Changi · 15/12/2020 12:42

It amazes me that people expected never to get it. How would that even be possible??

A good proportion of the population will never get it.

TheDailyCarbuncle · 15/12/2020 12:52

@Changi

It amazes me that people expected never to get it. How would that even be possible??

A good proportion of the population will never get it.

True. But some people seem to expect to be guaranteed not to get it, when it's just a matter of luck unless you want to lock yourself away indefinitely.
flumposie · 15/12/2020 15:43

I'm a secondary school teacher. 5 out of my 6 classes have had positive cases and the majority of pupils in the class sent home to isolate. Definitely circling me.

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