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Ex visiting Xmas day

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Ilovecoffeeandcake · 13/12/2020 23:33

My DD's father wants to come to my house to see her on Xmas day. He's a nasty piece of work and he has only ever seen her supervised. He's never asked if its ok to come over Xmas day, he just tells me he is coming to see her and to keep the peace I have always let him.
Since Covid we have only met him outdoors but on Xmas day he wants to come to my house, but I really don't want him to. Every word that comes out of his mouth is a lie and I do not believe for one second that he has obeyed any of the rules and certainly not social distancing. I haven't let anyone in my house except my parents as they are my bubble and I'm worrying myself sick about this.
Has anyone got any ideas or solutions?

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Mindymomo · 14/12/2020 08:33

Are you seeing any other family members over Christmas. If so tell him that you don’t want him in your house, for their safety, but you are happy to go on a walk with DD and him. If he is only allowed supervised visits, then he should stick to this.

Ilovecoffeeandcake · 14/12/2020 10:08

Its supervised because he's never asked to see DD on her own, he's never asked to take her out, he's never suggested doing anything with her or where to take her. DD doesn't want to see him on her own, I do ask her but she says no. Visits are rubbish because he barely speaks to her.
He thinks I am out of order not letting him in the house and has told me he is allowed and always has been according to guidelines! He said this by text. I didn't bother replying, its not worth getting into an argument with him because he starts spouting lies.

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TheQueensGambit · 14/12/2020 10:17

Even if he is allowed to by guidelines, it is your house. There is no law which says you have to let him in!

Chasingsquirrels · 14/12/2020 10:20

"No"

(Or "fuck off", whichever you prefer).

Your house, your decision as to whether you let someone (anyone) come in.

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 14/12/2020 10:22

Tell him you have a cough...
And lock the door.

Ilovecoffeeandcake · 14/12/2020 20:49

lol thank you all xx

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