Christmas with newborn + Family

Mindymomo · 12/12/2020 19:14

If you are at all concerned, then just don’t have people round. We are not seeing anyone as we feel it’s just not worth the risk for a few days, all our family feel the same. I understand people will want to see your baby, but if you’re not happy, you have to tell them. Are they nearby, could you meet up for an outside walk.

Helenj1977 · 12/12/2020 19:36

Don't do it. If I had a little baby I wouldn't.

There will always be next Christmas x

OverTheRainbow88 · 12/12/2020 19:38

Are they local enough to do outdoor meet ups; so a nice walk or something.

LadyLovelyLockz · 12/12/2020 19:42

I definitely wouldn't. It would be a really hard decision but ultimately the right one. Maybe a walk, but definitely not all round my house, sorry.

MaryShelley1818 · 12/12/2020 19:52

We have a 3year old and I'll be 33wks pregnant. We won't be seeing family over Christmas as it's just not worth the risk.
If I had a newborn I certainly wouldn't be risking it either.

Mousehole10 · 12/12/2020 21:15

In your position I wouldn’t do it. Your baby won’t even have had the first set of injections yet, immune system very immature. When my baby was a newborn in summer we were very careful and rates were much lower then, I wouldn’t have risked her at Christmas so young.

ViciousJackdaw · 12/12/2020 22:16

This is all about other peoples wants. Family seeing DS won't benefit him in any way and could even be risky. DS needs come first, he is a person in his own right, not a dolly for other people's entertainment. If you think his needs are best met by having no visitors then YANBU.

LH1987 · 12/12/2020 22:21

Do what you think is best for the baby. If you don’t want to meet anyone then absolutely don’t and have a great day just the three of you! We have a 6 month old and will be staying in with just us this year.

LizzieSiddal · 12/12/2020 22:42

It’s just not worth the risk. The virus doesn’t know it’s Xmas and I think your family are being really irresponsible if they think they should all crowd into a house and meet a tiny baby.

I’d meet them outside for a walk and that would be it.

Sertchgi123 · 12/12/2020 22:48

@Christmasconfusion123

DS will be just about 5 weeks old on Christmas Day. Family are all looking forward to meeting him and spending the day together. My partner and I are concerned as some of the family that will be attending include 3 different school workers/attenders, a returning University student and a recovering covid positive person (still has cough and is tired, positive test was just over 3 weeks ago)

We are not sure what to do, everyone excited about Christmas and meeting DS but as his parents we are concerned about the safety of him and ourselves. We just want to keep him as safe as possible but we don't want anyone upset with us over this when we feel like staying away is best for us.

Has anyone got any suggestions on if they are in a similar situation and what their plans are?

My suggestion is to prioritise your baby’s health and have a quiet Christmas with just the three of you. Make that choice and stick to it. Congratulations on the birth of your baby 👶🎉

CovidPostingName · 13/12/2020 08:12

Honestly, with a five week old tiny baby I wouldn't be setting anyone at all. No way. And that mix of people sounds like a lot - is it truly an exclusive 3 household bubble with none of you seeing anyone else other than each other for the whole 5 day period? Really? If not there's no way I'd be going, much less hosting.

MindyStClaire · 13/12/2020 08:29

A big bustling Christmas with a five week old sounds like a nightmare, especially if you're breastfeeding - who wants company when you're cluster feeding and exhausted.

Having said that, babies are about as low risk as it gets for covid. We had a baby over the summer and were happy for family to meet her, and have been ever since although we've stuck to the restrictions for the general population.

I'd see grandparents and no one else. If there's a big family gathering at another house you could pop in and then go home to collapse on the sofa.

DianaT1969 · 13/12/2020 08:35

If I were you, I'd meet them for a Christmas Day walk. Perhaps see grandparents briefly in their garden a day before Christmas. Why risk it? You can have family get togethers anytime.

BikeRunSki · 13/12/2020 08:37

The newborn alone would put me off visitors!!

Do yiu family feel comfortable coming? I have 2 school age children, and we are deliberately not seeing anyone, even though I hadn’t seen DM since July. She’s single and has barely seen a soul this year.

Sally872 · 13/12/2020 08:47

Are you hosting? If not perhaps arrange to come for 20-30 mins to let family meet baby (ideally in garden, also baby stays wrapped up in pram due to cold) but don't stay for hours indoors.

Also have grandparents met baby? Even for a walk or doorstep visit? If not maybe prioritise that before Christmas.

Plenty of video calls and pictures too. Make it clear you aren't looking to exclude anyone and look forward to having normal visiting again. Comments like "this is not what I imagined babies first weeks to be, I wish you all could be visiting and holding baby but just have to be so careful"

MindyStClaire · 13/12/2020 12:07

Plenty of video calls and pictures too. Make it clear you aren't looking to exclude anyone and look forward to having normal visiting again. Comments like "this is not what I imagined babies first weeks to be, I wish you all could be visiting and holding baby but just have to be so careful"

This is excellent advice.