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Anyone else disappointed Christmas is NOT cancelled?

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disneydatknee · 09/12/2020 22:37

2 points I want to cover here. Firstly, when the 2nd lockdown came into play across the UK we kind of resigned ourselves to the fact we wouldn't be able to spend christmas with our extended families. We were actually relieved to not have to commit to any plans and just spend christmas with my husband and children. Secondly, covid doesnt just take a holiday. I'm not convinced it's such a good idea to mix with other families over the course of 5 days for the sake of saving christmas. My parents are putting the pressure on for us to visit on boxing day now that restrictions have been lifted. I was kind of looking forward to a quiet christmas this year just us and the children. Anyone else not keen on it being a "normal" christmas this year? I know it's a selfish opinion before anyone points that out. Shit. This has been a strange year!

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Denthelp · 09/12/2020 22:48

No. I’m looking forward to Christmas and am glad they are relaxing the rules for it so those that wish to can spent it with their families.

Those that don’t can of course just say no.

2anddone · 09/12/2020 22:53

I think it would have been easier in some ways to either say you have to only celebrate Christmas with your own household or there are no restrictions celebrate it with whoever you want.
The restrictions of having 3 families bubbled for the period and not being allowed to see anyone else is causing a lot of stress to some. I am lucky I have my parents and best friend, however if I had still been with xh I would have had to choose between my parents, his parents, siblings, friends etc

madcatladyforever · 09/12/2020 22:54

Yes I'm very disappointed, the selfish people who travel all over the country to see everyone are going to cause hundreds of new deaths and a further lockdown in January that will destroy the small businesses still left.
But so long as you enjoy christmas that's all that matters right?
I'm traumatised this year after a watching so many people die and see how many families are devastated, I'm thinking of retiring from the NHS a couple of years early when this is all over to preserve my sanity.
People are selfish arses and for the ost part I want nothing to do with them.

herecomesthsun · 09/12/2020 22:59

well as someone CEV, I am rather fearful of January. If they are encouraging everyone to get together over Christmas then they should allow CEV families the option to have Christmas off school (that would be good for a petition actually)

Denthelp · 09/12/2020 23:02

@herecomesthsun what is CEV?

SophieH83 · 09/12/2020 23:03

This is peak mumsnet coronavirus section

Denthelp · 09/12/2020 23:03

@herecomesthsun ignore that. I’ve worked it out

MercyBooth · 09/12/2020 23:05

@madcatladyforever why havent you mentioned those who will travel abroad.

TheSilveryPussycat · 09/12/2020 23:10

I'm pretty sure there are a fair few women who were hoping to enjoy Christmas Day without having to cook for and host lots of people. Women who would like to spend a more leisured day, and see the kids playing with their presents rather than have to be in the kitchen.

But actually saying so is taboo...

olderthanyouthink · 09/12/2020 23:11

Kinda, might have been nice to have a Christmas just us without the expectation that we'd either have to travel or entertain and do a certain amount of putting up with people.

Also there's a milestone birthday in the period and the bubble of 3 is looking more like 9 maybe...and I feel bad for not wanting to do that

housemdwaswrong · 09/12/2020 23:21

No I'm not at all. I'd be devastated. It's been a tough year for me personally (no I know not just me), and we are going to see family. The relevant people are isolating for 2 weeks beforehand, and coming to see me. Grandparents will be able to see their grandchildren, and we can all have lunch together. We need it. 1 family coming over Christmas day, another boxing day. So only ever 2 failures and all having isolated.

The problem will be people that don't isolate etc, but this was always going to happen regardless of legislation. We don't see any police here ever, they're not going to police covid laws on the day, so the guidance would make naff all difference anyway. Those that follow it are probably already being sensible as we are, and those that don't would ignore it anyway as they have been doing. This way at least I get to see family safely, instead of another difficult day.

I worry about January too, but realistically people that are dicks will be dicks regardless and the cases will rise whatever.

I understand your sentiment though.

Delatron · 09/12/2020 23:23

Yes @TheSilveryPussycat that’s the conversation I’m having with lots of friends at the moment.
Potentially a day off all the cooking and hosting!

Would love to sit around in my pjs, eat chocolate and maybe go for a walk.

justgeton · 09/12/2020 23:25

@madcatladyforever

Yes I'm very disappointed, the selfish people who travel all over the country to see everyone are going to cause hundreds of new deaths and a further lockdown in January that will destroy the small businesses still left. But so long as you enjoy christmas that's all that matters right? I'm traumatised this year after a watching so many people die and see how many families are devastated, I'm thinking of retiring from the NHS a couple of years early when this is all over to preserve my sanity. People are selfish arses and for the ost part I want nothing to do with them.

I completely agree with you.

BefuddledPerson · 09/12/2020 23:34

I am very worried about seeing more deaths in January. The government really should have extended school holidays, both before and after, to limit the impact.

Hardbackwriter · 09/12/2020 23:35

@TheSilveryPussycat

But actually saying so is taboo...

Maybe those women should get a backbone and express their own preferences rather than waiting for a pandemic to do it for them?!

I think the hypocrisy of the OP is horrible - 'oh I'm so worried about spread, Covid doesn't take a holiday - oh, and it'd actually be much more convenient for me not to see people anyway.' Don't pretend that you're taking some sort of moral high ground here!

Tenyearsgone · 09/12/2020 23:39

I have grown up children. I want to see them at christmas, so I can spend christmas with my children too.

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disneydatknee · 09/12/2020 23:44

@hardbackwriter my mum works in a hospital, in a different part of the country to me and I have chronic asthma. Yeh its convenient for me to not have to mix with family at Christmas but also...I would rather not die because bojo thinks covid takes a holiday.

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TheGreatWave · 09/12/2020 23:45

Oh feck off (not you op), yes I will be travelling to see family, family I haven't seen since July, some family I still won't see having last seen them last Christmas.

It still isn't a normal Christmas, I am trying to salvage what little bit I can.

Bushola · 09/12/2020 23:47

@SophieH83

This is peak mumsnet coronavirus section

You’re right.

I’d love to see what miserable lives people who want Christmas cancelled live.

Those that don’t want to do the big Christmas thing can do just that

TheGreatWave · 09/12/2020 23:50

Oh we fecking know covid "doesn't take a holiday" been told enough times on here.

Bikingbear · 09/12/2020 23:52

Some people are struggling mentally with the isolation.
Christmas can be a very tough time for people, particularly those who have suffered losses in recent years. Having other family and friends around can help take the edge of the heartache that people are suffering.
There are more killers than just covid.

It would be interesting to know the suicide stats for 2020 compared to previous years.

GoldenOmber · 09/12/2020 23:54

Maybe those women should get a backbone and express their own preferences rather than waiting for a pandemic to do it for them?!

Well, indeed. It’s really quite eye-opening to see how passive some people are about their lives. “Lockdown has been great, I’ve really enjoyed not going to parties and rushing about to social engagements all the time.” You can just say ‘no’! You don’t need the government to make it illegal!

dottiedaisee · 10/12/2020 00:04

I definitely think that people need to understand that Covid is not taking a holiday for five days over Christmas...use your own common sense and risk assessment...we as a family are definitely not encouraging our elderly relative who is 86 to come here for Christmas Day ...son working temporarily in an Amazon warehouse, other son at Uni ..MIL shall spend the day with another elderly friend!

PickAChew · 10/12/2020 00:11

Well we have bubbled with my elderly parents. Ds2 has a tiny school bubble, dh and I only go out for the odd bit of shopping and Ds1 barely leaves the house. My parents only go out for the odd it of shopping, so are happy to bubble with us and looking forward to it. I've only seen them once this year and the boys are both autistic and struggling.

People who do take the piss would have done regardless of the rules.

Torvean32 · 10/12/2020 02:20

Im travelling over Christmas, i live alone and will only be seeing 1 relative. Both in low tier areas and will follow restrictions.
I've not seen my family all year. So I'm going and that's not selfish.
I bet when travel wasn't encouraged at summer and october plenty went on holiday.

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