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I am utterly depressed with this situation

57 replies

inuet · 06/12/2020 22:33

It feels like we have all just been robbed of 9 months and God knows when a proper life will come back. There aren't words for how much I hate this miserable apology for a life.

OP posts:
Friendsoftheearth · 07/12/2020 06:12

Artists exhibitions are going ahead in many cities for new culture experiences, as are theatres and shows this christmas

Look to the summer, and plan how you will enjoy your summer

Meet up with your friends outside for a winter picnic with wine

Continue to socialise in whatever way you can

This year is almost over, next year will be better. Vaccine is being rolled out today. We are turning the last corner, stick with it - we are nearly there.

userxx · 07/12/2020 06:34

Everyone is in the same boat

I disagree completely. I've never known a situation where some people have flourished so much and some people have been burnt out.

SnuggyBuggy · 07/12/2020 06:44

I feel the same way and feel especially angry for the year my DD has lost from her childhood that she won't ever get back.

Friendsoftheearth · 07/12/2020 06:44

The biggest divides seems to be the following:

Introverts 'enjoying' the lockdown, extroverts suffering terribly

Those that are baking and decorating on furlough, while the rest of us worked all the way through and are now exhausted beyond belief.

SillyOldMummy · 07/12/2020 06:54

@Friendsoftheearth, l think imagining all the smug furloughed introverts having a lovely time probably makes things seem worse. Even the introverts, have found 2020 challenging - introverts still catch covid and have missed out on exercise and proper medical treatment for other conditions, they still miss seeing their families and friends, they are still sad when they can't go on holiday or go to funerals or weddings, and they still worry about losing their jobs and their children's education.

I think the occasional good old fashioned moan to let it all out of your system is no bad thing. Then you have to actively decide to stop letting it get to you, and do one positive thing each day to try and get you through the endless funk of a covid winter.

Itshissister · 07/12/2020 06:55

I get excited to go to work.

Things must be bad Confused

GlacindaTheTroll · 07/12/2020 06:57

@MostDisputesDieAndNoOneShoots

It’s a Sunday. Everything feels worse on a Sunday. Chin up, I know how you’re feeling but try and count your blessings where you can and be kind to yourself.
it's the long dark teatime of the soul
SnuggyBuggy · 07/12/2020 07:04

I am an introvert and I've still hated lockdown. Our restrictions have been so strict its felt like lockdown for months on end. I haven't seen my family or distance friends in ages and all I can do with my child are trips to the park. Everything is worse.

userxx · 07/12/2020 07:04

@Friendsoftheearth Total divide. This year has kicked my arse, I feel like I've aged 10 years and if one more person sends me photos of their new summer house I will scream.

Chrimboo · 07/12/2020 07:05

I feel the same.
I’m working from home on reduced hours and I’m craving actual human contact.
My motivation for everything is very low. At this rate I’m going to lose my job to add in the mix. (It may happen anyway, regardless of me).
My home has slipped too.
How does everyone keep going? To start with I was still throwing back the curtains every morning, showering, clean proper clothes etc.
Now I’m living in loungewear as I’m not going anywhere anyway and I’m just tying my hair back.

yearinyearout · 07/12/2020 07:12

I'm meeting friends as often as possible outside. Having a dog helps, I'm arranging to meet different people for dog walks.

Is there any option to get away for a few days OP? Or are you in tier three? I know it's cold and lots of things aren't open as normal but a change of scenery can do wonders.

userxx · 07/12/2020 07:12

@Chrimboo A fuck load of discipline is required!! I've not mastered it myself, 2020 is the year I've let myself slip 🙈

Lemons1571 · 07/12/2020 07:19

It makes me feel better when I actually read the guidance and law, and see how many exemptions there are, DC’s loopholes I suppose. It’s possible to do a lot of things, mostly the weather holding us back at the moment. A couple of weeks it’ll be the shortest day then the evenings will gradually start getting lighter. And if you’re in the uk, the vaccine is coming....

Chrimboo · 07/12/2020 07:29

@userxx yes exactly! Mine has totally slipped too. You start to question what the point of it all is though.

Maze76 · 07/12/2020 07:37

I cannot and will not allow this situation to defeat me. 2019 sucked , IVF, miscarriage, coming to terms with my husbands affair. 2019... I couldn’t wait for it to end!.,, Then 2020 arrived and left 2019 holding its beer! This year sucks big time! Losses.. that’s 2020s theme.. but we can’t let it defeat us or break us, half of the battle isn’t physical, it’s psychological. As much as I have my moments when I sit and think I must have been a complete bitch in my past life, I count my blessings. Luckily for me I haven’t lost my job, marriage may be over, health wise I’m on shakeup ground, but I’m still here. There are no bombs dropping out of the sky and I have food on my table and a family whom I love. Life will get better - we just have to hang on.

southeastdweller · 07/12/2020 07:57

I feel similarly. There is precious little joy now in my life and it feels very unjust. 'Robbed' is such a great word to describe it, knowing you'll never get that time back again Sad.

carlaCox · 07/12/2020 08:05

Completely agree that we are not all in the same boat.

I moved to a new area last year and don't really know anyone. All of my friends and family live in the same place which is a 3 hour drive away. Fortunately I live with my partner, not on my own, but I'm in tier 3 and work from home. The last time I saw any friends or family was September. I've basically got 5 days over Christmas and then back to social isolation again. My mental health is normally great, I think of myself as a very resilient person, but I don't know how much longer I can do this for.

SnuggyBuggy · 07/12/2020 08:27

My family are too far away to bubble too. We have lots of friends here but we aren't anyone's first priority. Doubt we'll see anyone this Christmas.

MadameBlobby · 07/12/2020 08:36

It’s pathetic isn’t it. Utterly pointless. Fingers crossed for the vaccine.

WouldBeGood · 07/12/2020 08:41

Totally agree @inuet in fact that was my first thought on waking.

They’ve got to stop this

Pinkroses87 · 07/12/2020 09:32

It’s weird, but I find the people who bang on about “you haven’t lost anyone, you’re fine, it’s just a temporary thing” almost the most depressing. People who have no understanding of how utterly joyless this life is, and who totally lack the empathy and fundamental love of life to see that this is a truly crap situation.

kittensarecute · 07/12/2020 10:06

@inuet

It feels like we have all just been robbed of 9 months and God knows when a proper life will come back. There aren't words for how much I hate this miserable apology for a life.
Same. If it wasn't for the fact that my mum would probably be the one who would find me I would probably have ended it all by now. Everything that brings me joy has gone.
user1471562688 · 07/12/2020 14:06

@cherrypie790

I've just read a few threads on here and am sat here in utter despair.

This virus has taught people to be afraid of human interaction and they are treating everyone like disease ridden corpses to be avoided at all costs.

Fuck the word pandemic, we're living "The Walking Dead".

Yep. Yesterday as I walked past a young woman she literally froze in horror and turned her whole body to face the wall until I'd gone by. How utterly sad that this is what the human race has become and for the many who will continue acting in this nonsensical way and live a robotic life.
user1471562688 · 07/12/2020 14:11

@inuet

I know people are trying to be kind I really do and it is good of you, plus Gooseberry I am sorry for your loss I am.

But after reading all these posts honestly I dont feel any better. I gave up on MN after the utterly appalling things I read here in lockdown 1 about people who seemed to enjoy others loss of freedom and I probably should stop reading it again. I have lost people, had hard times financially, bee isolated and missed out on a lot of the good things in life (as well as some positive things) too myself and I just look forward now and think I have nothing left to enjoy. I am so sad at what this situation has done to people's relationship with each other. I'm so depressed and tired of seeing politicians other people chose mismanaging out lives and scientists who seem to have no idea about the mental and emotional cost of all of this. No socialising, no nice new memories, no new friends met, no new cultural experiences just a hideous life draining monochrome sludge of a year and I hate it, I just hate it.

How right you are. Our lives are now being totally managed and we have no choices but to do as we are told. How terrifying (for the ones who can still think logically).
gannett · 07/12/2020 14:18

God knows I'm hating this year and this winter but "utterly joyless" and "robbed of a normal life" are laying it on a bit thick.

Some things that brought me joy have been taken away. Gigs and bars and sports events and socialising. I'm sorely, sorely missing them. I'd also quite like my old job back and could do without this financial stress.

But do you not get any joy from music? Films? Culture? We live in an age where so much of it, old and new, is one click away, and there's so much I'd never had time to watch or listen to before. Learning new things? Making new things?

I'm not being smug or minimising this shit, boring year, but those are all things that I've been able to lose myself in and briefly forget what it's like in real life.

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