What scares you about Covid?

[Nomorejumping]

I’m 34, first time mum this year and I’m absolutely petrified of Covid.

I know others will be or will have been in the same position but I just can’t seem to get past the way I feel.

I haven’t done things like go for coffees, go to the hair dressers, out for a meal since January.

Even when restrictions were eased in the summer and we were allowed to meet indoors, I chose not to.

I spent most of the summer outdoors, socially distanced walks, going to the zoo etc.

I’m petrified that Covid = death for me.

I’m due back to work in April and I’m honestly considering not going back.
My son will have to go to a nursery and I’m
so worried about being in an office with people all day.

DH works from home but I don’t have that option with my job.

I struggle to manage what my risks actually are.
I have psoriasis and psoriatic arthritis.
I’ve never been on medication and always managed with painkillers and steroid injections when needed so I wasn’t on the shielding list.

I don’t know what risk category I fall into but I’ve convinced myself I will be hospitalised and ventilated if I catch it.

The thought ever leaving DS breaks my heart.

I’d love to take him to local baby classes that have just opened up again (all socially distanced)
I’d love to take him to the local garden centre that have a fantastic Christmas display there, but I’m to scared.

How do other people manage?

I see people just living normally, using public transport, eating out, going to supermarkets and I genuinely feel so envious and wish I could be like that.

I’ve never been like this before. Covid has literally changed my life 😭

I am frightened that people like you and others on here who are so worried about the 'sweeping removal of our civil liberties', 'so done with all this', and 'won't be obeying any lockdowns' have forgotten that there is actually a point to disease-control precautions.

This is what's so terrifying. Of course there is a justification but it has been so easy and there are those who will attack others for being concerned that it has been so easy.

Perhaps this time it was necessary but what about next time? Where is the bar where we'll say, actually, civil liberties are important?

Plus the poster you responded to didn't say they won't be complying.

There have been protests against the government and these are not being reported by the media. Why?

@Nomorejumping you sound as though you are suffering from health anxiety as your worry far outweighs the risks. It’s also having a detrimental effect on your life and your child’s life by not doing stuff.

I think you should seek counselling and contact your GP as a matter of urgency.

I’m in the same situation except the fear isn’t so bad now but I haven’t been inside anywhere since Jan and just go for daily walks with baby. Don’t see anyone!

Luckily my partner is supportive but the other day when I accused him of not being supportive about something unrelated he said “Are you serious?” because even when guidelines say you can meet others etc, we haven’t.

I’m back to work in Jan but partner and I are going to do part time to avoid putting baby in nursery.

@doireallyneedaname

I’m back to work in Jan but partner and I are going to do part time to avoid putting baby in nursery.

Is this due to Covid? I don’t have that option so DC will have to go to a nursery 😭

The removal of freedoms. Stupid rules.
I can attend a football match or pub all with strangers but not invite my friends (1 couple) for a meal at my house.
I can sit in a pub with lots of strangers so long as I eat something... But I can't sit at a table with someone I don't live with.
I'm terrified that people are sucked in by this utter nonsense.
I don't want the vaccine at the moment. Apparently that will make me persona non gratis.
I'm terrified of the effect on my 14 yo education and future job prospects.
I'm terrified by the wiping out of British cultural institutions (AKA pub, theatre, cinema).
My dad had covid early on. Took months to recover. Still, it's the least of my fears.

People should not be keeping DCs out of nursery because of Covid unless in exceptional circumstances.

It is not in the best interests of the child to be deprived of social and educational opportunity and the company of their peers.

Please get help for your DCs sakes, people, even if not for yourselves.

Also, surely this puts huge strain on marriages and relationships? And wholly disproportionately

I’m worried about the huge mental health crisis that it has created, the affect to the economy, people’s livelihoods being destroyed, and just how so many of the ‘new abnormal’ rules have been happily accepted.

Yes, and flu. Though cases in our area are now low and I haven’t heard of any outbreaks in nurseries here! They are doing the bubble thing and having parents hand over outside etc. I made the decision when my anxiety was at its peak; not sure I wold have made the same one now cases are even lower and vaccine is on the way. However, baby will only be 11 months in Jan and has quite a bit of separation anxiety anyway so I guess this will be better for him. His dad has yet to have him for a full day alone so this should be fun

Try not to worry. I was crazy about it a few months ago. Every shop that arrived would be washed outside before coming in, it was taking us 2 hours every week just to do that. I would panic if I could hear anyone coughing near us outside. I delayed babies immunisations as they were due during the first peak and we almost missed the boat with rotavirus thanks to the GP who said there was no cut off and he could have them whenever. I almost made my partner move out right at the beginning because my vulnerable dad was with us and the kid across the road was coughing his lungs up near my partner. My dad was furious at me for suggesting he leave. We didn’t get sick.

I’ve relaxed in the last few months and although I still won’t go inside anywhere (apart from the doctors which I wish I’d never worried about) we, as far as I know, haven’t had Covid. I did catch a really bad cold despite all my precautions though so in the end you can only do so much. Age is on our side.

We will be breaking my no indoor rule for Xmas, I just can’t bring myself to deny the family babies first one.

A baby doesn’t “need” to socialise until well over the age of 2.

I’m terrified of getting long Covid and ending up with a long term condition that affects my whole life.

And now my MIL is in hospital, I’m terrified of her getting it.