It's a Christmas one

[elmfield4]

I'll try and be brief as this could potentially outing! We usually go to a big family do on Boxing Day with my DHs family, this usually includes at least 7 different households so a lot of people! ILs are under the impression this is all going ahead as usual and I am really against going for obvious reasons, one it being against the law and the other it's completely stupid and reckless! DH doesn't want to be left out and thinks IBU. What would you do?

Tell him he is welcome to go without you and say you will keep your distance from him for 14 days afterwards.

He's an adult you are an adult sometimes you just have to make your own decisions.

I'd go nowhere near it,or him afterwards: we are sooooo close to the vaccine sorting this,anything like this seems reckless

Nope, can't do it. The Christmas bubble is a mix of three households only www.gov.uk/government/publications/making-a-christmas-bubble-with-friends-and-family/making-a-christmas-bubble-with-friends-and-family

I wouldn't go. We've stuck to the law for ages....made the kids stick to the law....how hypocritical if we tell them we can break the law when we want.

Also - that's one of the riskiest things you can do....all being in a confined space for hours.

What about a family walk somewhere instead?

@Mumdiva99

I wouldn't go. We've stuck to the law for ages....made the kids stick to the law....how hypocritical if we tell them we can break the law when we want.

Also - that's one of the riskiest things you can do....all being in a confined space for hours.

What about a family walk somewhere instead?

This is exactly the point I've made to him. We are going seeing my parents and Dsis on Christmas Day so that's one household already. The family member live about an hour and half away so usually is an overnight stay as well. I'm not prepared to drive that far just for a walk either!

Are you confusing the bubbles? With your parents and dsis you are already at your 3 household limit - assuming you all live apart.

@IndoorLiving

Are you confusing the bubbles? With your parents and dsis you are already at your 3 household limit - assuming you all live apart.

No my DSis lives with my parents so just 2 households

Does he not watch the news, read the papers? It's 3 households max and to be the same 3 all over the holiday.

7 households is ridiculous! At that level, the neighbours are more likely to complain and the police might come and shut the party down, making your trip and over night stay a waste of time anyway.

I certainly wouldn’t be going, it’s far too dangerous and way too many people inside at once. I would just stick to your Christmas Day plans and not bother with other family.

I get the sticking to the rules thing but it feels very unfair that you get to see your family and your DH misses out on his. I think I would not see either side this year to make it an equal sacrifice

@Puppylucky

I get the sticking to the rules thing but it feels very unfair that you get to see your family and your DH misses out on his. I think I would not see either side this year to make it an equal sacrifice

But my PILs live down the road from us so we could see them on Boxing Day if they weren't breaking rules and going to the big family do. So I don't see why I should cut my nose off just because they aren't following the rules

Could you see the IL on Xmas eve? Then technically you have done nothing wrong - and they won't have mixed inside with other families.. ....