Bubble question for Christmas and beyond

[autumncolourlover]

I'm clinically extremely vulnerable and a single mum of 3. I've bubbled with my single elderly mum for ages now. My brother is trying to get my mum to bubble with him, his wife and adult child who is now home for Christmas. At Christmas in their house there will also be another adult child who lives in their own home normally, and probably his mother-in-law too. He knows mum is bubbled with me but says from Wednesday he can bubble with her. To me this seems all kinds of not what the guidelines say but he says I'm the one who has got it wrong. I didn't think you could change bubbles but then the Christmas bubbles are different.

This aside, if I continue to bubble with my mum (she's with me for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day) then how does she go about seeing my other married brother? He lives 3 hours away so it's not like they can meet in the park, mum doesn't drive, so he'd need to be in the house. He might come with his wife but might not but probably not relevant.

Then of course there's the brother who wants to bubble and how mum will see him and his household over Christmas.

I'm getting totally confused as is my mum and am hoping someone will be able to put it very simply for me. It's making me very stressed.

Help!

Sounds like your brother wants to see your mum as well?

It’s three families as an exclusive bubble but I don’t think single people households count.
So I believe you and your mum would be one, the brother would make two and the mother in law would make three. I guess it then depends who the adult child returning home usually lives with (if on his own then it’s fine, if not then it would make a fourth). That’s my understanding.

But ultimately don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with. I’m assuming your brother wants to see his mum and hasn’t done for a while so I’d be inclined to find a way to facilitate that (if it was me!)

It's tricky.

DB lives with SIL
Their dd1 lives in her own house a few miles away
Dd2 lives with friends in another city but is coming back for a few weeks
MIL lives alone several miles away and is in poor health

So that's 4 households.

Then mum and I count as one household which would make 5.

My nephew will probably go home for Christmas too with his gf so that's 6 households.

I think we will have to stop bubbling after Christmas Day so mum can see others without adding any risk to me.

That’s too many households, it’s three max in a bubble got Christmas. She will have to pick who to see, or not see anyone. It’s not possible for her to see everyone.