Would you go home for Xmas or not

[EachandEveryone]

I’m a nurse and it’s my turn to have it off this year. My family is up North 3 hours on the train which will take 4/12 over this period. My mum has the bigger house her partner in his. 70’s is always catching something. They weren’t as cautious as they could be but are knuckling down now and she sounds quite shaken which is not like her. She would rather I didn’t sleep in one of her four empty bedrooms she hasnt said it outright.

Sister however loves Xmas she has four dc two who will be back from uni tier 3’s. She will be doing the cooking etc she likes to, she said I can bunk up with them 🤔

Well, do you think it’s risky. My mother has never liked entertaining anyway and she probably does have a valid excuse but it won’t stop her going to my sisters to be waited on.

Should I stay in London enjoy the days off eating and playing with the cats😃 I can probably go to Hampstead Heath on Boxing Day. I don’t know it’s rare to get Xmas off and I don’t want to regret anything

Where’s your sister? Does it involve the same train journey? I’d certainly go to hers rather than your mum’s!

Yes they are in the same town. My mum will go to her to be fed for sure. It’s not worth me paying for a hotel if there’s nothing going on before or after the day.

If your mum is joining you at your sister's anyway it seems pointless you bunking up in your sister's crowded house when there's a spare room going. Maybe explain that to your mum!

Will it be risky going up there do you think?

Going anywhere is risky. Any contact is risky. Only you know how much risk you're prepared to take or impose on others

Personally I'm staying gone, alone

I won't be seeing family or friends that I usually see over Christmas. I can isolate for 14 days before, they cannot & I'm not prepared to risk it.

Bring on spring/summer/vaccine!!

I know its a dilhema. I dont know if Im that bothered and im usually super excited to see my family.

You don't sound too keen (not knocking you) so I think I'd stay at home and say you'll visit in the spring/after vaccinations. Put your feet up and get some nice food in.

I know i change my mind every day I think its my mum not seeming ver the moon Im coming to stay😃 god forbid her dp catches anything. Although its probably me thats likely to catch something off them. We are tested all the time at work.

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Have you had it yet @EachandEveryone?

In your shoes I'd go & stay at your sisters. See if one of her DC can stay at their grannies so you can bunk in their bed instead.

No ive never had it. We are doing self testing at work twice a week. I dont know if thats our trust or all NHS. I probably will go.