Should I ask him to sleep separately?

[ZZGirl]

My DH went to visit his dying grandfather today. (This is allowed if you have reasonable belief that relative is dying. He has couple of weeks at most).

Unfortunately more family turned up unexpectedly and although he didn't touch anyone, the distance wasn't as much as two metres. He sanitised lots, hands, his phone and made sure he didn't touch his face. When he got home I put all clothes in the wash, made him rinse his mouth with good mouthwash. We'll obviously keep an eye out for symptoms over the next few days.

I like to think that his relatives wouldn't go and visit a dying relative if they had been behaving irresponsibly but I'm wondering if we should sleep separately for a few days? He said he would if it'd make me feel better.

I think you're being ott.

Have you not been out once since March?

I dont think your being OTT at all OP
You do what you think is right.
We have had covid in our family and it's very frightening indeed.

@Coolerthanapolarbearstoenails

I think you're being ott.

Have you not been out once since March?

I work in a school and have done the whole pandemic.

I know I'm probably overthinking it. Just something niggling at my head. Perhaps I just need to get tonight out the way. I mean we are dinner together etc...

I work in a school and have done the whole pandemic.

Then I'd suggest there is way more risk that you will contract something at school, than from your DH.

He wouldn't be infectious yet tonight. How many people are you talking about? What clinical vulnerabilities do you have? What was the ventilation like?

@MRex

He wouldn't be infectious yet tonight. How many people are you talking about? What clinical vulnerabilities do you have? What was the ventilation like?

7 at most.

I'm asthmatic but as I've said, I've worked for months around children.

As for ventilation, I don't know.

We have a thermometer so we can just temperature check each day. I think I needed to ramble out loud especially as I take bigger risks everyday with my job.

@RedskyAtnight

I work in a school and have done the whole pandemic.

Then I'd suggest there is way more risk that you will contract something at school, than from your DH.

Very good point and that does help me feel better, thankyou :)

Is he dying of covid or something else?

Ok, well it wasn't advisable, but the risk isn't ridiculously high and he's just lost his grandfather, so I wouldn't be pushing him out personally. It's up to you how careful you'd like to be, but be most aware days 3-7 post infection are most likely to be infectious, if he's caught it.

Do you have reason to believe any of them are infected?

@dementedpixie

Is he dying of covid or something else?

Something else. Dementia and thought to be cancer. Too weak to test

@dementedpixie

Do you have reason to believe any of them are infected?

No, I don't, especially as SIL is also a teacher and was there.

Thankyou everyone. I knew I was over thinking, I think I just needed people to tell me so.

I don't think people would visit a sick family member if they thought it was too risky. Something just niggled at my brain. DH isn't an idiot either so I know he wouldn't put himself at risk.

Like a poster said, I'm at risk daily in my job.

Thanks all. Happy Saturday!

You're at way more risk at work than in this situation.

You're over thinking it