Anyone with an under 1yr old increasing their bubble?

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My DS is 9 months and my DD is 3. DH works in a very Covid secure office and cycles to/from work. We’re pretty good with following the rules - happy to embrace seeing friends outside etc.
I really, really want to bubble with my parents (both 70). It’s been a long, tough year raising DS pretty much all on my own Monday-Friday. DH is a great dad and husband but is ridiculously busy with work 5 days a week. In any normal life I’d be spending 50% of my time at my mums where she’d be helping me.

I know it’s allowed from the 2nd, but my worry is that DD goes to nursery 3 days a week. My mum says life is too short and is happy to take the risk now it’s allowed. I just can’t shake the worry that I’m putting them more at risk by bubbling with them.
But separately, I’m really lonely. I don’t speak to anyone all day and could really do with some adult conversation.
Looking for advice from people in a similar situation!

Yep. Similar ages baby. And a 2 Yr old.
I've started seeing my dm and also friends and if too cold to be dragging a baby round parks etc then I've allowed them indoors. And I will Continue to do so. I have to for my mh I'm afraid. And my 2 yr old is extremely hard work.

Yes I’ll bubble with my parents but my baby (and toddler) tested positive a month ago so I’m hopeful that reduces the risk. I will stay distant from them and we will try to sit in the garden (I’m tier 3 so wouldn’t be allowed outside of a bubble).

If they’re happy with the risk I would do it. This pandemic is hard enough, please allow yourself that support.I think younger children might be less risky than older anyway?

I have a 9 week old and have basically joined my parents household, neither of us have seen anyone other than each other. I've also just been diagnosed with ppd and my gp, health visitor and the peri natal team all supported that and said I needed to do what was best for my mental health.
You need to have support around you, so what is best for you xxx

Yes my gp said similar too for my mh. But to be sensible. I do see a few friends but only 1 comes in the house and my dm and inlaws. However my dm returns to work next week so won't see her really as much

I’d withdraw from nursery then bubble 14 days after. Children can carry the virus with no symptoms so for me it wouldn’t be worth the risk whilst one was socialising with many others and no SD etc.

I'm bubbling up with my (both aged under 65) parents as DM will be looking after DS2 when I go back to work.
DS1 is at school but my dad works at the same school so its not really that much extra risk. DH is wfh and I only go to the park and Sainsburies local!

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss I don’t want to withdraw DD from nursery though. She needs that as much as I need some adult conversation! (Probably moreso).

Yes, we're bubbling. I've started to get quite worried about my mh so this is the best news I've had all year. It's probably a risk but it's that it end up depressed and even more lonely so I'm prepared to take it.

I really want to bubble with my parents but the problem is that they’re not local to me (tier 3) and my DM is already in a childcare bubble with my DSis. Wish they’d introduced this earlier as my DC2 will be one not far into the New Year!

I sympathise OP, my youngest is 10 months and it's been strange having so much less contact with people with a young baby :(

I'm personally choosing not to see my parents over the Christmas period but mine are particularly vulnerable. I think if your parents are in good health and you are otherwise following precautions I would probably do it.

Oh and yes also although I work from home my oldest started reception this year so I'm also extra cautious with mixing.

@CloudyVanilla I get where you’re coming from. Mine are both in very good health for their age.
I’ve found the past 4 weeks of lockdown quite tough, I’m not feeling anything too drastic mh wise thankfully but I can tell somethings not quite right. Some days I just want to hide under my duvet but have two rugrats to sort out! I think I will bubble with them. Hopefully this vaccine will be rolled out to them soon, I’d feel better once that happens.

Yes, I have a seven month old and a two year old who isn't in nursery. My husband works at home and my parents are both retired and, like us, don't go anywhere. None of us have even been in a supermarket since the start of March. It's been particularly frustrating all year as we won't increase any risk by seeing each other but have mostly been in local lockdown since July so were even banned from each other's gardens.

We can't wait!

I’m sorry but as they are 70, I think you need to make the choice between bubbling with them and your DD going to nursery. I personally wouldn’t be doing both.

I know you said Dd needs nursery but if it’s only for a couple of months wouldn’t she be happy to see her grandparents regularly?

No.

Have an 8mo. As desperately lonely.

But my family are just not safe enough. One of them is actively being a complete twat, the others have kids in school and have been working in offices despite guidance blah blah, I think I have postnatal anxiety and I can’t see that seeing them will help.

If thread announced it in March it could have made such a difference to my life. By now, I’m just in a pit of loneliness.

I have a 2 month old. I’ve agreed with a good friend to bubble after lockdown. She’s not necessarily my ‘best friend’ but she’s local and a SAHM so I’m looking forward to having some adult company during the daytime so sometimes.

DP is a doctor so I don’t think I’d want to bubble with anyone elderly, but we don’t have relatives in the UK anyway.

I wouldn't remove my 2 yr old from pre school either!

@LividJamas Does it have to be family? Our bubble is not, for various (slightly complicated) reasons, including CEV family members.