Tough time isolating

[Lifeispassingby]

Whilst on a call yesterday telling me that I need to isolate as have been in close contact with someone (in a meeting on Monday) who has tested positive for COVID, I received a text from DH to say his DF has suffered 2 strokes and bleeding on the brain with potentially end of life care now given in hospital. He is obviously devastated but I am having to be shut away from him in the spare room. Why does life do this to us sometimes?

So sorry. How difficult for you.

I am so sorry that you are in that awful situation.

Could you not isolate together?

In other upsetting situations I'd be tempted to say just don't isolate from yr DH, you've presumably been in the same house together anyway up until you got the call. Unless he's vulnerable.

However if he's likely to be making a (possible) end of life visit to his DF in hospital, obviously he needs to keep away from you as a potentially infectious person.

So sorry.

@OpheliasCrayon he doesn’t need to isolate but I do @Augustbreeze he is vulnerable, but not the highest risk iyswim and we’ve only been in contact for 3 days out of the 14days needed for isolation so that still 11days I could become infectious and pass it to him

[quote Lifeispassingby]**@OpheliasCrayon* he doesn’t need to isolate but I do @Augustbreeze* he is vulnerable, but not the highest risk iyswim and we’ve only been in contact for 3 days out of the 14days needed for isolation so that still 11days I could become infectious and pass it to him[/quote]
I understand that you do and he doesn't , however if he is very upset and wanting support from you, which I understand, can't you isolate together?

I would presume she is trying to isolate away from her husband so that he can potentially see his father without the added concern that he could be infectious.

Just to add OP - really sorry that you and your family are going through this x

Was it a call from test and trace?
Sorry to hear about your FIL

@daisybrown37 thank you, unfortunately FIL cannot have visitors as he is a high infection rate area. But yes I am wanting to reduce chances of DH catching it if possible. @dementedpixie I still haven’t heard anything from T&T but the person I was in meeting with called me to let me know that she tested positive on Friday (test was thursday)

@OpheliasCrayon we could but DH doesn't need to so won’t get paid and I don’t want to isolate with him because of the risk of passing it to him

T&T look at those in contact in the 48 hours before symptoms started so if symptoms started on Thursday you wouldn't be asked to isolate if the meeting was on Monday

Yes @dementedpixie I’m aware of that and she had symptoms on Tuesday morning which is why I’m isolating as I was with her Monday late afternoon

To be fair you didn't say her symptoms started as early as that. T&T don't sound very efficient if they haven't contacted you yet though

Lol sorry if I wasn’t clear but my post wasn’t really about those details, it was about the challenges of isolation. T&T haven’t been in touch but as results only on Friday I guess it’s still early? the person contacted everyone she had seen in last 48hrs herself, as I would do if I got a positive result and T&T have no purpose now

Am in tears in the spare room as DH is in our room really upset after speakIng to the ward sister tonight. This is the hardest thing we have ever faced and we can’t even be together ffs