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I don't miss people

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Codswallop20 · 27/11/2020 00:51

I don't miss being with people, shopping, pubs, meeting up.

The main reason for this is I don't like other people.

Draw a diagram and discuss.

Most sanctimonious gets a bonus prize

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Fortherosesjoni70 · 27/11/2020 01:26

@Codswallop20

I don't miss being with people, shopping, pubs, meeting up.

The main reason for this is I don't like other people.

Draw a diagram and discuss.

Most sanctimonious gets a bonus prize

I agree.

lovelemoncurd · 27/11/2020 02:12

But clearly you like other people enough to want to join them on an online forum?

DramaAlpaca · 27/11/2020 02:17

But OP doesn't have to actually physically talk to people on here @lovelemoncurd. There's quite a difference.

I'm with OP, I like being sociable on here where I can dip in and out, but am quite happy not to see other people in real life.

I do miss shopping though. On my own, of course.

jessstan1 · 27/11/2020 02:30

I generally do like people, find them interesting. However I also enjoy solitude so lockdown doesn't bother me; in many ways it has been beneficial. I'll pick things up when we eventually get back to some sort of 'normal'.

notevenat20 · 27/11/2020 05:34

I find most people outside my family are a negative influence so am quite happy not to see them.

OpheliasCrayon · 27/11/2020 05:37

I agree + hate hugs and being touched. So this is my ideal world

Buzzer3555 · 27/11/2020 05:45

I am happy not to be bothered with people. I realised during this year how antisocial I am.

katkit · 27/11/2020 05:47

I agree. Socialising wears me out. There. I’ve said it. Scurrying off now.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 27/11/2020 05:59

The only good thing to come out of this year for me is that I managed to back away from a toxic friendship that had been making miserable . I'm not the most social person in the world but I do miss chatting to people in pubs etc

frozendaisy · 27/11/2020 08:40

You miss all the juicy gossip staying in!
I have X3 lynchpins whom between them cover most of the village. I'm talking can't be posted on media type juice!

It's about quality over quantity.

You just would never find out that the a group of the yummy-mummies went to local just before lockdown, got hammered, threw up in toilets and tried to snog the barman if you only had media.

People are hilarious.

EleanorRising · 27/11/2020 08:46

You just would never find out that the a group of the yummy-mummies went to local just before lockdown, got hammered, threw up in toilets and tried to snog the barman if you only had media

And my life would not be any the less for not knowing that

RedskyAtnight · 27/11/2020 08:51

I like some people.

The problem is that the Venn diagram of people I like and people I feel obliged to spend time with is not a perfect circle.
I do wonder if, after lockdown, people will be more discerning about who they see and how they spend their time.

User158340 · 27/11/2020 08:51

@Codswallop20

I don't miss being with people, shopping, pubs, meeting up.

The main reason for this is I don't like other people.

Draw a diagram and discuss.

Most sanctimonious gets a bonus prize

Tend to agree, i'm not a people person which has been a benefit for once.

I enjoy the company of people in small doses but dread going back to my open plan office and having to sit around a load of other people for 8 hours.

I go to the cinema, shops, restaurants, bars etc at times when it'll be quiet. I like my own space more than anything. I do miss the company of friends but once in a while is enough.

Picktionary · 27/11/2020 08:51

Agreed

Jrobhatch29 · 27/11/2020 08:52

@OpheliasCrayon

I agree + hate hugs and being touched. So this is my ideal world

I hate hugs too. I'm glad it's not just me!!

Bagelsandbrie · 27/11/2020 08:54

I’m the same.

Forums are different because you can just close the page and walk away and join in when you like.

Caramel81 · 27/11/2020 08:56

I’m the same.
I’m an anti social hermit who finds socialising incredibly draining

psychomath · 27/11/2020 09:09

I for one am loving the fact that it's now against the law to socialise, because it means I no longer have to go to all those tedious dinners and drinks that people insisted on inviting me to, which I've always felt unable to decline. As if I would want to spend more time with friends and colleagues than I'm already forced to. I'm also happy that hugging is banned, as touching anyone outside my immediate family makes me physically shudder.

I have a very happy life at home with my DH, three DCs and five dogs. I rarely go out anyway because I've never met anyone I liked apart from my family and don't see why I should be forced to waste my time making pointless conversation with strangers. And as a bonus it means my DH stays at home where I can keep an eye on him, whereas if he was allowed out who knows what he'd be getting up to.

I just don't understand all these extroverts on MN who can't cope without hugging each other constantly and seeing their friends every single week. But then I've always been lucky enough to have a very rich inner life and would rather spend winter curled up on the sofa with a set of classic novels. I'm sure it's probably harder for people who live alone or don't enjoy their families' company as much as I do, but their sacrifice is worth it as far as I'm concerned.

do I get the prize OP

MadCatLady71 · 27/11/2020 09:24

I don’t dislike people per-se, but I do find it boring or stressful being around them and much, much prefer being at home, reading with my dog and cats, maybe chatting on WhatsApp from time to time. There are things I’ve missed during the lockdowns - my gym and dojo mainly - but I’ve loved not having to mingle. To the extent that I’m concerned that I’m going to find it really hard to resume some kind of social life when real life returns.

HmmSureJan · 27/11/2020 09:27

I sort of agree with you OP. Though it's not that I don't like people so much as the exhausting societal expectations around spending extensive amounts of time with them. People are very tiring rather than dislikable - generally speaking.

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Codswallop20 · 28/11/2020 06:07

Ha! Cheers guys.

I don't hate people, but I was always out, always sociable and friendly.

I don't want this, I don't need this and I enjoy the lack of pressure and the solitude. Other people are hard work. I could do with a way to get rid of DH and DC for a while as well.

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EffOrf · 28/11/2020 06:27

Doesn't really bother me either and I hate hugging also

crispyrainbows · 28/11/2020 06:31

So glad it's not just me! I became a mum this year and the number of people who have said "oh how isolating, you must be so lonely, all the mum groups you've missed out on...." Absolutely not, it's been a godsend to have so much breathing space! I am from a small close knit family, and apart from them I'd be more than happy never to see anybody again. As a PP said, this year has really made me realise how asocial I am

bengalcat · 28/11/2020 06:36

Yes Ive formed the conclusion I’m rather a natural social distancer and am most definitely not a hugger/ kissy kisser of other humans . That said I’ve worked throughout the pandemic , walk dog and been to classes at the gym and zoom dance classes etc so am not devoid of human contact . It’s certainly meant I’ve had comparatively little angst over lockdown .

EffOrf · 28/11/2020 06:43

I'm retired now but when I was working before Covid there was a lot of hugging for the slightest thing which I think I must have given out vibes against as I was rarely hugged, it was quite noticeable, some of my colleagues used to hug several times a day.

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