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How on earth do you decide?

9 replies

everyonebutme · 26/11/2020 07:09

Who to see at Christmas. Partner and I have six grown up children between us who all want to see us (and exchange presents). Also have elderly parents/other family who we need to drop off presents to (or will have to post so not really an issue). Maybe it's best not to see anyone and just have a series of zoom catch ups. Or do we just choose our favourite children (LOL)?

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malhurst · 26/11/2020 07:12

You answered your question with your penultimate sentence.

OverTheRainbow88 · 26/11/2020 07:16

I would say not this year to all kids and see elderly parents if they want company

Hugosmugo · 26/11/2020 07:17

Would any of them be alone? Do they have partners where they may go to their inlaws? You kind of just break it down like that. Maybe meet them outdoors separately before the Christmas window? It must be tough but I think making sure noone is on their own is the main thing. If none of them have partners then maybe 1 or 2 with you and the other 2 get together?

AuntieStella · 26/11/2020 07:32

Find out what tier you will each be in.

Have a garden party for each set of DC (in a park if tier 3), then go and see each set of parents indoors under Xmas rules, and post stuff to other relatives

KitKatastrophe · 26/11/2020 10:39

Do a Zoom conference with all the kids once you've found out what tier you're in. Decide who is going to see who, making sure everyone sees someone. We all know we wont be able to see everyone this Christmas, and its unrealistic to try and bend the rules sufficiently to do so.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 26/11/2020 11:33

Id courier the gifts and then see none so no hard feelings from the ones who get left out.

Then have a family get together once things are better after the vaccines etc.

readingismycardio · 26/11/2020 11:43

I don't have any siblings, DH has a brother (he's in the US) but I'd feel so bitter and sad if my parents chose some of my siblings for Christmas and not me...

JaneJeffer · 26/11/2020 11:51

Ip dip, sky blue, who's it, not you...

MyPersona · 26/11/2020 12:29

If there are too many households for one bubble, it follows there are enough for two or more. Draw lots. The objective is not to satisfy the specific desires of each individual family. Alternatively, if you or your loved ones wouldn’t be alone and isolated it’s optimal to not meet at all. Obviously.

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