neighbour and lockdown

[extraordinari]

I live in an area where there is total lockdown other than work and essential care etc, kids still at small local school but all out of school activities are cancelled and we are only allowed to go for exercise locally. We live in a small village where there are many old people. A young couple has very recently bought one of the houses as a holiday home for them and their main home is 3 hours away. They have been coming to the house every weekend ie travelling back and forth to do work at the house. It is not essential work, it is decor (I chatted frequently with them before lockdown) but the couple have told someone it is essential work. Would I be being unreasonable to ask them myself what is going on? They will hear the irritation in my voice and this might affect future relations and they will say that they are allowed and that they aren't talking to anyone and therefore no risk.

It's so funny how different to this thread would have gone back in April.

OP would have bee egged on to call the police and rally the village to put the couple in the stocks while they were waiting.

It's like mumsnet grew some common sense over the summer.

Mind your own! They might be getting it ready to move into. We have spent 3 weeks travelling between houses working around our shifts and kids. It’s been a bloody nightmare with things closed and hard work.

@WankPuffins It's so funny how different to this thread would have gone back in April. OP would have bee egged on to call the police and rally the village to put the couple in the stocks while they were waiting. It's like mumsnet grew some common sense over the summer actually it is partly because people with your kind of common sense and people like my neighbours that we are in lockdown again.

@Saladd0dger they have told me a lot about themselves, I know far more about them than they do about me, and no they are not moving in and they don't have kids.

@GabriellaMontez she came and gave me an email address when they first bought the house, without me asking for it, and asked for my email address. I didn't realise until afterwards it was her husband's email address.

We are in national restrictions (not lockdown) because of government incompetence. Not because a few people painted some walls

Were you one of these people back in April that had issues with joggers and their exhaled clouds of Covid?

It is a dom/sub dynamic, I noticed fairly quickly when they first bought the house and they then disappeared for a bit and I forgot about it. I am wary about talking to him about anything at all. I did wonder why them being there was giving me the rage as I am usually very live and let live and happy to judge silently.

Sticking to the rules is hard for everyone and it is really annoying when people act as though there are no rules. When he talks to me he comes right up close. He does the same with elderly neighbours without a mask on.

I haven't reported anyone and I won't be saying anything to them either so you can all bugger off with your judgement and "common sense" now.

@bushola We are in national restrictions (not lockdown) because of government incompetence. Not because a few people painted some walls both actually

@extraordinari actually, I've only left my house since March to go to hospital appointments, give birth and take my older Dd to school, but okay, I'm part of the problem

You seem to know an awful lot about their sex life from an email address.

If you have concerns that she is being abused that is an entirely different matter to the covid regulations.

This thread just gets stranger...

[quote extraordinari]**@bushola* We are in national restrictions (not lockdown) because of government incompetence. Not because a few people painted some walls* both actually[/quote]
I can just imagine Boris coming out on the daily update.

We must now take action (whilst waving clenched fist) we’ve had reports that main spread of the Kung Flu is people painting walls.

We’re renovating a house and now the building works are done we go at weekend to do some ‘decorating’. Massive delays due to covid and related plaster shortages etc. Stayed away the whole of the first lockdown but simply can’t afford more delays and we don’t see or interact with anybody we wouldn’t at home. I never approach the neighbours but they love a little walk around the outside to see what we’re doing...

They’re busybodies and raise my stress levels so have been directed to DP who’s far more tolerant and is also best placed to answer technical questions. We also set up a separate email in his name if they wish to contact us when we aren’t there. It’s not that I can’t talk to the neighbours it’s that I’d rather not. You probably don’t know as much as you think you do...

If you have a concern related to you/your property email them. Just say and step back if you feel he’s getting too close. If you feel they’ve broken the law then contact the police but otherwise stop spying on them and judging.

Well this lockdown Housing Association is renevating everyones bathrooms.

People are so incredibly rude.. really no need to be disrespectful to the OP.

To answer your question, yes it would be unreasonable to ask them what's going on. Painting their kitchen is very different to throwing a party or having a long line of visitors. You've also made a lot of assumptions about their relationship on some snippets of things you've seen. I'd leave them be, smile and wave when you see them.

I would like to know more about the Dom / sub dynamic...

Blimey. Well, leaving all the stuff about their personal lives out of it, OF COURSE it's not ok to be doing 6 hour round trips to decorate your 2nd home during a lockdown during a global pandemic
But if you just don't like them then keep well away from them.

I smell BS here
Intended party in the house they aren't going to live in when their friends are 3 hour away
It's a sex party for SM no doubt

@YellowPostItPad

I would just like to point out that it is the people breaking the lockdown rules who are in the wrong here, not the OP.

Exactly.

I don’t get the snitch thing. If someone was breaking into my car or house I’d want neighbours to ring the police not stand by and let it happen.

Covid laws are there to protect others, breaking them is no different to breaking any other law.

Perhaps it is a essential, maybe they need to be out an old property for a certain date.
I'm sure you will go put the fear of God into them though and they won't return.
Of they are not in contact with anyone, what's the problem?