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GreyishDays · 2020-11-14T21:04:46+00:00

DD has just had a positive result. I’ve phoned school but would you message friends too/get DD to? I don’t want DD to have to hide it from her friends but equally think maybe it’s better to go down the official route.

Clearasmuddypuddles · 15/11/2020 07:30

School will take care of who she has sat near and when, they have to keep seating plans for this purpose.

It’s more important your daughter things about who she has sat with at break and lunch. Who did she walk to school with, or sit next to on the bus?

TW2013 · 15/11/2020 07:33

I would leave it to the school to contact random classmates but contact her direct friends yourself. I imagine it would be a pain finding out that your child had to selfind isolate but far worse if you had visited a relative in your bubble on the Sunday with your child only to find out that they should have been self isolating.

movingonup20 · 15/11/2020 07:37

Tell anyone that is a close contact ASAP eg friends she has lunch with, plays in playground with, sits next to. They should be isolating today. School isn't open until tomorrow to tell them

nether · 15/11/2020 07:42

Yes, I'd tell the parents of her closest friends

(I'm assuming here that your DD is too young to have already told all her friends via social media)

If any of them come from households which contain a vulnerable or exceptionally vulnerable person, then their families can start to take extra household precautions now. It's the right thing to give then the info for them to make choices that can make a difference. Especially at the weekend

StealthPolarBear · 15/11/2020 07:42

@rainbowunicorn

Why the fuck does everyone call it Track and Trace? That is a Royal mail thing to track your parcels.

Agree it is and always has been test and trace. Winds me up too but that battle is lost.

Loftyloft · 15/11/2020 07:46

I think you need to take some responsibility here... school can review seating plans but surely your DD is best placed to give the full list of who she has been within 1m of; both in the classrooms and out? She may miss a couple of people sat in her vicinity on the seating plans but only she will know who she walked next to in the corridor.

It’s not a fun conversation to have but it’s the right thing to do so they don’t spend the weekend spreading it or turning up to school on Monday.

Twickerhun · 15/11/2020 07:48

@freddiethegreat

Are people seriously isolating themselves from their (positive) children in the same house?! Seriously???

Isolating from kids - might depend on their age but no id not be doing that. And advising zoning bathrooms - do posters not realise that actually many / most people don’t have more than one bathroom.

user1495884620 · 15/11/2020 07:48

Didn't it start out being referred to as test, track and trace? I suspect they dropped the track to make it sound less like the postal service and, like pretty much everything the government have done, have fucked up because everyone says track and trace anyway.

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GreyishDays · 15/11/2020 08:07

@Loftyloft

I think you need to take some responsibility here... school can review seating plans but surely your DD is best placed to give the full list of who she has been within 1m of; both in the classrooms and out? She may miss a couple of people sat in her vicinity on the seating plans but only she will know who she walked next to in the corridor.

It’s not a fun conversation to have but it’s the right thing to do so they don’t spend the weekend spreading it or turning up to school on Monday.

In just worried about getting it wrong and telling the wrong people the wrong thing.

School are now on it though, but of course will need her input from lunch. I’ve got her thinking about it.

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GreyishDays · 15/11/2020 08:10

@nether

Yes, I'd tell the parents of her closest friends

(I'm assuming here that your DD is too young to have already told all her friends via social media)

If any of them come from households which contain a vulnerable or exceptionally vulnerable person, then their families can start to take extra household precautions now. It's the right thing to give then the info for them to make choices that can make a difference. Especially at the weekend

No, she’s 12, I don’t have the parent contact details, but she’s contacted her class and her friends.

I’m worried about mixed messages though. I don’t think I’d be very happy with a message from a 12 yr old saying my child might have to isolate. Hopefully school gets in touch with people quickly.

They have mixed lessons for some subjects so it’s the whole year group that she needs to remember who say where for.

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GreyishDays · 15/11/2020 08:10

*sat

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Popcornriver · 15/11/2020 11:24

Please tell them! This weekend I've found out my daughter has had contact with TWO positive cases at school. Both confirmed last week. The school hasn't contacted me and if not for the parents I wouldn't know!

Popcornriver · 15/11/2020 11:25

Well it was the children themselves that have let my daughter know. I'm furious with the school for not informing us.

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GreyishDays · 15/11/2020 12:00

Yeah we have told them. I said at 9.25pm last night that we were going to have to tell them as it was ‘out there’.

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freddiethegreat · 16/11/2020 23:12

@BefuddledPerson

Because I value my child’s incredibly fragile mental health & have been working with professionals all through to try & maintain it which has involved numerous individualised judgements. Isolating from my child in his own home wouldn’t cross my mind - to be fair, we don’t have space. The only way to do it would be to confine him to his room & since my grandmother just died as a result of the impact of being confined to her room in the ‘care’ home, that’s a no. So as I say it hadn’t crossed my mind until I read it here. Sorry if that bothers you.