Dd told to self isolate 😢

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I am so gutted basically, dd has been nursery twice, first day got an email saying there was one case but she wasn’t in contact. She’s had her second day (she goes Mondays) told there’s a case but people would be directly contacted and not to worry so same wording as first email.it does not affect their place and only if you’ve been contacted to worry ect. She goes her dads Wednesday and mixes with two critically vulnerable people (as he lives at home) her grandad is due to have heart surgery.

They tell me today she was in contact with the child/ adult on Monday who has it. I’m really upset, so worried about her fathers family. I was fine with the nursery and didn’t react on the ohonr but just so I can rant on here. Why didn’t they tell me sooner?!

I will feel terrible if her grandad tests positive now and can’t have his Surgery. I just feel so miserable. She’d only just started and I wish I hadn’t sent her now.

She gets funding in jan and I’ve cancelled her place. I just wanted her to mix with children and learn and grow as al her groups haven’t been on. Now I feel so bad

Wish they’d just told me sooner so I wouldn’t of sent her there

Anyone been in the same shoes please let me know

Yes, the timing sucks. But there is no chance in hell I'd be sending a nursery going child into the house of elderly vulnerable people right now at all. Especially with cases in her nursery even if they say she's not a direct contact. It was her father's lookout (assuming you told him there had been positive cases in the nursery) so I honestly think he's been very foolish. Between you both you should probably have decided either to keep her out of nursery till cases go down significantly. Or her dad only meets her himself away from his parents home. Or her dad doesn't see her for a few weeks. Or her dad lives somewhere he can have her visit safely.

In fairness I’ve posted at a mad busy time so doubt I’ll get any reposed. Just wish they’d told me Monday :(

Yeah we were foolish sending her, I just kept reading and believing the garage that children didn’t pass it ect. I shouldn’t of send her you pay upfront so it was over 300 and then I would of lost it. She was in contact on second day :( so I’ve stopped it now but I wish I hadn’t sent her.

You need to use your judgement here not just rely on the guidelines. Positive cases surrounding your dd should have been enough information for you and her dad to completely keep her away from his parents.

Garbage*

Sorry, I know you get it now. Look, chances are all will be fine. It will be a long two weeks but most likely she hasn't caught it or passed it on if she has. But don't muck about anymore risking her grandad. It's hard but we need to do it properly when there's people at risk involved.

Sorry to hear your worries, but as said I wouldn't be letting my DC near elderly or vulnerable people at the moment. I work in a school and have only seen my Mum three times since early September (lives closeby) - twice on the doorstep and at the very end of half term giving any potential symptons a few days to show up. Even then we had coffee out and were at right angles on the table with me sat back.

Hopefully she wouldn't have yet been contagious.
I agree with aishing though.
Also bear in mind the staff probably got it from one of the kids maybe even yours...

Oh dear OP. I do think people have been rather unfair telling you you've done the wrong thing. You're obviously upset and you regret your choice - talk about people rubbing it in your face. I hope DD and her grandad are ok. You feel you've made the wrong choice now but since when does anyone make the perfect choice all the time? I know I sure don't!

She didn’t see her dad for 6 months while his parents shielded, he’s living at home. It’s not as simple as keeping her away, she was kept away but both he and them missed her so much. I’m at home saving before I lost my job so I can’t judge him for being at home.

They were happy for her to come and for her to be in nursery. I just think I was stupid sending her. I really regret my choice :( I was so excited about her going. It’s rated outstanding and everything and normally it’s a struggle to get a place. I thought my luck was in! Turns out I was so wrong.

I don’t mind getting some stick I feel so stupid.

Just don’t know why they couldn’t of told me sooner it’s Thursday today she was there Monday, and they’d sent out the email, just wish they’d contacted me so much! :(

When is her Grandad due his surgery?

Actually I do think the nursery is at fault - if they knew of the positive case on Monday and did not contact you as a 'close contact' until Thursday that is not good at all.

You're in a bit of a tough position - if her dad can't see her at all (because he lives with vulnerable people) then yes, going to nursery is a difficult choice as seeing her dad is important. But actually preschool is really important too, that's why there's funding for it.

I think it might have been a bit of a knee-jerk to cancel her place.

I'm sorry, OP. Chances are that your DD will not have it and will not have spread it. Fingers crossed.

If it helps DS had to isolate from nursery because he was identified as a close contact and he didn't have it. We both had tests as there was a cough going around but we were both negative. I understand your concern but hopefully there's nothing to worry about.

They were happy for her to come and for her to be in nursery.

If by "they" you mean her dad and her grandparents, then you need to stop feeling guilty for "your" choice to send her. They also had the choice not to see her, or to tell you they were worried about nursery, and they didn't. Adults can assess their own risk, so none of this is your fault.

Thanks all in fairness I knew I’d get different responses to this and I’m happy to own the fact I shouldn’t of sent her.

Yeah I believe it’s so important, social skills and important learning, my dd is behind with speech so I was hopeful that would improve. This whole year has undone everything I did in her first. She went to so many groups and swimming I wanted her to be so social :(

I’m just gutted she’s only been twice and this is outcome. I feel so guilty for sending her now too! And I was so pleased about her going.

I just don’t get why they couldn’t of told me sooner. Her dad had last seen her Wednesday, so if they’d said Monday they’d be no issue. Her grandad has his surgery next Wednesday. He gets a test 48 hours before if he has it surgery won’t go ahead.

I hope they tell people sooner from now on because with separated parents and different households ect it’s so tricky.

Yeah everyone was happy for her to go, think none of us thought it was high risk. Stupid I know! Did the whole photo thing on her first day. First outfit. Her dad and grandparents bought her new bag ect to take.

OP, if your child was in contact with a positive case on Monday just gone, they would not have been able to tell you before now because of course the person who tested positive wouldn't have got a result on the Monday?
It will have taken a few days to get symptoms, then sort a test and then await results.
You didn't know about the contact.

If it helps, my 3yo had to isolate due to a positive case in his nursery. It did thankfully stay at 1 case (as far as I'm aware) and he didn't go on to have symptoms.

If she had contact on Monday it is unlikely she would have been infectious on the Wednesday when she saw her Dad.

I know this is anecdote but my DD had to isolate along with 64 other children and 4 adults in her primary bubble. Not one of they caught it from the positive child.

Everyone got an email to say there was another case on Monday. So I knew about it the same day but I wasn’t contacted about it until today.

I was worried to see email but I didn’t know it affected my dd until today.

That was second email sent today this was one I got Monday. I’ve posted them in wrong order.

If she had contact on Monday with the person who tested positive, the nursery can’t have known about that case on Monday.
I would assume she has had contact with a different child / adult who has since tested which would explain the delay as the they would have probably developed symptoms on Tuesday, then arranged a test and waited for results

I’ve had an email saying there was a case both does she’s been, she’s only gone to nursery twice both days were Mondays.

Maybe it’s another case I’ve been contacted about and your right. I’m just hoping she doesn’t develop symptoms.

Look - same thing happened at the nursery I work at parent tells us this morning their child tested positive

Took until 1pm for public health England to pick up the phone to tell us what needed to be done - which was send that bubble and the staff home to isolate

However last week we had a case and the advice then was that the child had been off sick for a week before going for the test and that nobody else had to isolate as a result of him not having been in the week before

The rules are confusing - and when this happens we have to phone for advice and the decide what to do about it

Believe me we worked as fast as we could today to get the right procedure in place and the parents told as quick as possible

Thank you for your perspective. I really wasn’t rude or anything to nursery staff. I’m just sad it’s happened. I’d wondered why they didn’t say sooner but thanks for giving me the other side.