Would this be allowed?

[Jaffacake31]

Firstly please be kind as my mental health is on a knife edge at the moment.

I am in a long distance relationship (4 hours between us). Due to his living circumstances we can’t form a bubble. We were meant to be seeing each other for the first time in a month at the weekend but because lockdown happened he couldn’t come and stay as planned.

My mental health is seriously struggling and hanging by a thread, I’ve had some suicidal thoughts I’m sorry to say. He’s the only thing that keeps me stable.

We’ve been discussing the idea of us meeting in the middle for a walk outdoors next week. But it would mean both of us driving almost 2 hours to meet somewhere halfway and go for a walk for a couple of hours. The drive is entirely worth it to both of us, as we desperately want to see each other and as I said further up, my mental state is really suffering.
I’ve looked at the government guidelines and it says you can travel for exercise and you can meet another person outdoors.
I’m aware I’ll be pushing the boundaries with us both travelling about 2 hours to meet up outdoors, but I’m not sure how else I’m going to cope with another 3 weeks of this, without doing something drastic to stop the neverending cycle of anxiety & depression.

Just do it

Do it.

Another one for 'do it'

Do it. Without a second thought. Or go stay with him for a few days if possible I would in your situation

If you’re poorly like that I think it would be ok for him to come and look after you

Do it.

Do it. You've got to put your mental health first. I'd go and stay with him or have him stay with you.

Definitely do it! Your mental health is the most important thing

Yes definitely do it.
What are both your living circumstances? Maybe you could form a bubble?
At the end of the day it's one connection. It isn't like you are meeting 30 friends indoors singing.
You sound like you really need it and I hope you are ok

Do it. Definitely. What is it about his living circumstances that means you can't form a bubble if you don't mind my asking?

Are you in a bubble with anyone else? If not then just form a bubble with him. If you already are then perhaps it may be better to switch to him if you’re struggling with not seeing him.

I would do it.

But. I'm very worried for you saying only your LDR is keeping your suicidal thoughts at bay. Please seek crisis help immediately

Yes is allowed

It's not pushing any boundaries. Its allowed.

Just go.

Even, without you being unwell.

Another who would support you in this. I think you will be well within the law, particularly taking your mental health situation into account, so try not to worry about that. I hope everything works out and you start to feel better

Another saying do it. I'm keeping to the rules and I think it's important but it's easier for some of us than others, different circumstances. I'm sorry you've been feeling so bad, I hope meeting up helps. Only a completely heartless person would deny you this imo. Hope you feel better soon.

Thank you everyone, for your supportive and kind replies.

I’m just very worried about being stopped by the police while driving there. As it’s classed as ‘non essential’ travel.
Do you think I would be stopped?

There is no requirement to limit your travel to essential reasons, you can also travel for outdoor recreation with someone else, that is exactly what you're doing.

There is almost certainly no chance of you being stopped by the police unless you are speeding etc. The roads are busy, in any case, as noted you will have done nothing against the law.

Do it.
I just hope his wife doesn't follow him

Do it. Your mood is making you vulnerable which allows you more contact than a walk with him anyway.

There is plenty of traffic on the roads. The police really can't logistically randomly check people to see why they're travelling.