Can my long term partner visit me?

[Coffeeandcocopops]

My partner of 5 years doesn’t live with me. This was because we both had under 18 kids. Our oldest kids are now 18. So in theory neither of us live in single adult household. My partner has his mum in his bubble as she is lonely.

We followed the rules last time. But our relationship will not develop if we can’t meet-up indoors this time. In theory I assume we shouldn’t visit each other’s home. In theory.

No you can’t. You can’t form a support bubble either. But if you wanted to bend the rules and create a support bubble he ant have both you and his mum anyway. If you want to see each other which I wouldn’t blame you tbh, he needs to stop the support bubble with his mum, he can’t have everything!

You can meet outside for exercise, socially distanced of course!

Tbh, my mum died a fortnight ago and I need my partner's support so I'm still going to see him.

Sorry that didn’t make much sense. What I’m trying to say is that we all have people we can’t see. I wouldn’t blame you if you wanted to bend the rules to see your partner but he already has a support bubble so really can’t have another. He will need to choose.

He will rightly choose his mum as she has no one else.

If his mum moves in with him for the next 4 weeks for mental health reasons then I assume he can be in my bubble?

So in theory neither of us live in single adult household.
What's with the "in theory"? In practice neither of you live in a single adult household.

But our relationship will not develop if we can’t meet-up indoors this time. In theory I assume we shouldn’t visit each other’s home. In theory.
You don't need to assume anything. The rules state that you cannot visit indoors in each other's homes as that is mixing households and you are not in a support bubble with your partner. However, you clearly already know that.

If your relationship hasn't developed after 5 years together then I can't see the next 4 weeks of 'lockdown' making a difference.

You can't form a bubble with him if he moves in with his mum because neither of you are a single person. The only way you can do it is if he moves in with you, and single mum becomes part of your bubble.

Just see him, seriously. It's a total overreach to be told that you can't see an intimate partner in a private setting and I can't believe people are actually going along with this.

@Calmandmeasured1

If your relationship hasn't developed after 5 years together then I can't see the next 4 weeks of 'lockdown' making a difference.

Ha ha. Having done a long down earlier in the year and now again it is reasonable to be fed up. Those living with other adults really do t understand what it is like to be told you can’t see your partner. I appreciate lots of people can’t see their parents etc.

The single adult rules where you jave recently turned 18yo's actually relate the age of the 18yo on 12 June 2020 (presumably when those regulations came into place). I was reading this in the new regulations yesterday.

Don't know if this helps you?

(E.g. my dc1 was 18 in September, so I still count as a single adult household for these purposes even though he is now 18).

Meet outdoors. If you were together for 5 years, 1 month or even couple of months won't make big difference in terms of relationship development.

Just see him, seriously. It's a total overreach to be told that you can't see an intimate partner in a private setting and I can't believe people are actually going along with this.

Agree - personally i think that there are a few situations (like this) where the restrictions go beyond reasonable.

@MumChats

Just see him, seriously. It's a total overreach to be told that you can't see an intimate partner in a private setting and I can't believe people are actually going along with this.

Agree - personally i think that there are a few situations (like this) where the restrictions go beyond reasonable.

Agree, you've really got to let common sense reign above the government shitshow advice.

@Chasingsquirrels

The single adult rules where you jave recently turned 18yo's actually relate the age of the 18yo on 12 June 2020 (presumably when those regulations came into place). I was reading this in the new regulations yesterday.

Don't know if this helps you?

(E.g. my dc1 was 18 in September, so I still count as a single adult household for these purposes even though he is now 18).

Ah that solves the problem then, my child turned 18 in July. So I can be classed as a single adult household then.

I knew someone would be able to help on MN, thank you.

If he is bubbled with his mum though he can't also bubble with you.

It’s correct that it’s the age on 12th June that matters - but you can’t switch linked households, once you cease to be linked, you cannot form a new bubble with another one. So if he’s going to move his mum in and have you as his linked household, he needs to get on it quickly.

Just see him, seriously. It's a total overreach to be told that you can't see an intimate partner in a private setting and I can't believe people are actually going along with this.

Agreed - just see him OP

If after 5 years you are worried about your relationship over a 4 week period developing you have bigger issues than covid. If you kids are 18+, why not stay with him

@movingonup20

If after 5 years you are worried about your relationship over a 4 week period developing you have bigger issues than covid. If you kids are 18+, why not stay with him

One is a lot less than 18 otherwise yes we would do that.