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Isolating. Am I allowed to..

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JaffaCake70 · 03/11/2020 16:17

Hi all. I was sent home from work yesterday because a person I work very closely with has tested positive for Covid 19.

I've been living with my DB since the beginning of the first lockdown. Apparently he doesn't have to isolate because he hasn't been in direct contact with my workmate. Therefore his is classed as 'contact of contact'.

My question is this. Am I allowed to go out with my DB in his car as long as I don't get out of the car? To me it doesn't make a difference whether I'm sat in the house with him or in the car. No one else gets in his car apart from myself and my DB.

I'm not ill (yet..) no symptoms, don't have to take a test unless I become symptomatic. I've just been told that I have to isolate for 14 days.

What do you think? Or does anyone know the rules on this? Am I allowed to accompany my Brother in the car when he goes for a drive?

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WishingHopingThinkingPraying · 03/11/2020 16:20

You should be staying away from your DB as much as possible. For his sake! And the sake of everyone he is coming in contact with. So no you shouldn't be in a car with him. And also no, you should not be leaving your home for a jolly when you're isolating.

Sweetchillijam · 03/11/2020 16:20

I think it would be wise to keep your distance from your brother in the home just to protect him. I also don’t think being in close quarters in a car would be a good idea either in order to try and protect him.

PurpleDaisies · 03/11/2020 16:21

No. You need to stay at home.

WishingHopingThinkingPraying · 03/11/2020 16:21

I don't understand why you're not attempting to avoid your DB getting it from you? I'd be isolating in the house FROM him too.

StatisticalSense · 03/11/2020 16:22

No. And you shouldn't be sitting with him in the house either. You need to isolate from him as much as possible.

PurpleDaisies · 03/11/2020 16:23

From the NHS...

You must not leave your home.

It isn’t rocket science.

Isolating. Am I allowed to..
Thatwentbadly · 03/11/2020 16:23

No you should be at home and avoiding your partner.

Hardbackwriter · 03/11/2020 16:24

As others have said, I don't think it's a good idea for your brother's sake, and it also seems to go against the spirit of isolation - there are scenarios, which aren't particularly likely but also aren't wildly unlikely, such as (even a minor) accident or the car breaking down and needing towing where you'd almost certainly then come into contact with others. I also can't work out why you'd want to - I can't see what the advantage would be of you being the car? Is that that he drives on a provisional licence and so needs you to be there so he can drive?

SameToo · 03/11/2020 16:24

FFS. Come on now.

Feminist10101 · 03/11/2020 16:24

Absolutely not.

lunar1 · 03/11/2020 16:25

No, you need to maintain as much distance from your brother as possible in the home.

PurpleDaisies · 03/11/2020 16:25

How is this even a question?

dementedpixie · 03/11/2020 16:25

No, and you should be trying to stay away from him too as much as possible

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JaffaCake70 · 03/11/2020 16:25

@Sweetchillijam

I think it would be wise to keep your distance from your brother in the home just to protect him. I also don’t think being in close quarters in a car would be a good idea either in order to try and protect him.
Thank you for your advice. I don't know much about the incubation period etc. I just assumed that it'd be a given now that if I'm going to get it my Brother probably will too, seeing as we spend so much time sat in the same room.. should we not be sitting in the same room anymore?

Sorry if I sound stupid, I just haven't paid a lot of attention to the intricacies of it all.

My workmate who tested positive is still sitting in the same room as her partner and carrying on as normal within her own home. Is that wrong too?

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PurpleDaisies · 03/11/2020 16:28

My workmate who tested positive is still sitting in the same room as her partner and carrying on as normal within her own home. Is that wrong too?

It is better for her to distance from him, but he will at least be isolating with her whereas your brother isn’t.

girlsyearapart · 03/11/2020 16:30

You may well be incubating it already. My dh isolated up in our room for 5 days to try to keep me from getting it but I still did as must ve been before

PurpleDaisies · 03/11/2020 16:30

www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/self-isolation-and-treatment/how-to-avoid-spreading-coronavirus-to-people-you-live-with/

Read this.

I don’t really understand why you wouldn’t have read what you were supposed to be doing when you were told to isolate but at least you can start doing it properly now.

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JaffaCake70 · 03/11/2020 16:32

Thank you everyone.

Just to give a little more information, my Brother doesn't want me to sit in a separate room because the reason I'm currently living with him is because he's suffering from a clinical depression. His worst fear is being left alone and he doesn't even like driving his car alone.

We have tried to get help for my Brother's condition, but with the current situation there isn't much help on offer, he's been given anti depressants but that's about it.

As you can see I'm in a terrible position, but my Brother says he'd rather catch Covid than sit on his own every night for 2 weeks.

His depession has taken him to the extent of suicidal thoughts. I really feel I have to do as he asks in order to not cause him to do anything awful.

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JaffaCake70 · 03/11/2020 16:34

@PurpleDaisies

My workmate who tested positive is still sitting in the same room as her partner and carrying on as normal within her own home. Is that wrong too?

It is better for her to distance from him, but he will at least be isolating with her whereas your brother isn’t.

My workmate's partner went out to do some work in someone's house yesterday, stating that no one would be there, therefore it was ok. Was that not ok then?
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PurpleDaisies · 03/11/2020 16:35

My workmate's partner went out to do some work in someone's house yesterday, stating that no one would be there, therefore it was ok. Was that not ok then?

Ffs no.

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JaffaCake70 · 03/11/2020 16:35

@lunar1

No, you need to maintain as much distance from your brother as possible in the home.
He doesn't want me to. Please read my second post.
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JaffaCake70 · 03/11/2020 16:36

@PurpleDaisies

My workmate's partner went out to do some work in someone's house yesterday, stating that no one would be there, therefore it was ok. Was that not ok then?

Ffs no.

I didn't think so.
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JaffaCake70 · 03/11/2020 16:37

@PurpleDaisies

From the NHS...

You must not leave your home.

It isn’t rocket science.

Ok, I won't. And I'm aware that it's not rocket science. No need for sarcastic comments when I've asked for advice before I've actually done something that isn't allowed. Jeez.
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dementedpixie · 03/11/2020 16:39

Could your brother isolate with you and neither of you go out?

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JaffaCake70 · 03/11/2020 16:39

@Thatwentbadly

No you should be at home and avoiding your partner.
He's my Brother, not my partner. Please read my second post for a little more information on our situation. P.S. My Brother isn't seeing anyone else, only me at the moment. We do our shopping online. We just like to drive around for a change of scenery. It helps his depression to not be stuck at home all day but he likes me to be with him.
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