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Another COVID one I'm afraid.

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ontheslide · 02/11/2020 21:17

So,
Me and 9 friends have a Facebook group where we organise nights out, meals etc.
They are currently trying to sort out a poker night in one of the friends houses.
I just commented that obviously it will have to be put on hold now and got a barrage of abuse about how I shouldn't be such a sheep, and that in a private house no one would know.
I cannot believe that 9 of my closest friends all seem to have the mentality that it's ok to carry on as normal.
I am a little bit shocked to be honest.
I just wonder if the rest of the general public will be doing the same.

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ShowOfHands · 02/11/2020 21:18

Perhaps put it in the Covid topic?

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ontheslide · 02/11/2020 21:19

Forgot they had a section for that. How do I ask for it to be moved?

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Thegruffalohassparklesandfluff · 02/11/2020 21:19

Unfortunately I can imagine there will be plenty more people doing this....Which is why we are going to be in lockdown for a lot longer. I’m with you.

NannyGythaOgg · 02/11/2020 21:21

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ontheslide · 02/11/2020 21:22

I'm just surprised as they all followed the rules the last time round, but are happy to break them this time.
I get that it's shit. It's shit for everyone.
But I'm not prepared to flaunt the rules.

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 02/11/2020 21:23

This has been discussed countless times. Yes, there will always be people who break the rules. Not sure what's shocking about it.

EggyPegg · 02/11/2020 21:23

But it's been the Rule of Six for months. Were they flouting that too?

BadDucks · 02/11/2020 21:25

Bit unnecessary NanngOgg you could have just scrolled past as the title made it clear this was a COVID post. Did you just need to spout some bile at someone this evening?

secretllama · 02/11/2020 21:26

Alot of people have just given up tbh. Months and months of reduced social contact. It was obviously going to happen!

PostItJoyWeek · 02/11/2020 21:26

They do not believe that following the rules works.

What's more likely:
a) 9 of your best friends all suddenly become evil morons or
b) 9 of your best friends interpret the situation differently.

You could ask them why they've changed their tune since June. Nicely. In the spirit of understanding. No passive aggressive stuff.

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ontheslide · 02/11/2020 21:27

As far as I'm aware they've stuck to the rule of 6, well they have on the occasions I've been there with them for meals etc as you can't book a table of more than 6.
At the very start of lockdown they were super keen on following rules, no mixing of families, or entering other peoples houses etc.
I just don't understand the blatant rule breaking now.
Perhaps they've had enough and can't see a way out of this shit?
I don't condone them meeting up and I won't be attending, but it's the bitchiness about being a sheep for conforming that's got to me a bit.

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FeedTheVoodooLilyMumsnet · 02/11/2020 21:30

We're just moving this over to coronavirus now.

PostItJoyWeek · 02/11/2020 21:35

Ask them!

Remember, their responses indicate that they are very shocked that you are still following the rules when all of them have decided otherwise. You are here judging them. They are home judging you too. They are your mates, yes? Ask.

pastandpresent · 02/11/2020 21:45

I think people see it differently depend on their circumstances. Some people see that the school is open so why they need to bother. Some people see it as since we want to keep the school open, we should do the best we can so not to spread the covid to the community and contain as much as we can.

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ontheslide · 02/11/2020 21:54

I just feel a bit uncomfortable now. Hence coming on here for a whinge.
They were ripping the piss out of me (well the 3 more confident of the 9 of them)
The others didn't really comment and just tried to diffuse the conversation.
I'll just leave it now for a few days as I think tensions are getting high with another lockdown looming.

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Redolent · 02/11/2020 21:56

Yeah this is ridiculous. It’s not someone breaking the rules to earn money, or for much needed mental health support...it’s not even breaking the rules a little (2/3 of them quietly gathering inside). You can go without a poker night for a month.

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ontheslide · 02/11/2020 21:58

I agree, especially when we've been able to meet pretty much freely for the past few months with 6 of us at a time. It's rare we all manage to make a gathering anyway.

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Jaxhog · 02/11/2020 22:12

If people do this, then we're all going to be in lockdown for a lot longer. I also think there are plans to have the army enforcing the lockdown this time.

ragged · 02/11/2020 22:19

I have no idea what rest public will do. I don't care, either. I am just trying to endure & follow rules as best as I can.

Torvean32 · 02/11/2020 22:41

In Scotland ppl have not been allowed any visitors to their household for over a month. Our 15 day circuit break seems to have had an effect in cases dropping. We're still not allowed visitors unless we are in tier 1 though.

It's only 4 weeks. If you can , make some use of it. Do household projects. Binge watch a film series. Do fun things and practical things it will soon pass. Hopefully your cases will have dropped and life will have improved.

Covidasaurus · 02/11/2020 22:44

I’ve been surprised at some friends too. Can see Granny because “it’s essential care” (bollocks) and partners with adult children living at home because it’s a “support bubble”. It’s bullshit. Loads of people are changing nothing.

FancySomeChips · 02/11/2020 22:48

They are selfish and stupid.

Are they on Income reduced furlough? Are their jobs at risk? Do they work in infection pool environments (schools/hospitals etc) and fear taking the virus home to infect their loved ones?

They are undermining the fears of so many that do fall into these groups (and more).

RichardMarxisinnocent · 02/11/2020 22:56

As far as I'm aware they've stuck to the rule of 6, well they have on the occasions I've been there with them for meals etc as you can't book a table of more than 6.
Have you all been social distancing from each other as is required under the rule of 6?

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