Lone parent bubble with another adult + kids at their dads - is that OK?

[LockdownLucy]

As I understand it I (and my children), as a lone parent, can have a support bubble with my partner who lives alone and aside from work doesn't see or mix with anyone else other than us. He comes over now and then, he doesn't live here. We've been together five years so this isn't some random shag.

And the boys can go to their dad/stepmums house on contact days because children can move between parental houses. XH never comes anywhere near my house nor I his.

I see zero family or friends otherwise and WFH and so am trying to play by the rules.

I'm being told by my (far away) family I can have one or the other but I don't think that's the case - they're separate rulings as far as I can see, not mutually exclusive. Am I getting it wrong?

I'm pretty sure they are completely separate! I think what your doing is perfectly ok 😊

No you're right, you can see both. You're children can still see their dad, you can still have your support bubble. Would be fine even if you did have face to face contact with the dad.

You are correct. Your ex is not a support to you (well some exes might be but generally they aren't).

That's reassuring thank you. XH and I don't even text each other usually it's amicable enough but totally separate. I found it really hard to do without my partner for nine weeks or whatever it was in the strict lockdown and hoping we don't go back to that as having adult company and lets face it a bloody hug once in a while (luxury) has been so lovely over the last few months.