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Is neighbour putting me at risk

57 replies

Shxx · 27/10/2020 05:01

I live in a converted house, one flat below and above.
Don't get on with either of them, they both bullied me to hell so there is no talking.

Anyway, tenant above on two occasions has gone down to the two tenants below and gone into their flat then back up to our communal area.

The flat below has their own front door and tenant above shares a front door with me.

I'm high risk due to being a NHS volunteer, as a support worker for a disabled man and I'm pregnant.

I have on video due to cctv outside my home the tenants doing this.

I live in London so we are tier 2.
Are their laws being broken? I'm obviously upset due to I feel there could be a risk of me and my partner.

OP posts:
CodenameVillanelle · 27/10/2020 07:39

Being a volunteer doesn't make you high risk - why do you think it does? Nor do the actions of your neighbours.
If you're that anxious then wear a face mask in communal areas and sanitise your hands before and after but what they do has no bearing on you.

Palaver1 · 27/10/2020 07:43

You don’t have the time or energy for this.
You think carefully about what your going to gain .
Don’t let this ruin your head space.
I do hate CCTVs I know it’s for security but your allowing it to consume your thoughts.
You do know the answer to your question.

notevenat20 · 27/10/2020 07:44

what they do has no bearing on you.

The problem is that this general rule doesn’t apply to epidemic viral infections. The degree of spread of covid bears on all of us.

thinkingaboutLangCleg · 27/10/2020 07:45

Sorry to hear about your hostile neighbours, OP — and the rudeness people are expressing towards you here. You just have to ignore them and enjoy the good things in your own life.

Treat the communal parts of the house the same as anywhere outside, and wash your hands as soon as you come into your own flat. Volunteering for the NHS is very generous, but make sure you’re not putting yourself and baby at risk. And try not to worry — I know that’s hard in these uncertain times, especially when you’re pregnant. Are you living alone? I hope you have good friends around you.

CodenameVillanelle · 27/10/2020 07:45

@notevenat20

what they do has no bearing on you.

The problem is that this general rule doesn’t apply to epidemic viral infections. The degree of spread of covid bears on all of us.

Yes but in this SPECIFIC situation what they do has no bearing on her.
nicerbeing · 27/10/2020 07:47

I'm completely baffled as to why you think your neighbour going to another neighbours house is putting you at risk. Like how ?

The NHS volunteering thing however.....

commandatori · 27/10/2020 07:54

Like everyone else said - no.
Another example of someone trying to find a reason to pin the blame of “putting them at risk” on someone they just don’t like.
Just wash your hands! Presumably all of you are leaving the flat anyway so would bring germs back? Not to be horrible but I honestly feel like some people believe that the virus literally only spreads in the places the government have said are banned eg other people’s houses.

ImMoana · 27/10/2020 07:55

Feels a bit hypocritical to be complaining about this when you’re choosing to increase your own risk of exposure by being an nhs volunteer.

TheSeedsOfADream · 27/10/2020 08:02

Funny that you want to dob people in that you don't like.
Would you be the same with your best friends or relatives?
Posts like this are the reason the antiDs think we're all fucking insane. And on this one, they have a point.
Have you been told by your medical practitioner you're high risk? You'd think they'd have told you to give up the volunteering wouldn't you?

BlanchflowerTulip · 27/10/2020 08:04

Seem no more risk to you than the same neighbour using the stairs / communal area generally. Wouldn't bother me.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 27/10/2020 08:05

@notevenat20 I'd say exactly the same thing to a friend of mine - and that's get a grip.

MoonJelly · 27/10/2020 08:08

Surely you are putting the neighbour you share a front door with at more risk than vice versa, given your NHS volunteering and the fact that you volunteer in another person's home.

TheSeedsOfADream · 27/10/2020 08:09

@MoonJelly

Surely you are putting the neighbour you share a front door with at more risk than vice versa, given your NHS volunteering and the fact that you volunteer in another person's home.
True dat.
AcornAutumn · 27/10/2020 08:12

@notevenat20

This part of MN has become the least supportive place on the planet recently. Could everyone just try to be nice to each other? Imagine the person asking the question is a good friend of yours maybe?
If a good friend of mine said this, I’d tell them to examine their conscience and think what kind of person they wanted to be.

I’m pretty sure the police said the initial flurry of neighbours reporting was in cases where there was a history of neighbour dispute.

MandosHatHair · 27/10/2020 08:17

You have said that you have CCTV footage of the nieghbours, do you mean you have footage them going into the others' home? In which case the CCTV would be watching the nieghbours front door. Do they know the camera is watching thier home? Sounds very intrusive for them, I am not sure where you stand legally on this, you may want to look into it.

jessstan1 · 27/10/2020 08:18

I don't think you are at risk, op; you're more at risk in your job and your volunteer work but presumably you'll be giving both up, at least for a while, before long due to your pregnancy.

You said: "Are their laws being broken? I'm obviously upset due to I feel there could be a risk of me and my partner."

They don't have their own laws though may have some self imposed boundaries which are entirely their business. If they break their own 'laws' so what? It won't affect you. Going in to someone else's house is a risk but you are not friendly with these people so you don't know how careful they are before and after visits; they could be quite scrupulous with distancing and hygiene. Try not to think about that.

You feel very vulnerable because you say these people have bullied you in the past. That must be horrible but maybe they don't realise things they have said have affected you in that way and even forgotten. Relationships in blocks of flats are often strange. Are you intending to stay there indefinitely or do you plan to buy something bigger or different (like a house), in time? I ask this as you are having a child. If this is the case you can at least comfort yourself that the situation won't be forever.

I hope things improve for you but in the meantime, please stop worrying about your neighbours giving you Covid-19; that really is extremely unlikely.

Good luck.

TheSeedsOfADream · 27/10/2020 08:21

@MandosHatHair

You have said that you have CCTV footage of the nieghbours, do you mean you have footage them going into the others' home? In which case the CCTV would be watching the nieghbours front door. Do they know the camera is watching thier home? Sounds very intrusive for them, I am not sure where you stand legally on this, you may want to look into it.
According to the many threads about this where posters have concerns about other people's CCTV pointing at their houses and the legal advice they are then advised to take, I agree.
Billben · 27/10/2020 08:32

I'm high risk due to being a NHS volunteer,

😂 With all the feeble excuses I’ve heard people using as being high risk, this really takes the biscuit 😂

BoggledBudgie · 27/10/2020 08:37

“Can I tell tales on my neighbours yet??? Pleeeaaase???”

LadyPenelope68 · 27/10/2020 08:47

@notevenat20
My reply would be the same to a friend. This thread is just ridiculous. The OP is an NHS Volunteer, not an ICU Consultant.🤣

Clutterbugsmum · 27/10/2020 08:57

Surely you're the bigger risk as NHS volunteer.

Also your CCTV should not be pointing at your neighbours property. You can't record your neighbours coming and going.

I have to say the fact that the other 2 neighbours are able to get on and you on here posting about an imaged slight to you, I'm guessing they are not the troublesome neighbours.

notevenat20 · 27/10/2020 09:03

My reply would be the same to a friend. This thread is just ridiculous. The OP is an NHS Volunteer, not an ICU Consultant

Why is that distinction important here?

notevenat20 · 27/10/2020 09:07

Also your CCTV should not be pointing at your neighbours property. You can't record your neighbours coming and going.

You probably can in fact. See ico.org.uk/your-data-matters/domestic-cctv-systems-guidance-for-people-using-cctv/

Winederlust · 27/10/2020 09:09

@notevenat20

This part of MN has become the least supportive place on the planet recently. Could everyone just try to be nice to each other? Imagine the person asking the question is a good friend of yours maybe?
If a good friend told me this I'd tell them they were being ridiculous. Because that's what friends do - be honest with each other. THAT'S the nice thing to do, not feed their insecurities or anxieties.
HelloMissus · 27/10/2020 09:10

I’d you don’t speak or have anything to do with these people, how on earth are they putting you at risk?