Toddler at a wedding?

[Diorissimo1985]

We have been invited to the wedding of one of DH’s siblings early next year and they are planning on the 15 person max rule still being in place.
We (DH, me, DD who will be 3) are invited but the bride & groom have said only two of us can come I.e DH plus either me or DD.
We have been reading up on how the ceremony and meal would work with regards to rules and it looks like it would be tricky for DH to take DD and have her observe social distancing... she is only 3 and wouldn’t get it at all.
What would you do in this situation? I would ordinarily say that DH should just take DD but I’m unsure if that would make following rules too hard on the day. She would be the only child, all the other guests are adults.
What do you think the right thing is to do here?

Could you both not go and not take DD

Send DH on his own and let them know they can fit in an extra guest. Only 15 people, and one of you needs to have the toddler.

Sorry I meant could you both go and leave DD at home .

Depending on childcare rules, can't just you and your husband go and the other grandparents look after your DD?

Weddings are exceptionally boring for three year olds, no matter how much they may love or be loved by the bride and groom.

The best plan is either you and dh go and dd stays with someone else, or just dh goes and they give the other space to someone else.

Other grandparents live quite far from us, not impossible but not very easy.
Also DH’s family won’t have seen DD (or DH or me for that matter) in over a year by the time the wedding comes round. I presume they would all love DD to attend but the practicalities don’t make it easy if you see what I mean.
I might sound out my mum about childcare in the meantime

I’d sent my DH alone in the circumstances, presuming I was happy with SD measures etc.

Agree with 2tired

If it's possible, park DC elsewhere and you go with DH, or If you can't do that then just DH

Also, have I understood it correctly that if there is a meal then people sit in household groups? Does that mean DH would be on a table on his own if he went alone? Or can it be one large, socially distanced table?
Govt website was very wordy, found it tricky to follow it all

www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-guidance-for-small-marriages-and-civil-partnerships/covid-19-guidance-for-small-marriages-and-civil-partnerships

"All individuals involved in the ceremony (including attendees, guests and officiants) should observe social distancing from those they do not live with.

They or members of their household should not attend the marriage or civil partnership if they are unwell with symptoms of COVID-19. If either member of the couple have symptoms of COVID-19 the ceremony should not go ahead.

Wherever possible, adhere to social distancing of at least 2 metres, or 1 metre with risk mitigation (where 2 metres is not viable), between households. For frequently used venues, mark areas using floor tape or paint to help people maintain social distance."

So yes, sit only with members of own household / support bubble. It also says you need to hold an infant, presumably under the definition of under 2, but unclear.

To me it would depend on how long the wedding is and where it is being held. If in a hotel you could book a room and all go and change over times with DD. My son at 3 used to like sleeping all afternoon, you would have to take that into account. Also if the wedding reception is going on until late, maybe you could collect DD so DH could stay.

Given the rate in which the guidelines keep changing, I would probably decide closer to the time to be honest!

Agree with all others, either send DH alone or find care for 3 yo and go with him.