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A message to the "how would your children feel if they lost a relative to covid?" Camp

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Whatever9999 · 16/10/2020 16:51

Do you actually realise how much you are minimising the pain that children who are currently dealing with after losing a relative of something other than covid??

My children lost their great grandma last month. The 7 year old is struggling massively with the grief, crying multiple times a day, to the point where he needs intervention at school. But all these comments, well they really are minimising his pain, after all it wasnt covid.

Along with my children there are thousands of others who have lost relatives to something other than covid (far more than have lost relatives to it). And there will be thousands more that lose relatives to cancer thats been missed, heart attacks where they could have been saved if they hadn't been scared to bother the NHS, suicide and far more other reasons. But hey these children and their grief don't matter because...covid is the be all and end all

And the answer to how my children will feel if they lose a relative to covid. Well they'll be devastated, just as they are right now. But as I keep telling my 7 year old, it will get better, it'll never go away, but every day it will hurt a little less and eventually the broken heart will heal and the loved one will still by in their heart but just like a scar it won't hurt all the time.

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Ponoka7 · 16/10/2020 16:59

I was on the bus in August. A grandmother got on with her two grandchildren (around 7 and 9) and I offered to move from the back seat, if she wanted me to. She didn't and we started chatting. Her DH was in hospital but they wasn't allowed to visit and the children were suffering not being able to see him. It was possible that he wasn't going to recover. They were going with her to drop off food and stuff for him.

The children's father had died of Cancer in April, they couldn't visit to say goodbye and no usual support was available for the children.

I've heard of parents dying because of lock down. You are quite right.

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