Need a handhold - a might miss my dad's funeral

[perhapstomorrow]

My dad passed away a couple of weeks ago (non covid) and his funeral is on Monday. However, my dh has developed a cough and is now waiting for the results. I thought they would be back today (48hrs) but I've just read that the south east is taking longer. I have been trying to not think about it coming back positive but this morning I'm just in bits at the thought of missing my dads funeral.

Also I'm worried that if the result is positive what this means to health of my dh and family. I've banished dh to our room and have been sleeping(or trying to sleep!) on the sofa.

To complicate matters I'm doing the flowers and order of service so will somehow have to get them to the other side of London. I dont know what I'm asking but I'm just feeling so very down today. 😪😪

Sorry for your loss. Can you go and stay with relatives so you can still go ?

I'm so sorry OP. Please consider attending online, I attended a funeral online a couple of weeks ago and while it was not like being there it was still very moving and I felt involved.
Not wanting to at all diminish your distress, but just to encourage you to consider that things are still possible, even in these awful times.

Thanks @earthycarrots. The only place I could stay is with my mum, but if his test is positive then there is a risk I'll pass it on to her and she is in the shielding group. I just wish there was an easy solution but don't think there is. Looks like London has gone into tier 2 now as well.

@giletrouge - fortunately we are having it live streamed but it's not the same. My mum is in a support bubble with us so not being there to help her practically and emotionally is just heart breaking. I am supposed to do a reading as well. 😫

I'm so sorry, OP, that's awful. Really hope that the test comes back soon and that it's negative.

So long as you don't develop symptoms, you're allowed to break your self-isolation for the funeral of a close relative.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-guidance-for-managing-a-funeral-during-the-coronavirus-pandemic/covid-19-guidance-for-managing-a-funeral-during-the-coronavirus-pandemic#mourners-who-are-self-isolating-due-to-a-possible-case-of-covid-19-in-their-household

Hope you're doing ok.

What a heart wrenching situation, condolences for your dad

We’ve had a very similar situation back in April and ultimately it’s come to all of us accepting that’s just how things are right now. It’s god awful and gut twisting but we will all get through to the other side.

I think the anticipation of it is worse than the actual missing of it. Grit your teeth and get to the other side whatever happens. Make plans with your mum for what you can do and when you can meet up with her in the worst case scenario. You’re going to be fretful whatever you do until you can actually break the isolation.

I’m not religious but I’ll put some good vibes out there for a negative result to come through soon.

@rbe28 oh my goodness thank you thank you!! Looks like I can still go as long as I maintain my distance and not develop symptoms. Just keeping everything crossed now and keeping out of DH's way.

[quote perhapstomorrow]@rbe28 oh my goodness thank you thank you!! Looks like I can still go as long as I maintain my distance and not develop symptoms. Just keeping everything crossed now and keeping out of DH's way.[/quote]
I do hope that you can.