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Christmas alone?

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p0ptart · 01/10/2020 14:26

I'm already thinking ahead to Christmas. We don't have family where we live; grandparents are a few hours drive away. We had vague plans to go spend Christmas with them (go by train), but recent local lockdowns have made us feel like this won't be possible.

I know nobody has a crystal ball, but what are our chances of visiting them over Christmas?

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ineedaholidaynow · 01/10/2020 14:40

Your title makes it sound as if you would be totally alone, but I am assuming you are not as you use the term 'we'.

We have the possibility that DM and MIL will both have to spend Christmas totally alone.

Itsabeautifuldayheyhey · 01/10/2020 14:50

It is nearly 3 months until Christmas and a lot can change in that time. The R rate is apparently already starting to come down in response to restrictions, who knows what could happen if we all comply with the rules?
Unfortunately, none of us have any idea. We all have to play it by ear, prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

movingonup20 · 01/10/2020 14:52

Who knows? I'm taking the wait and see approach. It's quite possible i can see my parents but my brother and my kids can't travel done here because I like them are in a low virus area and everyone else is in cities. Dd1 can go to my brothers potentially as he's near her university and Dd2 is near her dad. My other brother is old enough to make his own arrangements

PersephonePromotesEquanimity · 01/10/2020 14:54

I too question your use of the term "alone", OP ...

RollaCola84 · 01/10/2020 14:58

Just being with your partner and kids isn't alone... Hmm

CeeJay81 · 01/10/2020 15:01

Most Christmas's we are alone (4 of us) cause all our family are long distance and don't have the space. So even pre pandemic it was no different. My dad visits every 2-3 years but that's it. It's really not all that bad!

Waxonwaxoff0 · 01/10/2020 15:16

I'll be alone this Christmas if it stays like this. I'm a single parent and DS will be at his dad's this year.

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 01/10/2020 15:45

a bit melodramatic, but my parents are worrying about Christmas already, I'm less worried as there's nothing we can do about it at all, all depends on people following the rules and hopefully things will be better in late december.

I did also joke that my parents would have to choose their favourite child to go and visit and didnt get much of a response, so guess its not me then!!!

viccat · 01/10/2020 15:46

As someone who has sent Christmas alone for many years thanks to not having any family, I too wonder about your use of the word "alone". Hmm

emmathedilemma · 01/10/2020 15:50

yeah, that's not "alone" - having ALL your relatives over 200 miles away in what's currently a "non households mixing indoors" restriction is potentially Christmas alone! Yours is an immediate family christmas at home. For what it's worth, I have no intentions of this being the case, I'll self isolate for 14 days and drive there if needed! I've also booked a few nights in a hotel on a no pre-payment rate so i can stay there and see them outside if all else fails.

FedUpAtHomeTroels · 01/10/2020 16:10

I'm taking the wait and see approach, hoping we aren't on lockdown by then. I live with Dh and Dd, my mother is alone, 10 minutes away. She will be here with us Christmas day. She has no one else. My sons are grown and live with partners so won't be alone if we are still locked down, they usually come to us for part of the day.

MJMG2015 · 01/10/2020 16:16

Alone. WE is not 'alone'

You haven't even said where you or your extended families live. NZ you can
Probably spend it together Bradford probably not.

But honestly, you aren't alone. Maybe give some thought to those who are genuinely alone.

Eckhart · 01/10/2020 16:18

I know nobody has a crystal ball, but what are our chances of visiting them over Christmas

There is a chance. How do you expect anybody to be more specific?

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p0ptart · 01/10/2020 16:53

Jesus all the snarky responses. I accept I shouldn't have used the word 'alone' on re-reading, but the tone in some of these messages. It's not a competition in who can be more alone! I'll bow out and unwatch this thread, cheers

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Judystilldreamsofhorses · 01/10/2020 16:57

I've spent a few Christmas days completely on my own - was single, and my mum had a new partner (now her husband) so wanted to spend the day with him, siblings spent the day with their partners. It was absolutely fine. I was invited to various friends' homes, but was honestly quite happy with a load of nice food from M&S, junk telly, and some wine.

When I met DP I started spending Christmas with his family, but the first year he had the day with them and then came to me at night. Last year it was just DP and me - we were supposed to host, but I came down with flu (or was it COVID) and was just too ill. We ended up having the Christmas food for new year, and had enough cheese to last weeks!

This year I think we all just have to wait and see.

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