Should we meet up with elderly parent

[JenniferSantoro]

My 80 year old mother in law lives over 300 miles away from us and we’ve not seen her since before Covid. She’s fit and well although I don’t feel that helps.
My dh and I are going on a break a couple of hours from where she lives and he wants us to meet up with her for a visit. This would mean his mother catching a train into London then another one to where we are staying. MIL has a husband who has all kinds of health issues but he isn’t coming.

I feel that we shouldn’t be meeting up with MIL because I think we’ll put her and then her husband at risk. I don’t think the fact that MIL’s husband isn’t coming lessens his risk. I think her catching a train, going into London and then mixing with us is too risky. DH and I have both worked all the way through covid so are obviously coming into contact with other people (mainly fellow employees).
DH thinks that we should let his mum make the call as to whether she should take the risk. On top of that DH has asthma so I think may be classed as at risk.
I would appreciate some impartial thoughts.

@emptyshelvesagain That is what I heard. Maybe my relatives are liars. Or maybe it just depends on the hospital or doctor. I know it sounds crazy, but so did sending elderly people with Covid-19 back to care homes, but it happened. The NHS are currently in panic mode now that hospitals are starting to see hospitalisations rising, and it's only September.

apologies for trying to give as much detail as possible. I’m still trying to get my head around what level of careful we need to be.

You don't have to apologise it just makes no sense. It made no sense in the OP and it makes less sense now you have added his work details into the mix.

Why would he be at any more risk seeing his mother than he is going away for a break with you? He is an emergency services worker who has worked all the way through Covid. Why on earth would meeting his mother put him at any additional risk?

@Riceandpoppadoms

From an objective point of view, I have heard that hospitals are currently 'encouraging' patients with Covid-19 aged over 60 to sign do not resuscitate forms and writing on their records that they are not suitable for intensive care - that is relatively fit and healthy people in their 60s being told they are too old for the full range of treatment for Covid-19. I definitely won't be seeing my parents in their 70s until all this over (please let it be soon).

Did this ridiculous canard not get put out of its misery in March?

IT IS NOT TRUE.

BTW, where did you hear it from?

ok, if you say so (doesn't mean it is not happening tho)

Having seen your updates - then it is slightly different as it sounds like your mum is being controlled and wants the escape out of the house.
Whatever you can do to minimise her time on public transport would probably be a nice thing to do. Is there somewhere that you could both get to on one form of transport, rather than her having to change in London?