Ex isn’t social distancing

[ColdTattyWaitingForSummer]

Me and my ex have ds(13) together. We’ve had a few disagreements lately, so I’m trying to be fair, but it’s not easy. I’ve been following the guidelines for distancing etc, even though some of them don’t make much sense. Ds just got back from a weekend at his dad’s and they’ve had family members round, and even visited grandparents who are meant to be in quarantine after travelling abroad. Meanwhile my other son has just moved into student accommodation and can’t even come home to visit me (and fully intends to comply as he wants to protect me). But what’s the point if my younger ds isn’t distancing when he’s with his dad? And now I feel like I shouldn’t meet friends, even within the rules, in case ds passes something on
So is this a legit concern, or am I just projecting my annoyance at my ex? Or quite possibly a bit of both!

I try to do the right thing even if I think other people didn't do the right thing. Their bad choices don't mean I should make bad choices.

What lljkk said. I don't think you need to forego seeing friends yourself. They are presumably choosing to meet with you in the knowledge that you have a teenage son who could in any event pick up the virus at school even if his Dad was being super careful.

@lljkk You’re right, and I’m not going to let it change the way I act. Thanks.
@LilyPond2 I home ed - and did so well before the virus - so I guess we’ve been in a pretty safe bubble compared to a lot of families with teens. That’s still a good perspective though.
I guess I was trying to figure out if I was upset because it was my ex breaking the rules, or if I’d think the same if it was anyone. Probably both!