This won't be allowed?

[Anxiousgirl23]

Expecting my first baby mid November. My in laws have planned to come down beginning of December.. Mil and fil expect to stay at our house and sil and bil at local hotel but will spend most of the time at ours. Given current rule of 6 and the fact there will be 7 of us including baby, should they be thinking they may have to reschedule if rules don't change? My sil seems to think not...

That would be too much even without Covid
I guess it depends on your relationship with them tho
However it would be a no from me - you need those first few days with just you three
I’d be using the current guidelines as a reason why they absolutely can’t just rock up

This is your birth your baby your time. Not theirs - it’s tempting not to even tell anyone that you’ve had the baby until a few days at home
Say no ( I used to lock people out in the early days / shut curtains etc ) no and no again
I hope your partner feels the same

Mil (or fil) coming alone to stay and actively help you = sounds useful, if you get on ok. Aunts and uncles wanting a one hour visit outside = no problem, might not be able to hold baby though. This plan of couples staying and their siblings in a hotel - that's not designed with the aim of helping out at all. Even with no corona I think this would be far too much for you to cope with.

Please don't feel forced to do something you're not comfortable with. I can't stand fully grown adults that put pressure on new mums. I appreciate they will want to see their grandaughter/niece, but these are not normal times and your daughter will be immuno compromised. You and your baby's needs trump anyone else's.

I hope your partner steps up and supports you. Don't stress. If they still make an issue, lock the door, shut the door and eat a cake, that's what I'd do.

What a terrible shame that when you spoke to your midwife/consultant they advised again it as it isn't safe
I wouldn't allow this even without covid op. The first few weeks are so important for bonding, the last thing you need is a house full of in-laws.
A possible compromise would be that they could all rent a cottage, spending the majority of the time there with you popping round for short visits.
I would only agree to do this if your health care professionals thought it was safe. We could be in stricter rules by December anyway and your priority is your and babys health.

• advised against it.