Should I just pull her out of school now ‘

[Someonetakemebackto91]

Hi
My mother’s guilt is at full blast at the moment.
DD has returned back to school she has complex health but goes to mainstream school.
She has lung, heart, bowel and other issues.
She is still on CEV list.
It was decided she would return back to school because shielding was paused. School was a bit nervous as clinical real refused to help with a risk assessment. She is in a class of 31 children 4 adults with no social distance ( small classroom still doing carpet time )
The numbers are increasing in local area but we are not on local restrictions yet. Tests are becoming harder to get and so even the whole send a bubble home it’s to late really just the time a positive is noted.
She is already of school after catching a bad cold which has gone to chest, which proves to me that really the impact on the new guidelines are not helpful.
She has a 1-1 who is paid for by council not school and is allowed to the house to do work so it’s mainly the social aspect that she would be missing with not being at school.
My head is soo torn with it all now.

Yes. But I wouldn't have sent her back. IMO she is far too vulnerable to be in school

The reason shielding wasn't reinstated is financial, not because it's safe!

1:1 at home IF she's being careful when not at your house and wearing a mask/ hand washing etc and nowhere near you if she's in contact with someone unwell/testing positive etc.

If it was my DD I would pull her out, my priority would be her health over a school education, are you able to home school? Regarding socialising I would try to organise short play dates with a couple of her friends outside in the open air. How old is she?

@Southernsoftie76
She is 7. My mind is so torn if the school would agree without issue I don’t think I would hesitate but worried if I have to remove her from register.

I do not have children, but I imagine in your position I definitely would.

I would as well.

Yes, I’d be taking her out of school

Pull her out. Without a doubt. I tutor group classes they are full of kids who have been pulled out

Pull her out. It is beyond disgusting that the government have put you in the position where you may have to de register though.

for you both, I think it would be very reasonable for her to be out of school.Would online tutoring be at all suitable and would the council be willing to provide it?

I'd start by speaking to the school, with the aim of keeping her on their register but educating at home for the time being.

You don’t say what health problems your daughter has specifically, but I know there are some seriously ill children who have recovered from Covid without any further complications. This could go on for years - what does her consultant say? I imagine the risk is very very very low.

I have a 7 year old dd too. I really feel for you. I think you should contact school and ask what would happen if you decided to keep her home temporarily. Explain how much you value the school and that you want her to be able to return. It sounds like the school were nervous about the situation so it would be incredibly unfair of them to ask you to deregister.

In terms of socialising, are there one or two friends your dd could keep meeting up with if you decide to keep her at home - maybe for a trip to the playground together or a play in the playground?

@Cinderellashoes it’s a difficult one, from the nurses who treat my daughter they defo have seen children get v sick ( not die ) but hey very sick and need ventilation.
A lot of the children were taken of the list her condition still requires shielding.
It’s so hard to know what to believe, the risk of yes that only a small proportion of children have died ( but some are and even slightly more getting really sick ) in comparison to adults a very small amount yes however how do we really know which ones until
It happens.
She has chronic lung disease, complex congenital heart disease, intestinal failure, low white blood count, suspected ITP, psoriasis, battles sepsis 8 times.
A random acting immune system that no one really understands yet.

*play in the garden.

I'd hate for my 9 year old not to go to school so I do feel for you. We have a guy at work who is early 50s and v fit (runs daily) but had 3 heart attacks last year and was told by his doctor that if he got coronavirus his chances wouldn't be great. He still comes to work and we were saying to him that perhaps he shouldn't. With that in mind I think I'd be more likely to not send her in. Also, in our area it seems that a different school has a whole year group being sent home every day. I think I'd get her doctors opinion on it and take it from there.

Talk to the school. I cant believe they would make it difficult for you to keep her at home if you decided that was best.

[quote Someonetakemebackto91]@Southernsoftie76
She is 7. My mind is so torn if the school would agree without issue I don’t think I would hesitate but worried if I have to remove her from register.[/quote]
If she is still on the shielding list then there should be no issues with school, as she would be staying off under medical advice (as per this advice from Wilts Council). The vast majority of children were removed from the shielding list (including those with cystic fibrosis, children needing oxygen support and some children with cancer) so for her to still be on the list, her consultant must feel it is particularly important for her to shield. Have you spoken to her medical team for their opinion?

Yes.

I'm so sorry you are in this position xx

This is from Wilts Council.
If your child is staying off due to medical advice (ie still shielding) you won't be fined, and you will not Have to de register - plus school have to provide remote learning for her.
It sounds as though she should definitely be home, especially if cases have risen locally.

We have arranged with school that if there are children with symptoms (not tested positive) in his bubble, he can be pulled out, and if cases rise locally he can be pulled out. We have just had it agreed with the welfare officer, and our GP has written a letter supporting this, alongside advice that if shielding is reintroduced nationally or locally, he should stay home.

I’d take her out.

Pull her out, absolutely.

I am very very pro schools being in school and generally always say this on threads about what to do. However I'm an SEN teacher and I think that probably if I were you and it's possible for you to do so I would take her out. There's no distancing in schools and nothing that could really stop a virus spreading. I feel it would be too risky if a cold has affected her that way and I feel you would be panicked all year even if nothing happened . Can the school work with you though to help educate her at home ?

If you're on Facebook, join the BRTUS group on there. They have a lot of templates now from letters that people have sent, and there are a lot of people with children in similar situations, so you can find very good advice on your options.
All the best. I hate that the government is putting people in this situation of either going back to undistanced classrooms or deregistering.

Don't be pressurised into voluntarily deregistering her. The LA have no legal obligation to fund the education of deregistered HE DC. I presume she has an EHCP? Speak directly to your LA and let them communicate with the school.