Husband doesn’t believe in the coronavirus

[Sarah2023]

My husband is driving me crazy, he’s majorly lost the plot because of the new restrictions. We are both self employed and have suffered badly this year, his business more. I totally understand he is frustrated about the whole situation but he keep having a go because I think it’s as bad as it it and that we have no choice but to stick with the restrictions and calling me a sheep etc, picking fights about it, even this I have said we can agree to disagree. It’s really driving me crazy and worrying me. I’m a firm believer in we will make it through, even if things get tough, and there are worse people off then us. I know I’m sounding weird but I’m just finding it hard.

Just let him post on the nhs thread on here . They will put him right. Or make him watch the documentary about the hospital in italy.

There a lot of people with similar views to your husband. I see it all the time on social media! Must be so frustrating when you have two different views in the house though. My hubby is more anxious about it than me. But I have friends and relatives who don't believe in it.. 🙄

I have tried tell him that, apparently the flu kills more people, he didn’t see that he just one of those people that believe that everything is a conspiracy at the moment

I’m so sorry, OP. Definitely a handhold. This would drive me round the bend and I’m not sure what I would do especially if he was picking arguments with me, ESPECIALLY about easily proven facts. You know how long it takes to prove COVID has killed more people than the flu in any of the last four years in England? Five minutes. FIVE minutes on Google, to get an official publication. It’s killed almost 15,000 more than even England’s worst flu year, and COVID’s death rate for the year isn’t over yet, though obviously I hope there’s no large second wave. I’ve attached the flu figures, available from this link (page 54):
assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/895233/Surveillance_Influenza_and_other_respiratory_viruses_in_the_UK_2019_to_2020_FINAL.pdf

People like that spouting total shite like that just pisses me right off. If he refuses to see that he’s gone off the edge with conspiracy theories (sounds unlikely, unfortunately), and refuses to agree to disagree (you said you tried and he was having none of it), then what to do you do? I hesitate to say LTB, but I would at least tell him that you’re not going to put up with it much longer and live with constant arguments, so he needs to figure out what means more to him: constantly arguing about his stupid arsehole conspiracy theories 24/7, or you.

People are now losing the plot over this as they have had enough, probably didn’t realise it would drag on so long, now it’s easier to believe there’s no problem than face the prospect of no end in sight.

I saw a poll in the Telegraph earlier that showed nearly half of people will not be following restrictions.

My dp is the same op - has been for months now it was horrendous at the beginning because we would just be arguing about it all the time.

We thing that saved us was having an honest discussion about agreeing to disagree and that we each had a right to our own opinions and be respectful of that. We no longer talk about anything that’s going on or any of his ridiculous theories and things feel more normal even though I know we have only put a sticking plaster on it and we will have to deal with it again at some point.

It’s horrible and I feel for you. If he can let off steam to others who agree with him that might help take the pressure off you being his sounding board. But be prepared to be in it for the long haul or that it might be a dealbreaker for the relationship.

I despair! It’s a virus, not Father Christmas. It will do it’s thing whether people believe in it or not. Unfortunately you can’t vaccinate against stupidity.

@Sarah2023

I have tried tell him that, apparently the flu kills more people, he didn’t see that he just one of those people that believe that everything is a conspiracy at the moment

You should point him to the ONS death statistics on their website. Since January there have been over 52,000 more deaths than the five year average, that's a 14% increase. Bearing in mind we didn't start seeing deaths escalating until march.

And if he tries to say that "those deaths were just registered as covid but weren't really", nope. Those are all deaths, from all causes, and so are ON TOP OF FLU. Some causes i.e. suicides are up, but others like car accidents are down due to lockdown. Regardless, these 50k+ deaths aren't fake or a conspiracy.

calling me a sheep
Baa. Tell him sometimes there's nothing wrong with being a sheep 🐑.

@SheepandCow

calling me a sheep Baa. Tell him sometimes there's nothing wrong with being a sheep 🐑.

I think the fact that conspiracy theorists are encouraged to insult others into believing them says something about how true they are likely to be. In addition to the preposterousness of them.

He’s taking your opposition as a personal attack on his beliefs. I think a lot of people who’ve been sucked into covid-denial just can’t cope with the enormity of the situation and have opted to take back control by dismissing it.

Your best bet is to agree that the subject is off limits and you only discuss the situation you’re in at the time. That only works if he can keep it to himself around you. If you wish to follow government advice that’s up to you and not up for discussion and equally neither is his rejection of it.

It’s really difficult

@SheepandCow

calling me a sheep Baa. Tell him sometimes there's nothing wrong with being a sheep 🐑.

Indeed. Isn’t it the sheep’s who stray from the flock who find themselves strangled by fences?

We’re always short staffed at our care home.
We have a positive case in at the moment, and a few suspected.
Would he care to join us???

Thought not.

Rather be a sheep that a donkey

We’ve had staff on ventilators too.
They could have been faking it of course.