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Scared of dying of Coronavirus

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Nicedayforawedding · 19/09/2020 01:41

Friends tell me I’m over anxious but I’m in the vulnerable category and ds has been very ill recently which has made me more worried. It’s not Coronavirus but he’s had a cold and chesty cough. We had to get tested and the fear is making me ill.

I wish ds didn’t have to go to school but I don’t want to get fined or lose my school place so I have sent him in. It’s just so worrying because many schools have closed and we are in a high risk area. The worry is making me ill.

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SarahMcGx · 19/09/2020 01:49

You have every right to be anxious I'm exactly the same! I have a 3 month old and try to avoid as much as I can! It's not great that the schools are still open I think they shouldn't of opened for at least another year! But unfortunately if you don't send a child to school you get a fine which is ridiculous! Especially if you're in high category as well, all I can suggest is staying as protected as you can from other people. You're not over reacting I feel the exact same about all of it x

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Nicedayforawedding · 19/09/2020 01:54

It’s awful, I’m more depressed by the day with the situation and very anxious. My ds loves his friends and teachers, I don’t want to take him out of school. Was on the brink of deregister him but the head talked me round but I still don’t feel it’s safe.

I’m on my own and if I get ill there is no one to take care of ds. He will go into care which terrifies me.

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XDownwiththissortofthingX · 19/09/2020 01:56

Do you realise that this level of anxiety isn't normal or rational?

Please go to your doctor and discuss it. You can't live like this, it's totally debilitating.

Bluelinings · 19/09/2020 01:59

I understand. Having to send the children back when I have underlying issues too. I suffered no anxiety or fear of the virus previously and coped well with lockdown until this month. It’s not a paranoia think it’s a logically understanding the risks of undistanced schools thing.

It’s easy for people to say it’s not normal when they’re not coping with this.

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Nicedayforawedding · 19/09/2020 02:05

I was calmer in lockdown. It was hard but I felt safer, now it’s just a matter of time before we catch it well that’s how I feel.
We are in the place with the highest infection rate in Uk so I feel my fears are real and I’m not hysterical.

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Nicedayforawedding · 19/09/2020 02:06

Ds has cough and cold despite the hygiene measures at school which suggests it’s not preventing the spread of viruses. Coronavirus is air born and will spread in a class room.

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Pachonga · 19/09/2020 02:07

I’m high risk too and have had many a wobble about it but you must be absolutely exhausted to be feeling like this all the time, I really feel
for you.

I agree with the pp who said a chat with your GP is in order. Apart from anything, they can help you put your risk into context. For example, I am twice as likely to die of Covid than someone my age without my chronic health issues. However, I am still 98.6% likely to survive. That’s great odds, imo.

Lots of love to you. This is very tough for a lot of people.

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Nicedayforawedding · 19/09/2020 02:12

I can try to see the GP, very hard to get appointments these days and all done via a message system. They will only see people who are urgent cases.

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XDownwiththissortofthingX · 19/09/2020 02:17

You are an urgent case. You are living with crippling anxiety and mounting depression.

Don't make the mistake of thinking 'urgent cases' means people in crippling physical pain only. A&E is for urgent injuries etc, it's absolutely reasonable for you to expect to see a GP right now.

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Nicedayforawedding · 19/09/2020 02:22

My very lovely GP died of Coronavirus, he was a wonderful man. I could ask to see one of the other GPs there though.

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Pachonga · 19/09/2020 02:29

I agree, this is an urgent case. I’m sorry about your GP

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 19/09/2020 02:30

I'm sorry to hear that, and yes, I'm sure one of the other doctors in your surgery would be happy to see you if you explain that you are at a point where you feel you aren't really dealing with the worry this is causing.

Please don't worry about how this looks. It's just a gentle chat with a helpful GP. Nothing will happen without your consent, and they wont try to force you to take pills you don't want to or anything like that. It's just a discussion to have a think through what might help you.

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Nicedayforawedding · 19/09/2020 02:34

I don’t think I’d feel as stressed out of it wasn’t for us being in a very high risk area. A friend of mine had 17 of his colleagues come down with Coronavirus and lots of people are testing positive in our area.

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BensonStabler · 19/09/2020 09:25

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KitKatastrophe · 19/09/2020 09:36

Unfortunately nothing that we say on here will allay your anxiety. I could quote all sorts of statistics but you wouldnt believe them or if you did, you would be thinking "what if..." all the time. What if I'm one of the 1%. You need to speak to a professional.

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