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Y9 class is self isolating - can she see her dad at weekend?

24 replies

Longlockdown · 17/09/2020 07:50

Hi, her year group were sent home on Monday for 14 days. No symptoms in our house at all. Me and her sister still allowed to go to work / school.
They're due to go to their dad's (eow) the weekend after this one.
Can she still go, or just sister? I know there was a variation in the rules in lockdown for separated parents.
I think its No, he thinks it's Yes.
Thanks

OP posts:

BrokenBrit · 17/09/2020 07:51

You are right, it’s a no for the one on SI sadly. They aren’t supposed to leave the house.

onthejobhunt101 · 17/09/2020 07:51

I think it's a no too, OP.

BridesmaidDilemma · 17/09/2020 07:56

If you are allowed to go to work she can see her dad. Its part of your bubble already. Having said that with the added risk I'd skip it this time.

pastandpresent · 17/09/2020 08:01

I think there are difference between self isolating and being under lock down. Self isolating means you need to stay put so not to spread in case you have them?

dementedpixie · 17/09/2020 08:01

They are allowed to go to work because they were not in contact with the case at school. She shouldn't see him and should stay at home.

Although, how close to the 14 days would she be? When was the contact with the case? Strictly speaking it should be 14 days from contact, not 14 days from when they were sent home.

emptyshelvesagain · 17/09/2020 08:02

@BridesmaidDilemma

If you are allowed to go to work she can see her dad. Its part of your bubble already. Having said that with the added risk I'd skip it this time.

It's the child that is isolating, not the adult. Self isolation means just that.

RemyHadley · 17/09/2020 08:22

The child has to isolate, ie not see anybody outside her home.

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Longlockdown · 17/09/2020 08:28

Don't know about exposure as don't know who has it. Email said 14 days from Mon eve.

OP posts:

dementedpixie · 17/09/2020 09:46

So the exposure could have been on Monday or more likely the Friday as the person should have been off school pending the result of the test

Augustbreeze · 17/09/2020 10:35

Good question OP and the kind of thing the NHS info should make clearer.

Lockdownfatigue · 17/09/2020 10:39

I think it’s ok? As dd is part of both households?

NoSquirrels · 17/09/2020 10:41

If she wasn't showing any symptoms by next weekend (which would be 11 days) then I would feel fine sending her to her dad's. Make a call nearer the time.

FelicityPike · 17/09/2020 10:41

No, self isolate means stay in your house. Do not go out of your house (or garden).

NoSquirrels · 17/09/2020 10:42

Having said that, I would be OK with sending her to her dad's, but I would ask him to respect that she shouldn't be out and about in public mingling with others. So going from isolating at your house to isolating at his house.

bethany39 · 17/09/2020 10:42

Guidance on SI is "do not leave your home" and "do not have visitors, including friends and family" so I think that is pretty clear that she shouldn't go.

Agree that it's 14 days from date of contact though so she'd be ok to go to her dad's if it was the Friday she was in contact with the confirmed case.

Augustbreeze · 18/09/2020 09:04

@bethany39 I think you're correct but it does need clarifying, as children in these situations have two "homes".

bethany39 · 18/09/2020 09:22

[quote Augustbreeze]@bethany39 I think you're correct but it does need clarifying, as children in these situations have two "homes".[/quote]
Yes I agree - we've had confusion here over whether we need to isolate if DSD has symptoms or vice versa. I suppose it's akin to a "support bubble" but sometimes we haven't seen her for well over 48 hours so still not sure if we should isolate!

Spinakker · 18/09/2020 09:37

It's her dad. If she's not got symptoms I think it's wrong to prevent this especially if dad is happy to meet. Surely he can decide if he wants to take a risk.

emptyshelvesagain · 18/09/2020 09:50

[quote Augustbreeze]@bethany39 I think you're correct but it does need clarifying, as children in these situations have two "homes".[/quote]

The 2 homes referred to lockdown rules; not isolating. Isolating means isolating.

emptyshelvesagain · 18/09/2020 10:00

@Spinakker

It's her dad. If she's not got symptoms I think it's wrong to prevent this especially if dad is happy to meet. Surely he can decide if he wants to take a risk.

This is the problem we have countrywide. People are not supposed to be second whether they want to take a risk, people are supposed to be following the guidelines. Self isolating means you stay at home and isolate. The isolating part is key because it is designed to prevent the spread of covid. Moving a child to another household just puts more people at risk. On an individual level, it's really not up to us to decide upon that risk.

Augustbreeze · 18/09/2020 10:09

But we are also told that it's imperative that children maintain contact with both their parents. Court orders state this.

We need guidance on which overrrules which.

emptyshelvesagain · 18/09/2020 10:15

@Augustbreeze

But we are also told that it's imperative that children maintain contact with both their parents. Court orders state this.

We need guidance on which overrrules which.

It's 2 weeks. We are not experiencing the same situation we had earlier this year with lockdown for weeks where maintaining contact was an issue. This is a 14 day self isolation for one child. She can maintain contact whilst isolating for 2 weeks. The situation is not the same as lockdown.

Frazzled2207 · 18/09/2020 10:18

I would have thought yes as long as dad is aware and willing to self isolate her at his house. Assuming no symptoms. Presume a change of scenery would do her good.

NoSquirrels · 18/09/2020 10:28

If her dad is willing to have her, they travel in a car from A-B, and she doesn't go out anywhere over the weekend at her dad's, I really cannot see what the issue is.

She's already in a household where she could have infected her sister, who will be travelling to her dad's and could be asymptomatic as much as she is. By the tail end of isolation, she's really at a small risk of passing it on to anyone, and if the household she's going to is willing to take that small risk, it should be fine.

If she DID develop symptoms whilst with her dad, right at the end of her isolation period, then he and his household would immediately isolate anyway. So no one is going to be out and about spreading it further.

Yes, follow the rules but it's a whole year group that has been sent home - I'd take this limited risk in this circumstance.

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