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[Ellsbells12]

Are you letting your parents see your children my parents are 74 and 71 and very very healthy /fit I away with them this weekend as they are in our bubble but my son has a cold and I am petrified for them !!! They have said they want to see the kids I am torn

Yes I am but not when the children are unwell with anything. My reason for this is simply to protect my parents immune system incase they do get covid.

I was very cautious before but then realised my parents (74 and 79, divorced) wanted to see us and the children and - being more adult than me (because they're my parents obv!) - they had a perfect right to decide for themselves. My dad particularly is becoming quite contemplative about being in his twilight years and doesn't want to shut himself off from all his loved ones for an indeterminate time. They both followed lockdown completely and then we started seeing them from around July onwards. I really think you have to let them decide for themselves and not keep grandchildren/yourself away from them if they want to see you all.

We didn’t to begin with but after a while they put their foot down and said it’s their risk to take and they would rather die than not be ‘allowed’ to see us. We are going to stay with them next week at their request.

@wherestheotherone

Yes I am but not when the children are unwell with anything. My reason for this is simply to protect my parents immune system incase they do get covid.

We are away and he got ill today but my kids has cold and sneezing then it goes and comes back my mum was getting depression in lockdown and I dint want that to happen again

It's a different scenario as no children involved @snowballer but I think my elderly uncle is feeling the same about his twilight years. He had a hip replacement 6 weeks before lockdown and I think his view is he didn't go through that to sit at home. His sister, my DM, died when she was a year older than he is now and I think that plays on his mind.

While I completely understand protecting the elderly and vulnerable I think we also need to take their views into account rather than making decisions for them.

We didn't at first. I also had my third baby in may and they met their first grand daughter through a window for the first weeks of her life. It broke my heart and theirs and I fill up everytime I think about it. I eventually realised I just really needed my Mam and we saw them again. My parents are mid/late 50s so not really old and we are seeing them regularly. I was worried about being around them once my kids are in school but they both work full time themselves and they've said similar to PP's, they want to take the risk and tbh I can't get rid of my mam ha! But after 3 grandsons she is just besotted with my daughter and I'm not taking that away from her!

I'm also scared to pass anything to my parents but if I were in their position, I would want to see dgc. Their relationship is already damaged with social distancing & in laws live in another country & we won't see them this year. We're in a restricted area but parents only live 3 miles away.

Will be lead by them & their choice but 2 family friends their age have died recently & suddenly. How shit if they die of something else & we missed spending time together