My dd14 will not manage if she has to go into isolation

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The year below DD’s has just gone into isolation and she is freaking out.

She won’t manage in the house for 14 days. She does not have good mental health and is on medication and in private bi-weekly therapy.

She will need to leave the house to run every day. She cannot manage without this.

I am really worried. If this happens I’m going to have to let her run at night or early morning. I genuinely think she will hurt herself otherwise and won’t that be worse? What can I do?

Could I get her a quick private test instead?

No a test would not help in the absence of symptoms

Let her run, she will not infect anyone outside if she stays away from them.

She will be able to run won’t she? Or will she be expected to isolate alone dinner on a tray by the door type thing?

I would do what you need to do to keep her healthy. If she needs to run then I am sure that can be done without putting others at risk

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If this is real, then you need to speak to the therapist you're paying to help her - who will be familiar with her condition - instead of asking randoms on the internet for advice.

Can you sit down with her an explore alternatives, because the fact is she is going to have to isolate if that is what is required. Are there on-line classes she can do? Is there someone you know who can lend you a treadmill? Could you buy one?

Unfortunately, whilst we all sympathise with people for whom this is difficult, it is one of those situations where you just have to do something you don’t want to do and find really hard. What can you do to help mentally and physically equip her to deal with this, rather than say she just can’t do it?

My house is very small: there’s no room for a treadmill. I would definitely do this if needed.

I will speak to her therapist, but I doubt she will tell me to go against government guidance. The whole year is supposed to stay at home for 14 days and not leave the house after a positive.

But how can running be more risky than her potentially ending up in a and e etc?

I don’t know why this wouldn’t be serious. She has been assessed by CAMHS but doesn’t hit their threshold so I pay for private therapy. It really helps. But staying indoors is her worst thing.

I tried to talk to her tonight but she got very distressed.

Would it really be so bad to let her run at night or early in the day? I know it’s the rules - but honestly what risk could there possibly be?

Of course let her run, choose a time hardly anyone is about and a route hardly anyone uses and instruct her to cross the road (safely) if necessary to avoid anyone coming.

Why have a whole year to go into isolation?
A friends child was in class with a positive case and they were told to isolate for 10 days and get tested, test back in 24 hrs was negative. If it’s indirect contact it’s just 10 days of being stringent with hygiene.
That’s the guidelines here in Scotland.

Just let her run.

Of course you would let her run, especially in those circumstances.

Just let her go for a run ffs

Quarantine rules are not different in Scotland. 10 days isolation if you have symptoms and 14 days if you have had contact with a positive case. A negative test does not shorten the 14 days due to the incubation period.

but I'd let your dd go for a run if she would have no contact with anyone

Thanks all - you’ve made me feel better.

@SBTLove here the bubbles are year groups and one case means the whole year isolates. It’s mad. Three years isolating in my town which is in a low risk area.

What would you do if she tested positive for COVID?

Running where there is no contact with others is safer than her going into crisis

There is a risk but this can be minimised. If she runs at really quiet times in places where there are few people and avoids going anywhere near them. I would be aware though that dark nights and mornings are coming so wherever she goes needs to be safe for her too.
IMO a run to keep her mental health is very low risk compared with the alternative and it must be a difficult situation for you both.

Agree with letting her run. Also, many therapists will do phone or video sessions, worth asking hers if that's an option for two weeks if it came to it.

I will speak to her therapist, but I doubt she will tell me to go against government guidance.

Maybe not, but she should be able to offer support and advice to manage the situation.

Yes definitely let her go, she won’t infect anyone running.
I know it’s nearly impossible to run with a mask on but if it made you/her feel better could she swap it for a brisk walk with a mask on that will lower the chance of her passing anything on further.

Honestly if we go into another full lockdown I think there will be a huge number of people unable to cope with it. It’s terrifying

If everyone who was meant to be isolating was going out for daily exercise, then there would be little point in having isolation.

Cummings has lot to answer for.

Let her run pick a route where less people and keep distance will be fine.
No doubt if full year group off there will be teens breaking rules by hanging out, shopping & mixing. .. an run alone will be fine

I have a 16 year old dd whose mental health is not good at the moment and she needs to get out and run, let your daughter go for a run at a quieter time.

It won't take 14 days isolation if she has a test, I don't see what harm a night tun would do if she wears a mask and keeps a good distance. If she is positive she may not have the energy to run I'd insist on full isolation meals on a tray, masks on if she tested positive.