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I don’t think my mental health will manage another lockdown

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WaffleDogg20 · 11/09/2020 19:32

I have depression and anxiety and BPD.

This last 6 months have been awful, my anxiety is through the roof and Iv had to have my tablets upped to the max dose.

I felt like life was getting abit better, but this week it’s taken a massive nose dive due to the news and fear of a second wave.

I don’t know if I can mentally go on a strict lockdown and hve the kids home 24/7 again.
😩

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TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair · 11/09/2020 19:35

I think a huge number of people feel the same.

Do you have any support at all?

TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair · 11/09/2020 19:35

I think a huge number of people feel the same

Do you have any support at all?

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WaffleDogg20 · 11/09/2020 19:36

Not really, my Dh is working long hours atm with over time.

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SummerHouse · 11/09/2020 19:38

What you have gone through is the hardest part. There will not be another lockdown. Here (Mumsnet) is not a good place for you to be right now. Go for a walk, do some yoga, watch your favourite feel good film, look at the sky, hug your kids... Whatever is coming will not be as bad as how you felt in march.

kittensarecute · 11/09/2020 19:41

@WaffleDogg20

I have depression and anxiety and BPD.

This last 6 months have been awful, my anxiety is through the roof and Iv had to have my tablets upped to the max dose.

I felt like life was getting abit better, but this week it’s taken a massive nose dive due to the news and fear of a second wave.

I don’t know if I can mentally go on a strict lockdown and hve the kids home 24/7 again.
😩

Same here, I feel broken today. Sending love xxx

november90 · 11/09/2020 19:45

You're absolutely not alone. I've barely been able to think straight since the new 6 person rule has been announced. My husband walked out on me at 24 weeks pregnant in jan. we now have 2 children and he's been extremely emotionally abusive to me. The first lockdown was tough but my gorgeous baby being born in the middle somewhat distracted me from it all and took me away from it abit. I honestly don't know how I'll manage a second lockdown. I'm so worried. I'm worried how bored my eldest will be and I'm worried how stressed and lonely I'm going to fee :( I can't switch off from it!

PicsInRed · 11/09/2020 19:46

Yeah, I'm really not up for another lockdown. Did it once for the country, but I think I'm done. The economy's done too.

Itsabeautifuldayheyhey · 11/09/2020 19:50

The Govt have said they are taking local lockdown measures to prevent returning to a full lockdown. As a country we cannot afford another national lockdown. I really believe there won't be another.

I live in an area where more restrictions have been introduced so households cannot mix with each other now (indoors or outdoors). However, nothing else has changed. We can still go to the shops, gym, hairdressers, pubs, restaurants etc but just can't mix with other households for now. It's not great but not the end of the world either. It won't last forever. One day we'll look back and say "Do you remember when......"

cologne4711 · 11/09/2020 19:52

As a country we cannot afford another national lockdown. I really believe there won't be another

I agree. I don't think you need to worry.

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WaffleDogg20 · 11/09/2020 19:59

It’s just the constant worry. The kids are loving being back at school but at any moment they could be told to isolate 😩

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TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair · 11/09/2020 20:00

Can you pick up the phone to your gp OP? I know there isn't necessarily brilliant support out there but if you have BPD it sounds like you could do with more than just tablets to get you through the next few months.

Are you in any online support groups? Do you have anything on the cards to look forward to or distract you? I like knitting and I find that having small projects on the go gives my mind a bit of a break and gives me a goal. I also did a mindfulness course this year and it's really brilliant for anxiety. It might be worth trying, just to give you a tool to feel you can cope that bit more.

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WaffleDogg20 · 11/09/2020 21:12

Thank you, I will ring my psychiatrist on Monday.

I have nothing to look forward too and I think that’s one of the problems. I just feel so out of control of my life atm :(

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Gymntonic · 11/09/2020 21:25

Please try and hold onto the fact that the measures being taken now are to ensure that schools will stay open and people can stay at work. Medics are far better informed about treating people who get covid. They are not a return to lockdown.
What was helping you feel a little better? Were you beginning to look forward to something in particular? Are there any things that you enjoy about autumn that you can try and do in the weeks ahead - soft jumpers, warm meals, hot chocolate, collecting blackberries and conkers? Do you have any self calming routines when thoughts start to spiral? Music, focused breathing, walking? Little things to soothe the senses and reassure.
Please do get in touch with your psychiatrist.

The80sweregreat · 11/09/2020 21:33

It will just be local lockdowns I feel. The economy cannot take another complete shutdown.
It'll have to be rammed home to follow the rules and carry on. ( I really hope I'm right. )
Another lockdown would be the very last resort.
Who knows though?

Breathevenly · 11/09/2020 21:40

Today I reached rock bottom. I've decided to quit reading this forum from tonight and I won't be reading or listening to news. I just can't bear it anymore. If anyone wants me I shall be in my garden😟

stayathomer · 11/09/2020 21:45

OP theres some of us that will manage another lockdown and we'll stay home etc to give people like you who need some breathing space a break. I agree it won't be as severe as before. Talk to anyone you can and hugs and take care

amusedtodeath1 · 11/09/2020 21:58

Hey OP. I fully understand why you would feel like this, you have enough on your plate without Covid on top.

Please do speak to your MH team about how you're feeling and anyone else who might be able to help support you through this.

I think full lockdown is unlikely and the Govt. seem to be trying to avoid that at all costs. I don't think it will be as bad as it was last time. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but eventually this will be over and you and your lovely DC will be happy.

Look after yourself OP

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 11/09/2020 22:13

Me either. I barely made it out of the last one. Can't do anymore enforced family time and another extended separation from my therapist would finish me. I don't think they will though. It has devastated the economy and they are prioritising that, for right or wrong.

colouringindoors · 11/09/2020 22:13

OP you're not alone.

I barely made it through lockdown and that was with sunshine. I'm no good in winter anyway let alone now. Feel like I'm hanging on by a thread.

i don't think they'll shut schools as much second time though.

it's so hard

The80sweregreat · 11/09/2020 22:33

It's a tightrope now. The economy took a huge hit and needs to try and bounce back a bit.
Without it working well , there won't be any money for schools or the NHS. I doubt another national lockdown would be very successful either as people just won't comply at all. That's what I think anyway.
I'm not sure what will happen , but it'll be a hard winter I'm sure. I just hope we can get through it without another
lockdown!

MrsGradyOldLady · 11/09/2020 22:42

I hear you. I have a 20 year old daughter who's been through Cahms and now adult mental health who I'm seriously worried about. When the 6 person limit thing was announced my heart plummeted. Because my daughter is already in an HMO of 8 which means none of them can have their boyfriends/girlfriends/casual shag over. I knew as soon as the news hit that her mood would plummet and I was correct. I'm trying to talk herself out of suicide right now.

But as long as the fucking baby boomers can live forever 👌

mrsnorrismeow · 11/09/2020 22:46

Plenty of people's won't, but unfortunately this site is full of dismissive arseholes who like to sneer "why don't you have any resilience" and "but you do realise you are still allowed out, don't you" and "do you want the vulnerable to die"

Lots of people are collateral damage in this shitshow

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