Quarantine & kids seeing ex

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My ex lives with his girlfriend, she's just back from a country with a really high infection and death rate and so is subject to quarantine. Thing is, he still expects our (adult, still living at home with me) kids to go over to stay with him for his weekend today. He wasn't going to tell me about her being in Quarantine, but one of them told me. I've since messaged him and said I don't want them to go to his until her quarantine is over. Am I over reacting?

Surely its up to your adult kids to decide if they want to see their father or not?

Even if they lived with their Dad and his new GF, they wouldn’t be expected to quarantine just because she had to, so personally unless you or they are at high risk, I think you’re over reacting.

That's true, and I'm aware that I can't stop them if they want to go, I just thought that the guidance was no visitors whilst in quarantine and based my decision on that. I'm very aware that I'm probably over reacting. I work in a school where a high proportion of the pupils are in one of the vulnerable groups so have been involved in the risk assessment process and am probably a bit over the top with my own social distancing etc because of this, so appreciate you sharing your viewpoint.

There's nothing to stop people not in quarantine having visitors, even when someone in the house is in quarantine. It's up to the children what they wish to do.

Where is she coming back from? For most of the countries, the high rates are isolated to certain areas. She may not have been within 100 miles of the virus.

It’s for the adult children to decide.

I assume father’s partner can keep in separate room?

Appreciate your anxiety given partner have come bacK from Brazil, US or Mexico

It was Brazil, and the infection rate is very high in the area she was in. My boys have said she and my ex are not socially distancing from each other at all since she's been back so I can't see her doing so when they are there. I'll talk to them some more & see how they feel about it. I know my 18 year old is relieved I said no as he didn't want to go but felt he had to. Thank you for all your comments.