Rules regarding separated parents...

[november90]

So my ex lives with his parents and has our son 2 nights a week.... when he sleeps there am I right in thinking his cousins can't stay over there as well as that would be three households mixing? He's been doing this behind my my back despite agreeing that he wouldn't and it is making my blood boil! He's broken lockdown rules in the past and his sisters are travelling all over the place mixing with loads of people!
We also have a 14 week baby and he's never asked to have him but now he wants him on 2 separate days and I am feeling extremely uncomfortable.

It's a difficult one because your child would be part of your exs bubble - if he lives with his parents then technically your child, ex & his parents are 1 bubble. Which would make it 2 'bubbles' if the cousins stayed over - I think!

Yes I agree with @Shitfuckoh unfortunately OP. I don't think enough clear guidance has been given to separated households. Gingerbread, the single parents charity, has some quite useful stuff though:

www.gingerbread.org.uk/coronavirus/

What would feel more comfortable with regarding your baby?

When you say 2 seperate days, do you mean seperate to the days he has your son?
if so, I'd have him take both children at the same time as then that means you actually get a break. If he's never had the baby before then perhaps building up to full days so starting with an hour or 2 walk round the park whilst the weather is still decent?

A child with their parent is one household just as they are when the child is with you.

Urgh it's very frustrating isn't it how unclear it is! Especially when you're dealing with difficult co parents!!!!

We had this with DH and his ex. She left the kids with us from March through to July, her choice as she wasn’t doing any social distancing. As soon as she had them back she was telling them that it wasn’t real and they’ve all been staying over at their mates. Nothing you can do except take it with a big pinch of salt. Either that or suggest DC stay in one house? School will be back soon, can’t see anything being more risky than that really.

Your son is considered part of your Ex's household so it's not mixing 3 at least not as far as we've understood it. I wouldn't die on this hill OP. You've got no comeback here and it's just not worth it. School is about to go back and the whole thing is going to go out the window anyway.

Thanks guys! I haven't said anything about the sleepovers because I know it's very much a case of pick your battles... but it bothers me that he has lied about it and makes me question what else is going on!
Anyway thanks for clarifying everyone! 😊