32 weeks pregnant and hugged against my will

[kedooo]

Went out Sat eve with my fiancée to meet his friends who are a couple in a beer garden. After 4 months of strict lockdown I've started seeing friends outdoors, 2 metres apart. They were drinking I was of course sober. His friend who I don't know well just grabbed me and hugged me. I'm really angry and worried now, it just happened so quickly. Starting to think now I should just stay in and try to avoid people.

I was in town the other day too and a friend I've not seen in ages out of nowhere came towards me to hug me but this time I had chance to say 'I'm not doing hugs atm'. Am I being over the top? If I wasn't pregnant I wouldn't be so worried

You're not being over the top and I don't blame you for being angry.

BUT - the risk from being hugged by one friend is really really small, you'd have to be incredibly unlucky to catch it from her. Stick with the strict social distancing as recommended and there is every chance you'll be absolutely fine.

(40 weeks pregnant here so I get where you are coming from - too many people are bloody idiots...)

Sorry for the shit typing, just trying to get my eyes to roll back round.

Drunk people forget social distancing, but friend in town doesn't have that excuse. No wonder the bloody thing is spreading if this is happening repeatedly.

Don't worry too much. Nothing you can do about it now. Two quick interactions are likely to be ok.

This is the main reason I haven't been out to a pub since early March. I KNOW what I'm like after a drink, i just want to hug everyone, so I'm doing them all a favour and staying at home ans keeping my drunken hugs to myself.

Try not to worry too much xx

Thank you for the kind replies! I think going forward I'm just going to avoid people who will be drinking as I think for most people then social distancing goes out of the window. We live in wales and only today pubs are open indoors. I feel bad telling my fiancée I don't want him to go to pubs and see friends but I don't want to risk getting covid before the birth, or after when the baby will be so vulnerable. Think I'll probably have to go into strict lockdown for 6 months when the baby is here

If it helps at all, I'm 36 weeks and very relaxed about Covid (before anyone pounces, we're all entitled to our opinions). I've been out shopping, been out for meals, hugged people and so far, so good. My point is, try not to wind yourself up by this one event - the chances of you having contracted it are extremely slim and the chances of becoming poorly or harming your baby are also very very very low.

@IHTC thank you 🙏 I should probably not worry about it so much as I am!

@IHTC

You’re entitled to your opinions, and you’re entitled to be relaxed about catching Covid yourself; given the risks as a young woman, that’s not unreasonable. Personally, I’m not that bothered either.

But you’re not entitled to behave in a way that disregards the risk of spreading infection to others who are potentially at much higher risk, and act in a way that would very likely cause a second wave if everyone does what you do.

Your attitude is the definition of selfishness - just concerned about you and your own personal risk, seemingly oblivious to your impact on others.

@kedooo

Given infection levels are currently low, and given the risk even if you did get Covid is very low, the likelihood anything bad will happen as a result are tiny.

However, people definitely shouldn’t be coming up and hugging you. Even if they are nonchalant about Covid, it’s rude and selfish to assume others will be the same, especially as you are pregnant.

Yanbu

I've been amazed at how many people just don't follow the rules and assume others won't or aren't.

My opinion is it's fine for others not to worry. Fine for them to have their opinion but it's so bloody entitled and arrogant to foist your actions and therefore opinions on others.

I went out the other day with ds to a theme park.

Most people were fine. The odd one would come right up and try and take photos over our heads of animals and one family actually crowders right around us as we paid for a photo.

I was fuming. Not because they did it as such but because they should have at least asked and respected if I wanted SD or not.

I would t avoid going out but I would make sure I was on guard and certainly say to people to back off!

Thanks for the replies, I've decided I'm definitely not going to go out to places where people will be drinking alcohol as this seems to be when a lot of people just forget about social distancing. I am still upset by what happened but trying not to worry as it's done now

@Derbygerbil

Quite rude to call someone you do not know anything about or how they behave selfish. Hope it's made you feel better lovely. Have a wonderful day

@IHTC

It doesn’t make me feel any better... You said you were ignoring advice about Covid transmission because you weren’t worried about your own personal health, without any consideration, or even awareness, of how your behaviour might impact others. It’s the very definition of selfish behaviour.

I just came on here to say that I think saying ‘I’m not doing hugs at the moment’ is a really nice way to explain yourself. I’m not a hugger, but I wouldn’t be offended if someone said that to me.

@Ohchristmastreeohchristmastree ahh thank you! I hate offending people so this makes me feel better :)

@kedooo

Yanbu, I m 28 weeks and would be annoyed if someone hugged me without my permission even if it wasn't a pandemic right now.

I wouldn't feel bad about asking your fiance to avoid the pub/crowded places a bit before your due date, if he catches it and you live together then you would likely have to have an isolated birth on the ward with him not being allowed there.