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Need advice, really struggling

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Lissy23 · 02/08/2020 08:56

Long post coming up...

So our council is part of the new restricted area and we are not supposed to mix with other households indoors or even in their garden...but we are still allowed to go to the pub 🤷‍♀️
My mental health took a huge spiral during lockdown and I think if I’d have been by myself with my son, I would have been a danger to myself (not to him). I had regular suicidal thoughts.
Now that they’ve reintroduced these restrictions, I feel heartbroken. We were only mixing with one other household regularly, that was my in laws. My parents don’t live here, although I saw them last week for the first time in almost 6 months. Now I don’t know when I’ll get to see them again. My mum was going to come up in a couple of weeks to stay, but obviously that won’t be happening now, unless these new restrictions are lifted.
Online it says you can still go to someone’s house or they to yours if you’re in a support bubble with them, but highlights the fact you need to be a single household.
When my partner goes back to work full time in September, once again I’m going to be alone with my almost 2 year old, no playgroups to go to and they were the main things keeping me afloat previously, especially not having my parents nearby.
But I’ve always relied heavily on my in laws.
They have said they’d be okay to join up and form a bubble with us if the restrictions are still in place come September, but obviously it’s technically against the rules as neither of us are a single household. But I need to think of my mental state as well as physical. We would only see them and no one else, until restrictions are lifted again.

I’m just wondering what any of you would do in this situation. It would mean ongoing support from my in laws and especially when my mental health really takes a dip, I don’t/can’t be by myself with him.
I am thinking of contacting the police on 101 or the GP and ask for their permission, I know it sounds pathetic, but I really don’t want to do the wrong thing, conversely, I need to keep myself safe.
We get all our deliveries online, so don’t really go to the supermarket or shops.
We also haven’t stepped foot in a pub or beer garden since you were ‘allowed’ to.

If you got this far, thank you 🙏

OP posts:
Lissy23 · 02/08/2020 08:56

Just to add, I have/had PND too

OP posts:
LaurieMarlow · 02/08/2020 09:00

I absolutely would OP. There’s strong justification.

Maybe chat it through with your GP if they’re likely to be sympathetic.

Freddiefox · 02/08/2020 09:29

It’s fine just join a bubble, but just discreet.

giletrouge · 02/08/2020 10:02

Hasn't giving vulnerable people care and support always been a justified reason for contact? You'd come into this category I would have thought OP.
I see nothing against it, and I would imagine your GP would support you in this.
Hope you feel better soon. Flowers

Spinakker · 02/08/2020 10:20

No one will police you and if they do well say you've got a mental health condition. Your in-laws agree so it's fine. Please don't torture yourself. It'll be good for you to have their support.

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