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Does anyone else's parents cough openly?

9 replies

YellowWave · 31/07/2020 09:37

I wouldn't consider my mother to be elderly as such. She's 66. She's in good shape.

She has a habit of coughing openly around the home. She's not a smoker thank goodness and it's not a smokers cough. I'm not in the UK and the virus is suppressed where I am. Chances would be slim if its a viral cough. She's coughs regularly around the home.. I think it's more dust related cough and clearing her throat.

She's been watching all the virus doom and gloom since February and March. Sometimes even panicking in the kitchen chair at the news. I remember one incident there was a man on the news. He recorded a video from his hospital bed struggling to breath. It was on the news. I have 1 brother living at home and my mother panicked and said he had to watch this. He has to know about this. I stopped her and said, sure what can he do about that man in hospital? He's following the guidelines and staying at home and there's not a lot more he can do. It was real panic from her.

I was chatting to my brother on the phone to Australia telling him about the panic from her. Thankfully on the next phone call home from him, he said that he limits watching TV and the news about the virus and he's better off turning off the TV. My mother started doing this then.

Anyways my mother is failing to understand that there's a window for the virus when people contract it and it takes some days to show symptoms. She's failing to understand that bit and she coughs openly about the home without a care in the world if she's spreading her germs to me and my brother.

Then last night, I saw her sanitising a lot of the kitchen surfaces, even inside the dishwasher, I swear to god, she wiped down the inside doow of the dishwasher before wiping down the washing machine door.

She definitely wasn't trying to clean the kitchen of the germs she likes to cough about the place. She was probably doing it thinking I'm diseased and leaving disease all over the kitchen. Like I go to work and sometimes work 12 hours a day. There are so many times when I don't get a chance to use the washing machine.

One day she coughed into the fridge. Another day I was eating breakfast and she came over to the side of the table and coughed over my breakfast.

She does the same with sneezes. She refuses to cover her sneezes.

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Bumble84 · 31/07/2020 09:40

Yes! I had visitors inside my home (family I might add) and one of them sneezed and barely got her hand to her face. I know sneezes can catch you off guard but there wasn’t even a hand wash or hand gel afterwards. I was horrified and this is why I don’t want visitors in my house!

Jrobhatch29 · 31/07/2020 09:41

My dad does this 😂 he always has. It is like a habit. I have told him he will have to reign it in to try and stop it 😂

moklty · 31/07/2020 09:59

You live with your mother?

SengaStrawberry · 31/07/2020 10:01

Why don’t you just say to her she should be coughing into a hanky and then washing her hands?

She’s surely not going to take offence at that. All seems like a bit of a non issue if you don’t just say that to her.

YellowWave · 31/07/2020 10:05

I asked her a few times to cover her cough. That she should be coughing into her elbow or use a tissue.

Eventually I stopped asking her in case she was doing it on purpose to try and get a reaction out of me.

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MorningManiacMusic · 31/07/2020 12:01

How foul. Not just during a pandemic but in general.
I'd risk offending her and be buggered.

yarncakes · 31/07/2020 12:28

Yes my dad does it. He gets arsey with me when I tell him to cover his mouth or use a tissue. I love him to bits but it really pisses me off.

YellowWave · 31/07/2020 12:47

To date I wasn't getting pissed off with her and telling her what to do. I was asking and gently nudging her and reminding her to cover her mouth when she's coughing and to cover her sneezes. I'm certainly not ordering her about. She's able for it, as in me asking her to cover her coughs.

I even dressed it all up she should be doing it to protect my brother/her son - her favourite. I told her him being male, he wou have a harder time fighting off the virus. I told her he's also doing drugs. I reminders her of the weed we smell every night coming from his room. I told her if she picks up the virus, her body will carry it without showing symptoms and she could still be infectious. I told her if my brother gets the virus, it is likely he will die because of his weed habit. So she behaves around him. She displays some hygiene around him but when it comes to me, she doesn't give a toss.

The TV was on in the background earlier and there was doctor on it saying that it is important that we all do our bit of hand hygiene and displaying good cough and sneeze etiquette and self isolating if we feel ill, to protect everyone else around us. I really don't think it registered with her. I don't know if she's capable of thinking beyond herself on this matter.

Lately I've been doing fake coughs in the kitchen openly. Just to see how she likes it. It doesn't register with her.

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crosseyedMary · 31/07/2020 13:16

Just protect yourself and avoid anyone who doesn't behave in a covid safe way

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