Feeling so sad tonight

[Lissy23]

My area has been put under the new restrictions of not meeting people from another household indoors.
My mental health is bad at the best of times and it’s dresdful to say the least at the moment.
I’ve been relying on my in laws and we’ve been going round to see them regularly since we were allowed to. They’ve been helping out with my two year old as I still have PND and struggle majorly. My family don’t live nearby, but luckily I saw them before this happened.
My partner is going back to work in September (teaching in a secondary school) and we’d already come to an arrangement that when he goes back to work properly, I would go round there a couple of times a week as there probably won’t be any playgroups on etc and I’ll be alone with him all day everyday, which I’d really struggle with.
I’m just hoping these new restrictions will be lifted by September.
I’m also feeling so sad for my DS with all these changes and so once again he can’t see his grandparents for an unknown time limit although he saw them regularly before.

I'm sorry OP. Can you not see them outdoors, or is that against the rules? FWIW it should be much easier to get things under control if people act now, so hopefully the restrictions wont last long.

I'm sorry you are have such a tough time. I think you may be able to meet outdoors - I'm waiting for further clarity tomorrow.

It’s saying you can’t even meet in gardens.

Does anyone think these restrictions will still be in place come September?

No, and they're unenforceable now.

Can you meet outside some where. If gardens are not permitted maybe a l8cal park/beauty spot/walk?
Not ideal or first choice and reliant on reasonable weather but better than nothing.
I think we need to grab what we can when we can.

I’m sorry op. I’m with you on the feeling sad. We were meant to be bringing my son to see his grandparents this weekend, they’ve only seen him twice since he was born but they live in the affected area. It is to far for us to do the trip in a day so that is off. We would of gone sooner but my husband is a key worker and this is the first weekend he has had off since you were allowed to stay overnight. Disappointed doesn’t even begin to cover it. Sending hugs and hopefully the restrictions will lift soon for you.

Tui agree with comment grab what you can, while you can. I'm sorry your suffering from pNd too. If clarity tomorrow says you can meet up in parks etc then I would make plans to do that.

Can you do house party or zoom too? If you set drinks up before and just go about over a coffee or wine it can be almost as good as the real thing. Just try to plan in things on certain days each week so you have something to look forward to. Your not alone, that's for sure

I’m sorry OP, sounds like a very tough situation. If I were you I would continue to see them, if they are happy to, as an exclusive bubble, even if it’s just in the garden. Mental health is health and that is what you need to stay well.

I’m so sorry. It really is unfair. Both mine and dh’s families live in two of the affected boroughs. We live just outside so aren’t under restrictions but we might as well be as everyone we see live in affected boroughs so we can’t visit them and they can’t visit us. Hopefully it will be like Leicester and only last a few weeks.

Oh darling I feel for you
If your mental health is suffering try calling no panic and anxiety UK

Thank you everyone.
I’ve spoken to my partner today and if the restrictions are still in place in September then I will still go to my theirs with my DS as I will not be able to cope and I’m assuming I’d be classed as vulnerable due to my mental health conditions.

Would this situation not be classed as a support bubble and therefore exempt?

Can you not move in with them and let your DH have your house?

That way you get some support and company while DH is working

I think you could still meet and go for a walk outside are there any nice places nearby to do that?