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People coming back from Spain but not quarantining and planning social events with pregnant women, wtaf?

34 replies

Crapster · 30/07/2020 13:16

Someone I know has just come back from Spain (been living there for the last year, got home on Monday) and gone straight back into a social life for herself and her 3 DC "because they've all missed everyone so much" (return was meant to be in April but delayed due to Covid).

She's just invited me to a SURPRISE BABY SHOWER she's decided to organise for her pregnant sister this weekend which she will be attending along with all 3 of her DC Shock

Obviously I've said I won't be going and asked why she isn't quarantining and she just said that where she was in Spain there were not many cases so she doesn't think it's necessary.

Would you warn the sister? I don't think she knows it is happening and she might rather avoid someone who's meant to be in quarantine!

OP posts:
Dellow · 30/07/2020 13:26

Well hopefully no one else will want to go
either if they know she has just come back from Spain. People like this are infuriating but you can’t reason with stupid.....

1990shopefulftm · 30/07/2020 13:30

Yes I d warn the sister, ruins any surprise but she's fully informed to make the decision if she wants to take the risk herself.

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Crapster · 30/07/2020 13:43

You'd think wouldn't you @Dellow but everyone is saying they can't wait and that it be fine because it's being held outside... I get the feeling I'm being seen as a party pooping misery!

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lunar1 · 30/07/2020 13:46

I'd warn the sister, loudly via Facebook where everyone will see. The blood selfish asshole.

Lostnameperson · 30/07/2020 13:52

Does she also know she can be fined £1000?

Does she also remember Matt Hancock saying that they hadn’t ruled out enforced quarantine? This is where we’ll end up due to deluded selfish people like your friend.

Jrobhatch29 · 30/07/2020 13:56

Can you not have a quiet word with her about how she is potentially putting her sister at risk and you are worried? She may reconsider and postpone the baby shower. If not, then yeah I would probably warn the sister? I have had a baby during this and was extremely protective when I was pregnant

mrs2468 · 30/07/2020 13:59

When did she come back as if it’s before sat night at midnight it’s technically it’s allowed.

Lindy2 · 30/07/2020 14:07

How selfish of her.

I wouldn't be going and yes I would warn her sister. Hopefully her sister will feel protective enough of her unborn baby to say no to this. For godness sake they only have to wait 2 weeks to be able to go ahead with the party more safely. That's not really that much to ask.

Uhoh2020 · 30/07/2020 14:16

if the sister has already seen your friend or will do before Saturday its pointless telling her about the baby shower if they've already socialised together.
Also don't be a Karen announcing all over Facebook, its nothing to do with you don't get involved

SheepandCow · 30/07/2020 14:21

Unless she left her own car in the airport carpark, to avoid using trains, taxis, and buses, and drove straight home without stopping enroute (petrol, loo, snacks, etc) it's not a quarantine anyway.

mosquitofeast · 30/07/2020 14:24

report her to the police. You know it is going to happen, you will be culpable for any resulting deaths if you don't report her.

mosquitofeast · 30/07/2020 14:26

Also don't be a Karen announcing all over Facebook, its nothing to do with you don't get involved

Of course it is everything to do with the OP, and you, and me, and everyone else on the planet. We are at the start of a massive global pandemic, haven't you noticed?

Uhoh2020 · 30/07/2020 14:31

@mosquitofeast

report her to the police. You know it is going to happen, you will be culpable for any resulting deaths if you don't report her.
What a load of codswallop! You won't be culpable for anything, she will! We are only responsible for our own actions nobody else's don't get sucked into the covid curtain twitching police brigade. Stay out of it and keep away from her for a while, you haven't seen her for ages anyway another few weeks or months be too bad
cologne4711 · 30/07/2020 14:31

Also don't be a Karen announcing all over Facebook, its nothing to do with you don't get involve

Can you please stop using this name as an insult. If you think the OP is unreasonable to "announce it all over Facebook", then say so but don't insult every woman in the world called Karen.

As a pp said when did this lady return? If it was Saturday or earlier she doesn't need to quarantine. But presumably her sister knows she has been in Spain so she can make a decision whether to see her or not - baby shower or not.

cologne4711 · 30/07/2020 14:32

(and yes I know the baby shower is a surprise but presumably seeing her sister and three children isn't)

Jrobhatch29 · 30/07/2020 14:34

@mosquitofeast

report her to the police. You know it is going to happen, you will be culpable for any resulting deaths if you don't report her.
Dont be so dramatic!
mosquitofeast · 30/07/2020 14:36

What a load of codswallop! You won't be culpable for anything, she will!
We are only responsible for our own actions nobody else's don't get sucked into the covid curtain twitching police brigade.

I find it hard to believe how many people are so dense about this.

This is a killer virus.

We have to all act together to eradicate it.

If we don't millions will die

Calling people "curtain twitchers" for reporting neighbours is for extramarital affairs, benefit fraud, etc, not for a virus with the potential to wipe out a significant proportion of the population, and destroy our economies, security and way of life forever.

What don't you get?

Put away your self indulgent prissiness and get real.

Redolent · 30/07/2020 14:38

Those in the third trimester are considered high risk. So ignorant and selfish.

mosquitofeast · 30/07/2020 14:39

Dont be so dramatic!

This exactly illustrates the problem.

This is life or death.

There are people not used to being in this situation, who have trouble grasping that.

This is why England has the worst death rate - countries where people are more used to life and death situations have adapted far better and coped, and limited the spread far far better than we have.

Much of the country is still in total denial.

In a few years time, you will look back at statements like that and ask yourself why you didn't grasp the seriousness of the situation in time.

Uhoh2020 · 30/07/2020 14:40

@cologne4711

Also don't be a Karen announcing all over Facebook, its nothing to do with you don't get involve

Can you please stop using this name as an insult. If you think the OP is unreasonable to "announce it all over Facebook", then say so but don't insult every woman in the world called Karen.

As a pp said when did this lady return? If it was Saturday or earlier she doesn't need to quarantine. But presumably her sister knows she has been in Spain so she can make a decision whether to see her or not - baby shower or not.

OK then don't be that PERSON who announces it all over Facebook

apologies to anyone to called Karen*

Jrobhatch29 · 30/07/2020 14:43

@mosquitofeast

Dont be so dramatic!

This exactly illustrates the problem.

This is life or death.

There are people not used to being in this situation, who have trouble grasping that.

This is why England has the worst death rate - countries where people are more used to life and death situations have adapted far better and coped, and limited the spread far far better than we have.

Much of the country is still in total denial.

In a few years time, you will look back at statements like that and ask yourself why you didn't grasp the seriousness of the situation in time.

You are saying someone is cuplible for someone's hypothetical death. Not necessary. I am not in denial about covid. I said to the poster she should warn the sister. Even if she doesnt, she is not responsible for her very very small chance of death.
Uhoh2020 · 30/07/2020 14:56

@mosquitofeast its you that needs to get real my love, suggesting that the OP is responsible of another person's actions is just ridiculous.

Original poster
Crapster · 30/07/2020 16:14

"don't be a Karen by announcing it all over Facebook" I'm sorry what? It was a WhatsApp group she set up to organise the baby shower and she specifically asked me, in the group, if I could come. So I told her the truth Confused

And as for when she got back, it's in the first paragraph of my OP. She got home on Monday.

OP posts:
Uhoh2020 · 30/07/2020 16:20

@Crapster

"don't be a Karen by announcing it all over Facebook" I'm sorry what? It was a WhatsApp group she set up to organise the baby shower and she specifically asked me, in the group, if I could come. So I told her the truth Confused

And as for when she got back, it's in the first paragraph of my OP. She got home on Monday.

My response about announcing it on Facebook was to a PP who suggested you should not in response to your initial thread. Has your friend seen her sister already or will she before the said baby shower?
Porcupineinwaiting · 30/07/2020 16:25

How pregnant is the sister? COVID can be quite dangerous late pregnancy.