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Anyone else just really struggling right now...

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Dickorydockwhatthe · 28/07/2020 23:35

It just seems to be endless, nothing to look forward to not even Christmas. Weather has turned miserable and I just feel like I'm going stir crazy with it all. The kids are even looking forward to going back to school.

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wildthingsinthenight · 30/07/2020 07:48

Thanks Defenbaker
It definitely is not helping. I'm one of these long haulers and still have zero energy and pain in my hands arms and feet which I am taking painkillers for. Been referred to a clinic and just waiting for a date
It is just adding to the general mood of "What's the point?"

megletthesecond · 30/07/2020 08:16

I just cried because stonehenge is on the news and we'd usually be back and forth past it every other week during the summer I am the weirdo that has a soft spot for the A303. Not seen it since Feb .

HelloMissus · 30/07/2020 08:32

Up and down here.
My industry is in tatters (film and TV) and my business is teeetering on the edge.
My foster children’s teachers just abandoned them really - that was awful.

Lalallama · 30/07/2020 09:54

These feelings seem to be worryingly common, where we live mental health support is virtually non existent and I really wish the government would listen - we have the covid crisis now to deal with but the mental health crisis could end up being just as bad if support isn't put in place.

People often say, all you have to do is sit at home, it's not hard, stop moaning. But it's so much more than that - working while simultaneously caring for children, fear about being made redundant, how we'll pay the bills, fear about loved ones getting seriously ill from the virus, worrying that there will be a second wave, plus Brexit to add to the stress, it feels never ending.

Ironically I have more chance of getting ill from covid now than I did before lockdown. Then I ran and cycled almost every day and was a healthy weight. Now I don't have time to exercise as I have to catch up with work in the evenings, I'm drinking and eating too much and I'm overweight.

IrmaFayLear · 30/07/2020 10:05

I honestly feel like we’re all fucked anyway so why bother hiding. I’ve been reading the “scary” threads linking to studies showing that if we get the virus it means male infertility, heart problems, as well as all the known side effects.

Some people can hide forever, but if you have older children, a job where you can’t wfh or just want to go out anywhere, you’re just marking time until it gets you and your family.

Taxes will have to rise to 80% for anyone still in work, our high streets and cities will be deserted and probably vandalised, and there will be mass unemployment of course. No more football, concerts, restaurants, pubs... just millions of people sitting waiting it out at home.

It feels like the end is nigh.

Railingsohno · 30/07/2020 19:32

Is this thread making people who feel low better or worse? I can see how it helps to know you’re not alone but also it’s very negative. Interested to know!

I’m feeling pretty good but had a horrible low point when Boris was ill. I feel pretty positive about the future. I’ve been able to slow down and appreciate life a bit more. Also having a few trips away has helped massively. And exercise.

to everyone. Wish I could help you.

purpleme12 · 30/07/2020 19:50

Well I don't think the post by @IrmaFayLear helped!

IrmaFayLear · 31/07/2020 08:53

Sorry! I was feeling panicky yesterday. I’ll try to get a grip. I’m not one of those twerps squealing for us all to stay in and saying “lives before economeeeeee” but the news from Europe was so depressing it sent me into a trough.

Railingsohno · 31/07/2020 09:09

@IrmaFayLear

Sorry! I was feeling panicky yesterday. I’ll try to get a grip. I’m not one of those twerps squealing for us all to stay in and saying “lives before economeeeeee”

but the news from Europe was so depressing it sent me into a trough.

I think you need to step away from the news and do something else! Lovely weather now - can you get out and get some fresh air, exercise? I find that focusing on nature helps. Hope you feel better -

wildthingsinthenight · 01/08/2020 19:01

Sending everyone on here ❤

Gendy5 · 01/08/2020 20:24

I live on my own in Greater Manchester - and the new rules mean that my previosly limited (due to CV) social life is now toyally dead. Yeah, I could be in a bubble but all my friends have family to 'bubble with'. And all my family live many miles away.

And I can't cope with face masks - I had to leave my trolley and walk out of Tesco early this week just to breathe (and avoid passing out).

So will I cope? No idea at the moment. I love hiking but I have a knee injury which is stopping me being out in the Peak District as much as I"d like. And most of the volunteering I do is still suspended.

So I really don't have a lot to live for anymore. And where I live, in Greater Manchester, has a lower infection rate than many places which don't have the new restrictions. So unfair ...

I doubt I will survive CV, but I also doubt it will be CV that sees me off.

FrolickingLemon · 01/08/2020 20:38

(With respect) I actually feel the opposite.
My Mum was diagnosed with bowel cancer in February. A week after lockdown she went into hospital for surgery. Was very ill. In ICU. I wasn't allowed to visit. When she was recovering, we chose not to ring each other as we knew it would be too emotional. We had to get the cat put down, which admittedly was pretty shit what with dropping the cat off in the car park outside the vets, then having her dead body returned to us at a distance. I'm a single parent. My 8 year old DD suffers with anxiety. It will probably get worse again when she returns to school. My Mums friend died of Covid when she was in hospital. That was pretty shit too. And last week we found a lump in my Mums abdomen. I've had the week from hell thinking it was another tumour. Turned out to be a hernia. I know people are struggling, and I get that. But I am just so fucking happy to be alive and that my Mum is still alive.

At the start of all this, my Mum said "what a time to get cancer, like it's not shit enough" Her surgeon saved her life. I will remember 2020 as a difficult year, I've shed tears and struggled with home schooling, but the positives are there, if you look for them.

wildthingsinthenight · 01/08/2020 23:54

Irma hope you're feeling better today.

Gendy5 I hear you about face masks. I've found the paper ones are a bit better than the cloth ones. Lighter.
I'm sorry you feel so low. I know it's hard but hang in there. Hope today was a bit brighter for you.

Jellykat · 02/08/2020 00:10

Really struggling at the moment, and have been for so long..
So even though i've lost my major income, i've borrowed money to see a Counsellor and start next week.. I just know i can't carry on like this for much longer!

wildthingsinthenight · 02/08/2020 00:14

Jellykat that's brilliant news about the counselling. Really positive step. Well done

C33P0 · 02/08/2020 00:19

Yes. I feel like I see all these people socialising and having fun in pubs on the news, and then lots of friends and family breaking the rules by meeting up e.g. three households going on holiday together. I'm furloughed, and while it is lovely to have this extra time with my children, I feel quite socially isolated being with them 24/7 with little adult social contact. I was due to visit my mum soon, but she lives in an area where restrictions have been tightened so I can no longer go.

I will try and meet up with a couple of friends locally, but it's tough as I think most people want to stick to close social contacts only.

Jellykat · 02/08/2020 00:32

Thank you so much Wildthings!
Lockdown dragged up so much trauma for reasons other then Covid, and i had such dark thoughts, which still pop up at the drop of a hat.. need a mental exorcism, or failing that ways of dealing with them other then taking to my bed.. Hope shes shit hot at her job, shes gonna need to be!

Pillypocket666 · 02/08/2020 00:40

I am starting to struggle. DP company is going under and mine swiftly following. We live in small village in Scotland. Not a lot of jobs out there as it is never mind the massive increase to unemployment that is about 2 months away. I want things to restart. This isn't going away so we need to learn to live with it and I guess hope for the best. I am autoimmune and very overweight due to medical issues so I am at a higher risk but I would rather take the chance than this "not living".

DressingGownofDoom · 02/08/2020 01:07

I'm finding this bit hard. At least during lockdown we were all in it together, the streets were virtually empty, all you could hear was bird song, everyone was trying their best and we all knew what the rules were. We were all afraid.

Now we are being pushed back into the workplace, people are filling up shops and pubs, the pandemic is still out there and infections are rising but not many people seem to be scared of it anymore. I see people calling it a 'scamdemic' and we need to just learn to live with it, but 46,000 people have died in just a few months?

wildthingsinthenight · 02/08/2020 10:17

Yes this bit is harder for me mentally too. I agree. People's mistrust of the government means they are doing their own risk assessments and taking chances.
My dad's shielding paused testerday snd thet have a busy week planned next week ugh. It's a worry.
Hope you are all okish rhis morning. I am in the garden with a cup of tea reading and writing my journal. Hoping my day goes smoothly...

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