Covid test..... No reply from childminder.. Bit off??

[MrsWarleggan]

My two girls were due to go the childminder tomorrow. My youngest has had a snotty nose for the past 3-4 days. No temp, no cough. Today she was holding her ear and temp of 39. Called DR as thought she may have an ear infection. As soon as I said temp he automatically said self isolate for 2 weeks, and book tests for all the family as this was the current guidelines. I booked tests for later in the afternoon but text the childminder at around 4 to say the girls wouldn't be going as we are having to test, but 99.9% sure it is just an ear infection/tail end of a cold. She has read the message but absolutely no reply. She's normally really really quick at replying but absolutely nothing. I know we are not her world, but when LO has been poorly in the past there has always been a "aww bless her hope she feels better soon etc" but nothing to this one. I feel like she's really pissed at me (I know she probably isn't), but God I hate text messages sometimes. I tend to overthink things. But would anyone else be a bit: "Oh, OK then!"???

Does she look after other children as well? She might just be a bit stressed about the potential impact on her if she has to tell other parents there's been a positive test and that they all need to isolate? Since you say that normally she'd respond nicely I might let this time go.

She is probably just busy dont overthink it.

Give her a chance. Depending on when your dc was last with her, you giving her the news about the test could have thrown her for a loop. It implies she could have just been exposed herself, and I know you're certain it's not going to turn out to be covid, but she's not going to have that certainty. She could be worried about actually having caught covid or just about her business, her family, her partner's work and so on. It's not quite the same as a message that your dc won't be in in normal times.

I don't understand how people this sensitive manage to operate on a day to day basis.

Maybe she’s just busy. They arnt going in so I can’t see why she needs to reply urgently or be all gushing over the ‘tail end of a cold’. I think you are overthinking it

You only messaged her at 4 - she's probably had dinner to cook, bedtimes for her kids if she has any, tidying up... she's literally probably just sat down. I think you are over thinking it possibly. Maybe she wants to check the guidelines before she replies or something, I wouldnt worry.

Hope your little one is better soon!

What time did you text? If anyone texts me after 4:30 I might read and mentally make a note to replay later after dinner, bath, bed etc has happened. And all too often I then forget and respond once I ve been sat down with a cup of tea for an hour

She’s probably thinking “oh FFS if it’s positive I have to shut for two weeks...and going into a panic about it.” I dare say she’ll collect her thoughts and reply later, but you can surely see how stressful this would be for someone facing a lack of income for two weeks, or losing clients as a result.

@Michaelbaubles

Yes absolutely stressful and totally understand. As a pp correctly mentioned I can get a bit sensitive about people not replying to me... Especially when I've given them potentially bad news as I really hate pissing people off!! ... I would have been happy with a "Oh FFS, thanks for nothing!"