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Children and masks.

97 replies

QueenofmyPrinces · 25/07/2020 14:21

Is anyone using masks for their young children?

I’m referring particularly to children aged 5, 6, 7 etc

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pigoons · 25/07/2020 23:07

All those who have posted here with children who wear glasses- how on earth do your children's glasses not steam up? DS wants a visor it is so bad for him

BKCRMP · 25/07/2020 23:09

My 5.5 is exempt regardless of age and wouldn't anyway. We've gone down the playtherapy route since masks were becoming more widespread as she has a real genuine thing about faces being covered so the fact she is no longer clawing mine off my face is progress

Fantasisa · 25/07/2020 23:12

My DC will not be wearing masks. It is a shame for DD, 12, as she was just getting into shopping. I think this will be terrible for the High Street, it turns it into even more of an ordeal. I will only go in and out to get what is absolutely necessary. Children are not at risk of Covid and should not be compelled to wear something that is not proven and likely to be completely ineffective in a fake attempt to reassure people that the government is taking action.

GachaBread · 25/07/2020 23:21

Funny thing is.... most of your under 11s as mine too will be back in school September maskless and around 20 to 30 other maskless children for 6 hours a day. The government states that under 11s do not need to wear them.
So if your child wears one now their will be many curious questions from your little ones why they do not have to wear one in school. Most schools start back in 6 weeks.
Or as parents or guardians will you make them wear one at school too?

Thistly · 25/07/2020 23:38

have to walk around with their faces covered and them knowing that if they don’t then potentially they may get a dangerous virus.
I have worn a mask when shopping throughout this crisis, not because it will protect me, but because it stops me spreading the virus if i have it and am asymptomatic.
It’s not ideal for people to have to wear masks, but I would have thought as a nurse you’d appreciate that the general public are being asked to wear masks to protect others, rather than to avoid getting the infection yourself.

Thistly · 25/07/2020 23:48

Gacha, shopping and schooling are two very different activities... wearing masks will impede communication and education, also schooling is a crucial activity for children to participate in.

Children don't need to go shopping. Sometimes they have to come with adults when they can’t be left safely, and if they wear a mask it isn’t going to affect their participation.

My young child hasn’t worn a mask yet. He hasn’t been anywhere where it would have been appropriate. If he did need to go for medical appt etc, he’ll be trying it out. The older kids don’t have a problem with it.

I’m glad masks is a thing now, as people are crap at social distancing in shops. I’m sad to hear shops have taken measures away, op, i’m sure that’s not the point of asking people to wear masks. Which shops can I ask?

BilbyBlue · 25/07/2020 23:53

My 3 and 8 year olds wear them for hours at a time. It's fine.

GachaBread · 26/07/2020 00:22

@Thistly ok if you say so. They are making secondary school children wear them so what's the difference. Parents here are telling their children that wearing masks are to protect others, that they need to be worn in enclosed places, a classroom is just that surrounded by up to 30 other children who at the end of the day will go home to their families. None of us will know what others are doing nor what their hygiene practices are. Many kids come to school with illnesses, nits, colds and schools are a hotbed for such things.
It's the holidays now so more and more children are out in shops, here and their out and about so if they are being told they must mask up in public places then when September comes their will be a lot of confused children, even some fearful as to why they are not being told too mask up. It might not be confusing to some children but not all children are wise enough to know the difference. Young children learn from us and copy what we do.
The law only came into force on Friday and if I was going to make my children mask up I would have done it long ago not on a magic date plucked out of thin air after 40000 plus had to die. I see no need for mine to wear them but I do not judge others as I do not know their circumstances.
If your going to make your young children mask up then you need to educate them why it is in their best interests and why some places it is acceptable to wear one and why others it might be a bit more relaxed. Children have fragile minds and with so much conflicting and confusing rules and restrictions out their not to mention all the fake news flying about we need to get it right for our children's sake.
Will young children socially distance at school?
Will parents still send their children into school when they are sick so they can go to work?
Each to their own but if your going to implement a rule implement it well or what really is the point?

Nobodyputsdaisyinthecorner · 26/07/2020 01:53

Yes. They get excited about wearing them though so there’s no forcing. I think it helps that they know friends and family their age in other countries Have been wearing them for ages. They were a bit sad when I told them they don’t HAVE to wear them. So they do.

QueenofmyPrinces · 26/07/2020 07:12

It’s not ideal for people to have to wear masks, but I would have thought as a nurse you’d appreciate that the general public are being asked to wear masks to protect others, rather than to avoid getting the infection yourself.

Of course I know this - everyone knows this whether they’re a nurse or not. Although I’m pretty sure recent guidance is saying masks have been shown to offer protection to the wearer too, not just everyone else.

I don’t want to have to tell my 6 year old that the reason he has to wear the mask is because he might already have the germs and it’s to stop him giving them to someone else. He will be very upset/fearful if he thinks he has Covid because he knows the severity of it. I can just imagine him being too scared to come near me or his little brother for fear of giving it to us if he has it, or fear that he’s going to die or something. He will probably then want to wear his mask around the house so he can’t pass his Covid germs on to me or his dad for fear of us dying from them or something.

He will probably then start asking why if he has to wear one, why doesn’t his younger brother? Asking why it doesn’t matter if his brother gives someone the virus yet it’s a problem if he does?

These are very young children and like another poster said, the rules and logic behind the masks can potentially be very confusing to them - they don’t have the same ability to reason and understand that us adults do.

Plus, with such young children wearing masks it is obviously going to start my son asking questions in September as to why he doesn’t have to wear them at school....as in, why doesn’t it matter if he gives his virus to his friends? If I then try and explain that children don’t get as poorly if they get the virus he will then be asking why, if it’s only grown up people that get poorly, why doesn’t it matter if he gives his virus germs to his teachers and dinner ladies?

I imagine preparation for schools returning is part of the reason why government are saying masks are not necessary for under 11s, but with so many parents still making their young children wear them, then of course it’s going to raise a lot of questions and issues come September when children start asking why masks aren’t needed in school but are everywhere else.

We all know that young children ask question after question after question in order to try and understand things, and of course all the “why, why, why” questions that we as their parents are posed.

Like I said earlier, my friend is so anxious and makes her 5 year old wear a mask everywhere......I genuinely can’t see how she will be able to send her child back to school without her wearing a mask because she’s so fearful of the virus being out there and making her daughter ill. I imagine, after 6 weeks of not leaving the house without a mask on, her child may also feel worried about suddenly being around everyone at school and no masks being worn.

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ginsparkles · 26/07/2020 07:19

My 8 year old wears one. She has the choice and chooses that she wants to.

QueenofmyPrinces · 26/07/2020 07:30

My 8 year old wears one. She has the choice and chooses that she wants to.

For what reason does she think she wears it?

And how have you addressed it in terms of why she won’t have to wear one at school?

I’m not being goady at all - just genuinely interested in what is being told to the children regarding why they have to wear them out and about but won’t have to in school?

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midnightstar66 · 26/07/2020 07:37

My dd7 is wearing snoods or a folded bandana like a fashion accessory matching it to her outfit. If we forget though she wears a mask with no problems

BatleyTownswomensGuild · 26/07/2020 07:41

My son has one. It's a bit hit and miss getting him to wear it but I want him to get used to the idea, because I suspect they will be around for a while...:

missingmum · 26/07/2020 07:44

No, my children are both under 11 and my 8 year old has developed anxiety after seeing a man with a mask that had a joker type twisted smile on it, was quite scary and thought it inappropriate.

Have seen lots of kids wearing them though, mainly incorrectly, or fiddling around with them.

midnightstar66 · 26/07/2020 07:53

It doesn't matter if your dc fiddle with the masks a bit. They are there just to catch some of your coughs and sneezes in public not as a medical aid in a covid ward. It's no coincidence I'm sure that those with the children terrified of masks have parents who are resistant to their use. Why the need for long deep conversations for 5 year olds - just make it in to a bit of a game, go shopping as a super hero or a bandit as shops have a bigger mix of people it's safer for everyone.

AnotherEmma · 26/07/2020 07:55

I feel very strongly that children shouldn't have to wear masks, especially children aged 5 and under and children of any age with physical/mental health conditions or disabilities that make it difficult or unwise for them to wear one.

However, I did buy a cloth mask for my DS (aged 3) just in case we ever had to use it. Interestingly in a couple of recent situations when the adults have worn masks, he wanted to wear his too (to be the same, I guess) and did wear it for a little while, but then decided he wanted to take it off - so we took it off. There's no way I'd insist if he didn't want to wear it.

In terms of explaining why, I just said that sometimes the grown ups have to wear masks and he doesn't have to but he can if he wants. I have completely downplayed coronavirus to him because I don't want him anxious about it. I also think the risks are minuscule anyway (community rates are very low and we are not in a "hotspot" area).

QueenofmyPrinces · 26/07/2020 08:08

Why the need for long deep conversations for 5 year olds

Because they ask questions and I think that we should answer children’s questions as honestly as possible.

My son has worn a face mask once because I keep a supply at home due to work. He wasn’t fussed about it, he found it funny, ran around wearing it for about 10 seconds, then took it off and has never mentioned it again.

I haven’t made him wear one when we go out and I haven’t suggested it to him either. He has seen adults wear them but he doesn’t think anything of it. Thankfully he hasn’t seen any children wearing them so he hasn’t broached the subject.

I have to say I’m genuinely surprised by how many people on here say their young children are wearing them even though it’s not required. Especially as they know the children won’t be wearing them at school anyway.

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Grufallosfriends · 26/07/2020 08:17

Children will happily wear them if they see their parents and other children wear face masks. Our GP surgery requires anyone over 2 to wear a mask. It's generally not a problem.

midnightstar66 · 26/07/2020 08:18

But realistically they would be wearing one for 5 minutes once a week or whatever when popping in to the occasional shop so it's not going to be a huge shock when they don't wear one at school. Yes they ask questions but you don't need to go in to huge detail. I'm in Scotland so both my dc are required. Dd10 stays outside or at home with the puppy though so she's never worn one. Dd7 comes in with me so she does.

Grufallosfriends · 26/07/2020 08:19

I have to say I’m genuinely surprised by how many people on here say their young children are wearing them even though it’s not required

Masks can prevent the spread of the virus even if the wearer is asymptotic or presymptomatic.

Jent13c · 26/07/2020 08:20

I have a DS3 who I haven't gone into great detail about covid to. He knows theres a virus making people poorly and we couldn't see Grandma for a while. We are in Scotland so have been wearing masks for a while and under 5s exempt. I bought a cloth pack of 8 with 2 kids masks and I put it on him the first day and he was quite unsure but we the shop assistant said how cute he was matching mummy and he was delighted and asks for it now.
I'm a nurse too and I'm just a little worried that he may have it from my work and then be spreading so I'd like him to wear a mask if he tolerates. We only go to a shop once a week and if he takes it off midway then I just put it away but generally he likes it.
The baby obviously doesnt wear a mask but right at the beginning of lockdown an old man coughed right on the pram so now I keep the raincover on and zip it up if we nip into a shop.

Nappyvalley15 · 26/07/2020 08:25

My age exempt dc won't be wearing masks. I don't want them to be anxious about such a teeny tiny risk. We practice social distancing and hand washing but I have made it clear to them that young children are not a high risk group.

I don't know how the masked up children will process being in non-masked schools come September.

Sheenais · 26/07/2020 08:25

@SkinSkin

No, no need. It's not law, therefore they won't. And for what it's worth I disagree with everyone being forced to do it, because it's stopping people social distancing now, which is far better in my mind.

Plus my 7 year old finds it all a bit spooky, it's bad enough for him that his parents and all the other adults are doing it. It's made him talk about Covid A LOT, whereas he didn't before.

And people were social distancing adequately before? 😂 Do you watch the news? Your 7 year old can be easily reassured. Why have you not done this before? Talking about it is absolutely fine, healthier than not. Just reassure him about masks because it is not going away for a while.
Thistly · 26/07/2020 08:33

I really can’t get exercised about this.
Wearing a mask is a simple thing that can be done which helps prevent the spread.
When we have a government who has dilly dallied over testing, delayed the lockdown in the first place and demonstrated incompetence and cronyism throughout this crisis, after months of prevarication over masks.....

I didn’t know that about secondary schools gacha. My kids’ secondary has told us that kids will be expected to wear masks on buses but not in school.

Which shops is it again, op which have dropped social distancing measures? So that I can avoid them.

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