Feeling chronically lonely

[Anewmum2018]

Sorry- know that everyone is suffering right now, but just wanted to reach out for solidarity.

I’ve been feeling so low and I think it’s lonliness, even though I actually see more people than most. My family are close by and I can see them now, my husband works from home, and I go into the office a couple of times a week (albeit to work alone). I look after my little boy two days a week, but he’s not talking yet.

I feel so goddamn lonely. I miss just chatting with colleagues. I miss casually seeing friends and chatting to mums at baby groups. I miss having time to actually chat with my husband instead of just collapsing that the end of another samey day.

Is anyone else feeling this way? It almost feels worse than full lockdown because I can’t see it changing. Working from home is here to stay. Playgroups might never return like they were, and it feels hard to reach out to other mums now because everyone’s personal circumstances are all over the place.

And I guess corona has made me realise that I actually don’t have as many friends as I thought, or people close by.

Sorry this is very poor-me. Just feeling lonely and blue

Hi OP, I didn’t want to read & run (but I have to.
I could have written your post.
I have never felt more alone in my life. I would love someone to message me for a coffee or a quick drink.
I sat in my car & cried yesterday & today I cried when Elvie Presley played on the radio.
I’ll be back 💐 for you

I don't feel quite like that. But I think there's an element of grieving for the life we used to have. Although I was quite often lonely as a new mum even without lockdown.

How old is your DC?
I'd say reach out to other mums or parents (either ones you know, or through SM - local FB groups?) & see if anyone would like to meet up - socially distanced of course.
If you have pre-mobile DC this is much easier of course. If not, see how they feel about children mixing.
Does your DC go to nursery? Could you meet up with any of those families?

I feel similarly. But I realised I’ve actually felt this way for a long time, and it’s coming from within. I too actually do see people and have loved ones. Having a baby can be a lonely time, generally. Could you have PPD? I think I might, irs just taken lockdown to realise it.

Thanks all. Yes I did have PND pretty badly until my baby was about one. He’s nearly two now, so it could be a bit of that still. I think maybe it’s just a bit of sadness too that I was finally getting my life back together after maternity leave and now things have gone back to the endless blur of time.
Think I just miss casual chats more than anything! I know everyone’s in the same boat. Mumsnet has definitely become a substitute friend!

There's a phrase for it isn't there, all those casual chats and tiny little interactions that add up and have a big impact on our wellbeing via feeling part of the community.

I can't remember what it's called.

But Mumsnet is definitely being it for me to some extent. It's replacing all those slivers of break room conversations that you have while you make tea. Or brief chats in the office loo while you sort your hair out it something