Not a Dementor or an Anti Dementor - Just Plodding

[Jumblebumblemess]

There must be more people like me who are not a complete dementor with corona or not a complete anti dementor when it comes to what we are living through.

I have worn masks since March, I have no issue with wearing them even though I am partially deaf. I have stuck to the rules and now things are opening up I am making personal risk assessments for myself and my family. My daughter is back in nursery, my Mum is still shielding, we are both still working from home and we just plod on with life as close to normal as it can be at the moment. We went to a theme park last weekend, it was great with masks and extra hand washing.

I know we can't be the only ones just plodding through life at the moment.

Yep I'm with you. It feels a bit joyless a lot of the time but there are moments of brilliance and real happiness mixed in like gems, when I feel proper delight or have a really good laugh or a good chat with a friend. Those moments feel few and far between but they are there.
Generally I'm getting my head down and grimly pushing through.
And sometimes I cry and feel real despair. I think it's all normal, as reactions go.

Hi! We're on holiday seeing family. We've walked up and down the near deserted beach and going to the farm later for DS to look round, staying in PIL empty flat. I wear a mask, but only indoors. Toddler DS is allowed to play with a couple of selected friends and hug his grandparents. Hugging grandparents is their choice, they know he sees little friends but kids catch covid less and cases are low, I don't think it's up to me to police his grandparents' safety because they're grown adults. Also my cleaner is back, woohoo, and we got a first takeaway in months last week. We rarely actually go into any other buildings with WFH, online deliveries for most stuff and I kept a decent distance outside from my friend who works on covid wards when we met for a chat with no hugs, her choice as much as mine because she feels she is an infection risk. A few friends and family have come to see us in the garden, distancing except DS and his friend.

@RhubarbTea it can feel a bit soulless sometimes, but I kind of feel everyone has taken these 2 sides, either we must fear this virus at all costs or we must go out and ridicule anyone who fears the virus as its a nothing and all a conspiracy to control us. I feel a little alone sometimes in the middle ground of respect the virus, personally risk assess and do what we feel comfortable with.

[quote Jumblebumblemess]@RhubarbTea it can feel a bit soulless sometimes, but I kind of feel everyone has taken these 2 sides, either we must fear this virus at all costs or we must go out and ridicule anyone who fears the virus as its a nothing and all a conspiracy to control us. I feel a little alone sometimes in the middle ground of respect the virus, personally risk assess and do what we feel comfortable with.[/quote]
I think you are trying to put people into a group that doesn't really exist. I am guessing that this is a TAAT and if it is you have completely misunderstood. No one has denied covid but there are other things that matter that are not covid. Concerns about the current laws and the government encouraging people to police mask wearing is not talking about a "conspiracy to control us all."

[quote Jumblebumblemess]@RhubarbTea it can feel a bit soulless sometimes, but I kind of feel everyone has taken these 2 sides, either we must fear this virus at all costs or we must go out and ridicule anyone who fears the virus as its a nothing and all a conspiracy to control us. I feel a little alone sometimes in the middle ground of respect the virus, personally risk assess and do what we feel comfortable with.[/quote]
That's pretty much describing the Anti Dementor view. There are all shades on there, just trying to navigate the path through this super weird time without losing the plot.

I'm with you although I haven't worn masks and have absolutely no intention to unless I go in a shop or a medical appt. But I don't go shopping anyway except for the food shop. And then it will be a buff.

I have absolutely zero interest in it all really. I've followed most rules. Broken some after Dominic decided he wasn't going to follow his own rules
Life is pretty much normal. My kids have been at school. I'm supposed to be shielding but have chosen not to as I'd rather just have a normal life.

Every single one of my friends is the same. I don't know anyone in real life who has any opinions like i see here on Mumsnet.

I, and everyone I know is pretty respectful of the rules, don't go in anyone elses way when out etc, but as soon as things have opened up we have made full opportunity of everything.

I have very little worry over Corona other than I have many many chronic illnesses but I would rather just take my chances

Me too

I follow all the rules and support them, always wear masks in shops (I'm in Germany)
I don't believe the silly "it's just flu" or "herd immunity" strategy
I definitely don't believe in conspiracy theories

However, despite being 64, I go to the gym 5 days per week
and eat out a few times weekly in restaurants, but outside only.

I went to the hairdresser & dental checkup as normal
I've never shopped for recreation - it's boring - so just kept my brief biweekly visit

Even during lockdown, I enjoyed multiple daily walks and sitting on benches by the Rhine (all allowed here)

I've cancelled my plans for trips around Germany, as these would require public transport

I am bumbling around the middle ground too. Worried about covid. Also worrying about the impact of lockdown. I'm surprised people are able to so confidently take an extreme side when this is such a new and unusual situation with new information coming in all the time and scientists in disagreement over some key areas and countries all handling it differently. I have never been more on the fence about anything my whole life!

Oh and I've never washed shopping
or bought used sanitiser,
except when there is some at the entrance to somewhere I'm going

I just wash hands well whenever I come home
(I've no car, just walk & cycle everywhere)

bought / used sanitiser !

I think this is the postion of 90% of the population. Certainly everyone i know.
I think honestly all the uncertainty is media driven. Like masks most don't care and don't have strong opinions. A few might but it is their voices we hear over everyone else saying it's fine.
It's such a fake narrative that we are all divided over masks, people wear them on transport and in shops as far as i can see and on the street too. No one seems that bothered either way! Everyone just doing there thing.

@sashagabadon

I think this is the postion of 90% of the population. Certainly everyone i know. I think honestly all the uncertainty is media driven. Like masks most don't care and don't have strong opinions. A few might but it is their voices we hear over everyone else saying it's fine. It's such a fake narrative that we are all divided over masks, people wear them on transport and in shops as far as i can see and on the street too. No one seems that bothered either way! Everyone just doing there thing.

Only on Mumsnet are there strong opinions as far as I can see. Other than one person I know in real life who has been so militant and REALLY nasty with it I'm not bothering with them anymore. All I can see in real life is a mutual respect for whatever opinion someone has and everyone just getting on with it .

Exactly a tiny few might be militant but everyone just follows the rules.
The media wanted division over masks as it give them something to fill their air time and column inches. Bbc 4 did a vox pop this morning somewhere and it was full of people saying it's fine, whatever. You just know they were desperate to find someone anti mask to interview but obviously couldn't. Previous piece was full of hiw masks are so divisive and the new battle ground. They are really not! And then the vox pox after with everyone saying meh!
They'll move on to something else we are all apparently furious about soon

The majority of people are in the middle of course.

Incidentally the anti dementor threads arent denying that covid exists. The vast majority of posters on there are following social distancing rules etc. but they also discuss the fact that schools should be open, grandparents should be able to hug kids for mental health reasons and so on, without being shouted down that covid is the only thing which matters right now.